How Could You? Hall of Shame–Robert Gaskill UPDATED

By on 2-05-2012 in Abuse in adoption, Abuse in foster care, How could you? Hall of Shame, Illinois, Robert Gaskill

How Could You? Hall of Shame–Robert Gaskill UPDATED

This will be an archive of heinous actions by those involved in child welfare, foster care and adoption. We forewarn you that these are deeply disturbing stories that may involve sex abuse, murder, kidnapping and other horrendous actions.

From River Forest, Illinois, adoptive and foster parent Robert L. Gaskill, 63, was charged on Friday, February 3, 2012 with sexual abuse of two girls. He has been foster parent to about 75 children, most with disabilities. “In 2009, the Gaskills had 12 children, four biological, six adopted and two in foster care.”

He “was ordered held Saturday in lieu of $50 million full cash bond by Judge Gregory P. Vasquez.
In bond court Saturday, prosecutors said Gaskill sexually abused two adolescent girls over a period from 1996 to 2009.

He is scheduled to be arraigned at 9 a.m. Thursday, Feb. 9, at the Maybrook Courthouse in Maywood. Sources said the case is expected to go to a grand jury for possible formal indictment.

A River Forest detective assisted by members of the WEDGE task force arrested Gaskill at his home Thursday. On Friday the Cook County State’s Attorney approved two counts of predatory criminal sexual assault, which is a Class X felony.

Gaskill and his wife have operated a foster care service in their large three-story frame home on Ashland Avenue, and a foster care support system called Tapestry Chicago. He also served on the board of the River Forest Youth Soccer program and was a program coordinator in the late 1990s.

Gaskill currently works as the marketing director at Lydia Home in Chicago, a residential facility for abused children. He previously worked for Mercy Home for Boys and Girls in Chicago.

Gaskill is also a former publisher of the Oak Leaves/Pioneer Press West Group, where he worked for 16 years until the mid 1980s. Following that, he was the president and publisher of Chicago Catholic Publications, which publishes the Chicago Archdiocese’s official newspaper, the New World.

Gaskill was not currently an employee of the Catholic New World or New World Publications, Archdiocese of Chicago spokeswoman Susan Burritt said Saturday. She did not immediately have any information on when he had served as publisher for Chicago Catholic Publications.

In a 2009 interview with the Forest Leaves, Gaskill said he and his wife had “been opening their home to foster children for about 15 years.” Many of them had disabilities of some kind.”
One-Time Religious Publisher, Foster Parent Charged With Sex Abuse Of Two Girls
[CBS Chicago 2/4/12]

River Forest foster parent charged with sexual abuse
[Sun Times 2/4/12 by Bill Dwyer]

REFORM Puzzle Piece

Another sick case where there was no accountability before, during or after placements.

Update: “The large home on Ashland Avenue is surrounded by a white picket fence, the only fenced-in yard on the block. Curtains and makeshift drapes cover all of the home’s windows. A pan of baked goods and a note from a well-wisher remain on the front porch.

Neighbors say it’s a startling contrast to the usual daily activity at the home in the 600 block of Ashland Avenue, typically filled with children playing and friends of the well-known Gaskill family dropping by.

But since shocking allegations of sexual abuse surfaced over the weekend, the three-story home has been empty.

“I have always, always loved children, and for me, it’s the innocence of them and the need for close adult mentoring and modeling and advocating and love in this busy crazy world,” Mary Gaskill told Wednesday Journal in a 2009 story. “We know there are a lot of great foster families out there, but we also know there are a lot of things that are real messy in the world, so we do whatever we can, in big and small ways.”

Investigators say the case began to unfold late last month, when the two women walked into the River Forest police station to file their report, which alleged a pattern of sexual abuse from 1996 to 2009. Authorities would not release the current ages of the alleged victims, or say how old they were when the alleged abuse began.

On Thursday, officers arrested Gaskill at his River Forest home. Neighbors say the news stunned the idyllic neighborhood, situated just up the block from St. Luke Parish School.

“If it’s true, it’s tragic for everyone involved,” said Jim August, Gaskill’s next-door neighbor for more than 20 years. “I hope the family has the strength and faith to see them through this.”

A spokesman for state’s Department of Children and Family Services said three adopted children and two foster children living in the River Forest home were removed and placed into other homes.

The charges have sent shockwaves through the foster care community. David Anderson, executive director of the child welfare agency LYDIA Home Association, where Gaskill began work as a part-time marketing director in May 2011, said the organization was “deeply saddened” to learn of the charges.

“Our hearts go out to the alleged victims and the Gaskill family,” he said.

The Gaskills also co-founded Tapestry Chicago, a foster care support service that helps guide potential foster parents through the adoption process.The Tapestry Chicago website does not list a phone number. An email to the agency and phone calls to members of “The Tapestry Team,” which includes a medical consultant and a pediatrician with a “special interest in evaluating child abuse,” were not immediately returned.

On Monday, police remained tight-lipped about the investigation, except to say they’re working with DCFS and that no other victims had come forward.

“I know we’re going to continue to investigate. Where that takes us, I’m not sure,” Police Chief Gregory Weiss said. “I’m hoping for the sake of victims that it’s limited. But when there is up to 75 children that might be involved, who knows where it might end up.”
Investigation Continues Into Sex Abuse Allegations
[Oak Park Patch 2/6/12 by Casey Cora]

Update 2: The victims’ ages and gender are revealed.

“The Cook County State’s Attorney’s Office approved two Class X felony charges against Gaskill. The charge is predatory criminal sexual assault against a child. The incidents allegedly occurred between 1996 and 2009, according to a statement from River Forest police.

River Forest Police Sgt. Marty Grill said the female victims are now 19 and 21 and do not reside in River Forest. Three adopted children and two foster children who had recently been in the Gaskill home have now been removed and shifted to other homes, said Department of Children and Family Services spokesman Kendall Marlowe. Deputy Police Chief Craig Rutz said the alleged victims had not been taken from the home but could not say whether or not they lived there previously.

Gaskill voluntarily accompanied local police and officials from the West Suburban Enhanced Drug and Gang Enforcement (WEDGE) Task Force from his home to the police station, where he was arrested. Rutz could not say if Gaskill made any statements to police at that time. Bond was set at $50 million during a bond hearing Saturday at the Maybrook courthouse. Gaskill will face a preliminary hearing on Feb. 9.

“It took us quite a while to figure out whether this was completely valid or not,” said Rutz, noting that the victims came to the police station to report the incidents a couple of weeks ago, but he could not give details about their relationships to Gaskill because of the ongoing investigation.

In addition to his department, Rutz said the Cook County Sheriff’s Department, WEDGE, and DCFS are involved in the investigation.”

In 2009 Wednesday Journal named the couple Villager of the Year runners-up in recognition of their work as foster parents. At that time, the Journal reported that the family had 11 children: four biological, six adopted and one foster. [Another award-winning foster parent in our archive.]

The recognition followed a feature story in the Journal about the relationship between two of the foster children in the Gaskill home. A teenage son with autism had sponsored a fundraising run to raise awareness for a life-threatening illness which afflicted his 3-year-old foster sister. That young girl died a few months after the story ran in the Journal.

In the Journal’s 2009 article, Mary Gaskill talked about the pledge she and her husband made shortly after their marriage that they would open their home to foster children.

“I have always, always loved children,” she said, “and for me, it’s the innocence of them and the need for close adult mentoring and modeling and advocating and love in this busy, crazy world.”

State removes foster and adopted kids from River Forest home in wake of abuse charges
[Wednesday Journal 2/7/12 by Devin Rose]

Update 3/Hat tip to our commenter below:

“A River Forest foster dad will face a direct indictment on sexual assault charges when he returns to court later this month. That action was set by a judge at a preliminary hearing Thursday[February 9, 2012] morning.”

“Wise did not grant a request made by Seago that Gaskill be taken to a hospital for blood work due to potential prostate cancer and high cholesterol. Wise said he needed to see something in writing that a doctor had ordered the work. Gaskill has already been given medication for his blood pressure, Seago said. The cancer has not been diagnosed.

Seago also requested that someone bring Gaskill his Bible and glasses. Wise entered an order that will be left up to the Cook County Jail to decide. Gaskill is currently being held there on $50 million bail.

The case will be taken before a grand jury when Gaskill is back in court Feb. 24.

Police have said two women, ages 19 and 21, came to the River Forest police station last month and said Gaskill sexually assaulted them as juveniles between 1996 and 2009. The women no longer live in River Forest, and police can’t confirm whether they previously lived in the Gaskill home. Gaskill was arrested Feb. 2.”

River Forest foster dad to be indicted Feb. 24
[Wednesday Journal 2/9/12 by Devin Rose]

“In a show of solidarity and support, dozens of Robert Gaskill’s friends and family stood silently as he entered a Cook County courtroom on Thursday. A bailiff sternly ordered them to sit back down.
Gaskill mouthed the words “I love you” to the gathered crowd before facing judge William Wise at a preliminary hearing at the Maybrook courthouse. ”

Supporters Pack Courtroom for Gaskill Hearing
[Oak Park Patch 2/9/12 by Casey Cora]

Update 4: “River Forest foster parent and former publishing executive Robert Gaskill has been formally indicted on felony sexual abuse charges.

Gaskill, 63, appeared in Cook County court before Judge Geary Kull Friday morning. The two criminal complaints filed against Gaskill were superseded by the indictments, prosecutors said.

Gaskill is charged with two felony counts of predatory sexual assault against a child after allegations surfaced earlier this month that he’d abused two young girls in his care for more than a decade. He’s currently being held in protective custody at the Cook County Jail.

At Friday’s hearing, defense attorney Kelly Seago withdrew as Gaskill’s counsel and was replaced by attorney Ellen Domph, who indicated she would be filing a motion to reduce the extraordinarily high $50 million cash bond attached to Gaskill’s Feb. 2 arrest.

As they did in a previous hearing, Gaskill’s friends and family packed the courtroom in a show of support and rose from their seats to show support as Gaskill, clad in a yellow jail jumpsuit, entered the courtroom. Again, bailiffs quickly ordered them to sit down.

Gaskill is scheduled to appear for an arraignment before Judge Noreen Love on March 16.”

Gaskill Indicted on Felony Sex Abuse Charges
[Oak Park Patch 2/24/12 by Casey Cora]

“Details were not made available from the Cook County State’s Attorney because indictments were “red flagged.”

“That means they’re pretty much on lock down,” said Sue Rock of the Maybrook 4th District county clerk’s office. “It’s never going to be made public, due to the ages of the victims.”
Such files, she said, can only be disclosed with the permission of a judge.
Prior to the hearing, Gaskill’s defense attorney, Kelly L. Seago, received permission to withdraw as his attorney. She was replaced by veteran defense attorney Ellen R. Domph.
Domph made a motion for a reduction of a bond currently set at $50 million cash, and informed the court she would be filing a written motion. She asked that a hearing be scheduled sooner than March 16, but was told the grand jury filings would not be ready before that date.
The judge said any ruling on bond reduction would be up to Judge Noreen Love, though he did state the bond was one that “no human could make.”
After waiting some 90 minutes in the hall and another 30 minutes in the courtroom for her husband, Mark Cook Gaskill sat quietly with a hand by her chin as she waited for him to arrive shortly before 11 a.m.
As they did at Gaskill’s arraignment, the 30 supporters started to stand when Gaskill entered the court, but were immediately admonished by two court bailiff’s, who waved downward and said, “Sit, sit!”
As Gaskill left the courtroom, people smiled quietly, waved and blew kisses to him.
Gaskill’s next court date is in Love’s courtroom on at 9:30 a.m. March 16. “

Foster parent indicted; lawyer seeks reduced bond
[River Forest edition of Sun Times 2/24/12 by Bill Dwyer of Pioneer Local]

Update 5: More details and a hearing today allowing Robert out on bail, no contact with minors AND the article claims that there was a confession.

“A $50 million cash bond was reduced for a River Forest foster parent accused of sexually abusing two girls, and details of the 16-count indictment against him were revealed in court Friday.

Robert Gaskill, 63, is free on $250,000 bond — which required a 10 percent cash deposit — but with stipulations. He had been held in protective isolation at County Jail the past six weeks, in lieu of a $50 million full cash bond.
Judge Noreen Valeria Love rejected a no bond motion by prosecutors, siding with defense attorney Ellen Domph, who cited, among other things, Gaskill’s many friends and family.[What?]
“This is not a man who needs to be in custody pretrial,” Domph told the judge. [uh..because why?]
Gaskill will be on house arrest and electronic monitoring. He will only be allowed to leave to visit his doctor and church. Love also ordered him to stay away from any minors. [One would hope so.]
Domph told Love that Gaskill will be living in an apartment, not his River Forest home, where his wife, Mary, continues to care for several children. [Why aren't charges being considered on Mary?]
The judge gave Gaskill a blunt warning.
“I want you to understand, Mr. Gaskill, the way it’s set up, if you’re at a certain (permitted) location, (the sheriff) will send an officer by that location. And if you’re not there, off to jail you’ll go.”
During the arraignment hearing, prosecutors disclosed the charges, which includes two counts of aggravated criminal sexual assault of a victim under 13, three counts of criminal sexual assault involving force and two counts of predatory criminal sexual assault.
Prosecutors said Gaskill began sexually abusing the two girls, identified as Amber and Misty, at different times. Misty when she was 6 or 7 years old in 1996, Amber “about 12” when the alleged abuse started in 2004.
Many of the alleged incidents reportedly occurred after Gaskill had returned home after drinking in Oak Park, prosecutors said. The acts involved “digital penetration,” as well as various inappropriate touching and kissing.
In addition, Gaskill allegedly told police in a verbal confession an hour after his arrest that he had a “biting fetish” and had the girls bite him on various parts of his body to arouse him sexually.
Prosecutors argued that the seriousness of the alleged crimes and the prepubescent ages of the victims called for Gaskill to be held on no bond.
The defense attorney called into question the girls’ motives for making the accusations, and argued that their allegation came years after their alleged abuse. One of the girl’s recollections came 14 months, not days, after she said she became concerned that another foster child in the Gaskill’s care might be in danger.
Domph also stressed that although prosecutors say Gaskill gave police a verbal confession, there is no written confession.
Any concern over Gaskill being a flight risk, Domph said, was more than balanced by his deep and wide connections to the community.
“His family ties, to put it mildly, are extraordinary,” Domph told Love.
That support system was clearly in evidence Friday morning, as more than 40 people crowded in to Love’s courtroom while a dozen others waited outside.
His next court date is April 26. “

Accused foster parent free after bond lowered
[Forest Leaves   3/16/12 by Bill O'Dwyer]

Update 6: Thanks to our readers for getting the case in the news again. Rally did contact this journalist weeks ago and is glad that the case is being spotlighted ahead of the next court date!

“A blog dedicated to child welfare has become a forum for anonymous River Forest residents to weigh in on the case of Robert Gaskill.”

“As the case has unfolded, an activist website called REFORM (Rally Ethics for Orphans an At-Risk Minors) Talk has become the de facto forum for community discussion. The blog acts as part message board, part resource agency (it’s MO: “We are on the side of justice and to give voice to the voiceless and powerless, and in this case it means the CHILDREN”) and occasionally highlights troubling cases across the country.

The page on the Gaskill case, originally a collection of local news stories and updates, has exploded with anonymous comments, many from people claiming to be River Forest residents, former family friends of the Gaskills or members of their church.

The authenticity of those claims is nearly impossible to determine: not a single person has put a real name to a comment.

But the discussions are specific and detailed, with some posters maintaining they’ve been to the Gaskill house for parties, that they’ve bumped into the family at the River Forest Tennis Club or were once members of the family’s “inner circle.”

Many have claimed the Gaskills verbally and emotionally abused the two girls who’ve come forward with the allegations. Some commenters are expressing regret that they didn’t speak out against what they saw.

“We are remembering a home in which we saw mistreatment of the adopted/foster children in our presence by our very eyes,” one writer said.

Says another: “I was once in the inner circle and was often confused by much of what I witnessed. It took awhile to wise up and make the decision to pull away, a tricky dance as there were relationships built between the children, as well as the reality of the family’s widespread involvement and influence in the church we attended.”

Commenters on the forum are pledging to write letters of support for the alleged victims and urging residents to contact police and state child welfare agencies about what they’ve seen.

The comments on the forum may be a reaction to the support for Gaskill shown by his family, friends and church members. During earlier hearings they packed the court room in a show of unity and solidarity.

River Forest Police Department Chief Gregory Weiss said he hadn’t heard of the website, and said he wasn’t aware of any letters that had been written on behalf of, or in support of, the victims.

“What we’d do with those letters, if they’re of evidentiary value, we’d have to give them to the State’s Attorney’s Office as part of their evidence,” Weiss said. “But saying ‘I feel bad’ or ‘I feel guilty’ or that ‘I should’ve recognized the signs’ isn’t of evidentiary value.”

During an arraignment hearing at the Maybrook courthouse in March, prosecutors laid out their charges, including allegations that Gaskill’s drinking led to inappropriate kissing, touching and “digital penetration” of the girls, and that they were forced to indulge his biting fetish.”

“Prosecutors also said Gaskill confessed to the abuse after his Feb. 2 arrest.

Gaskill’s new attorney Ellen Domph, the defense attorney who replaced lawyer Kelly Seago after she withdrew as Gaskill’s counsel, attempted to clarify that by saying a written confession does not exist. Calls to Domph seeking comment for this story were not returned.

Gaskill requested to be kept in protective custody at the Cook County jail, where he was held after his Feb. 2 arrest. After coming up with the $25,000 bond, his March 17 release from jail came with stipulations: He’s under electronic monitoring at an undiclosed location and will only be allowed to visit his doctor and his church. He’s been ordered to keep away from minors.

The state’s Department of Children and Family Services in February said three adopted children and two foster children living in the River Forest home were removed and placed into other homes.”

Community Reacts to Lower Bond and Freedom in Child Molestation Case
[Oak Park Patch 4/12/12 by Casey Cora]

I want to point out that this article states that Robert REQUESTED to be in protective custody. There have been commenters that are Pro-Gaskill that lamented that he was in jail.

Update 7: We wanted to add a few more related items to this case. First, the Illinois DCFS was put on probation on January 11, 2012 for an unknown period of time by the accrediting body Council on Accreditation (COA). See the link here.

Mary was working as a  Church & Community Relations Manager for Lydia Home coordinating the Urban word-study program for high school students. See here.

Tapestry Chicago did have a website, but it is now defunct. This loose organization does not appear to have been licensed by the state of Illinois. Parts of the website can be seen on the Wayback Machine.
From the Wayback Machine:

” Tapestry Chicago exists to support people considering adoption and foster care through education, sharing, and personal experience.

Tapestry Chicago is a community of families and individuals that are connected by our passion and interest for adoption and foster care. We are couples and singles alike who feel called to open our hearts to children in need; we are families with children who look like their parents and families with children who do not; we are those who are in the waiting process; we are those trying to decide if adoption is right for our families. We are those contemplating sharing our lives with children in foster care. In the end, we all are weaving our lives by the common passion for children and family. We believe that God is doing something truly remarkable among us as He forms families and transforms lives through the miracle of each child.

We encourage you to start the process by sharing your concerns and questions. Our Tapestry Chicago community will walk beside you by sharing their knowledge and experiences.”

” About Tapestry Chicago

Tap-es-try [tap-uh-stree] n. – a fabric woven together by hand to produce a rich and complex design, often consisting of multi-colored threads

Our purpose is to help children and families as they travel the adoption or foster care journey. It is a road some of us have traveled before and continue to traverse today. While all who have been touched by the miracle of adoption share a common bond, each journey is unique and presents its own joys and challenges. As a result, we seek to come alongside adoptive and foster families, as well as those who are considering or are in the process of adopting or becoming licensed. We are ready to connect, encourage, inform, and equip fellow travelers on their unique adoption or foster care journey. Moreover, Tapestry Chicago stands ready to resource children and families in foster care so that their experience can be all that it can be.”

” Connect, Encourage, Inform, & Equip

Tapestry Chicago provides a loving, supportive and authentic community that encourages families along their adoption journey. It has been our experience that communities such as ours are a unique resource at each stage in the adoption or foster process, and are particularly valuable to families during the difficult times. For those families we offer our prayers, our love and support, our friendship and the collective wisdom and insight of those who have already successfully navigated similar paths.

We also provide quality, objective information about adoption and foster care. This includes honest and accurate information about the adoption and foster care process and a realistic understanding of both the joys and challenges adoptive and foster families often face. We focus specifically on helping those who are considering adoption or foster care to make informed decisions based on facts and realities, rather than idealized notions. Recognizing that in many ways the journey has only begun when a child is welcomed into a family, we also provide effective information and educational resources as well as support and encouragement for adoptive families to help them as they continue along their journey.”
Lastly, there is one active link on the Wayback Machine for their website. It is a foster parent meetup group. We do not know if the Gaskills participated in this group or if any of these members were there to support the Gaskills at the initial hearings. ” Oak Park/River Forest Area Foster and Adoptive Family Meetup

Update 8: “A judge agreed on Thursday to modify the monitoring conditions for a River Forest foster dad accused of sexual assault so he could let visitors into his apartment, do laundry and attend his daughter’s college graduation in June.

Judge Noreen Love told attorney Ellen Domph that she would “absolutely” draft a court order so that Domph’s client, Robert Gaskill, could attend his daughter’s June 9 graduation from DePaul University. Love said the order would be specific on the location and time of the event.

During the status hearing at Maybrook courthouse, Gaskill, 64, stood in front of Love in an orange button-down shirt, dark jacket and khaki pants. He’s been out of jail on electronic monitoring for about 40 days, Domph told Love.

“I do not think he’s a danger or a flight risk,” she said.

Gaskill pleaded not guilty last month to charges of predatory criminal sexual assault of a child. The charges came after two women, now 19 and 21, told River Forest police in January that Gaskill sexually assaulted them when one was between 12 and 17 years old and the other was between 6 and 9.

Gaskill and his wife, Mary, had operated a foster care service out of theirAshland Avenuehome since 1992.

Domph also asked Love to modify Gaskill’s monitoring conditions so he would be able to go to the second-floor laundry room and buzz people into the apartment where he is now living. Love said she would draft a court order.

Another status hearing on the case will be held at 9:30 a.m. on June 19.”

Gaskill can attend daughter’s graduation, judge says
[Oak Park.com/Wednesday Journal 4/26/12 by Devin Rose]

“A one-time newspaper publisher, Gaskill was at the helm of Oak Leaves/Pioneer Press West Group and later served as the president and publisher of the Archdiocese of Chicago’s newspaper The Catholic New World. More recently, he’s worked as a part-time marketing director for the LYDIA Home Association, a child welfare agency.

The Gaskills also co-founded Tapestry Chicago, a foster care support service that helps guide potential foster parents through the adoption process.

In 2009, the Gaskills were named runners-up in Wednesday Journal’s Villagers of the Year awards for being “resources to the foster care system as parents, they’ve become go-to members of the community as coaches in foster care and adoption.”

During an arraignment hearing in March, prosecutors laid out their charges, including allegations that Gaskill’s drinking led to inappropriate kissing, touching and “digital penetration” of the girls, and that they were forced to indulge his biting fetish.

On Thursday, Gaskill appeared in court clean-shaven and dressed in khaki slacks, blue blazer and peach colored shirt, cutting a more distinguished figure than the haggard, unshorn inmate who appeared in previous court proceedings. And once again, his family and supporters turned out to the hearing in a show of solidarity.

But the hearing also brought a new crowd to the cramped courtroom — supporters of the alleged victims.”

“A spokesman for the state’s Department of Children and Family Services told Patch that of the five children originally removed from the Gaskill’s River Forest home back in February, three adopted children have been placed back in the home and two foster children were placed elsewhere.”
[We have seen this bizarre split of placing some children back into the home and some removed before. We still call upon investigators to screen all previous children in the home and to look into the role Mary Gaskill played in these allegations.]

Judge: Gaskill Can Attend Graduation
[Oak Park Patch 4/26/12 by Casey Cora]

Update 9: There was a status hearing on Monday, July 2, 2012. “Gaskill was in court for Monday’s brief hearing, surrounded by family and friends. He remains out on bond throughout the proceedings.

Attorneys from neither side would comment after the end of the hearing; there is no indication when a trial date will be set.”

The next status hearing is set for August 29, 2012. He still is out on bond with electronic monitoring.

Another Status Hearing Set for Robert Gaskill

[Oak Park Patch 7/3/12 by Deborah Kadin]

Update 10: The status hearing occured  on August 29, 2012. Robert’s attorney asked for him to be relieved of electronic monitoring.  The judge ruled that Robert “will not be let off of electronic monitoring.”

Robert’s attorney “Domph said it seemed like a waste of time for a judge to have to approve every request for Gaskill to be able to go somewhere, like the dentist. He is currently living in an apartment with his brother-in-law in Oak Park, Domph said.

[Judge] Love said there is “no doubt” the system is difficult, but that she didn’t mind the requests. She said she would not take Gaskill off of electronic monitoring.

Gaskill, who stood next to Domph in a navy blue suit and a tie, did not speak. A group of his relatives and supporters, who have been present at his previous hearings, sat in the back row of the courtroom.

Assistant State’s Attorney Michelle Papa told Love that the discovery process of the case was finished. Love scheduled another status hearing on Oct. 2.”

Gaskill to stay on electronic monitoring while living in Oak Park

[Wednesday Journal Oak Park.com 8/29/12 by Devin Rose]

Update 11: Robert Gaskill will not be present at the final deposition.

“Assistant State’s Attorney Michelle Papa asked Judge Noreen Love for the modification at a status hearing for Robert Gaskill, 64, Monday morning at the Maybrook Courthouse. Papa said victims should not be in close proximity to a defendant.

Gaskill was arrested in February after two women told River Forest police that he sexually assaulted them when they were children. He and his wife, Mary, had operated a foster care service out of their Ashland Avenue home since 1992.

Gaskill’s attorney, Ellen Domph, argued that he’s been present at four of five depositions with victims so far, where he’s sat quietly to the side in a conference room. She said her client is a quiet person and she didn’t file a motion ordering no contact because there had not been any. Domph said it’s been a “very professional proceeding” and “pretty smooth sailing.”

But Papa said the deposition room is small and one of the victims was sobbing at the table. She mentioned the Crime Victims’ Rights Act, which gives a victim the right to be reasonably protected from the accused.

Love said that knowing the defendant is present can be just as intimidating as if the two could see each other.

“He should not be in a location where he can be seen by the complainant,” Love said.

The case was continued to a status hearing on Dec. 19.”

Judge says Gaskill won’t be present at final deposition

[Wednesday Journal Oak Park.com 11/6/12 by Devin Rose]

Update 12: February 22, 2013 is next status hearing.

“The judge presiding over the case of a former River Forest foster father who is now facing sexual assault charges said Monday she would sign an order asking for modifications to what his lawyer said were harassing visits from the Cook County Sheriff’s Office.

Citing a log of visits since the end of November, Ellen Domph told Judge Noreen Love that her client, Robert Gaskill, has been visited by representatives from the sheriff’s office at his apartment or at work during mostly reasonable hours. But between Jan. 9 and Jan. 13, Gaskill received at least 10 sheriff’s visits, including several past 2 a.m.

“It has now gone into a level of harassment,” Domph said.

Gaskill, 64, was arrested last February after two women told River Forest police that he sexually assaulted them when one was between 12 and 17 years old and the other between the ages of 6 and 9. He pleaded not guilty in March to charges of predatory criminal sexual assault of a child.

Gaskill and his wife, Mary, had operated a foster care service out of their Ashland Avenue home since 1992.

At the hearing Monday morning at the Maybrook courthouse, Gaskill stood silent next to Domph in a dark suit and an orange tie. A group of his family members and supporters sat in the first two rows of the courtroom.

Domph said the aggressive nature of the sheriff’s visits have created an unreasonable situation for her client. She’s concerned that sleep interruptions will affect his health, and that he might lose his job or apartment. She asked Love again to release Gaskill from electronic monitoring, which he has been on for 10 months.

Domph said Gaskill was face to face with one of his accusers during resolution of a separate matter in the case, which took place at an earlier date, and she said there was never an incident. Domph called it a trial, but Wednesday Journal learned from a source close to the case that no criminal trial has yet been held. The resolution Domph mentioned would have been a civil matter, the source said.

Assistant State’s Attorney Michelle Papa argued Gaskill has been given many opportunities that others in his situation have not gotten. Love had previously lowered his bond from $50 million to $250,000 on the condition he stay on electronic monitoring. She has also modified the monitoring so that Gaskill could buzz visitors into his apartment, do laundry and attend doctor’s appointments.

“It would be a mistake,” Papa said, to take Gaskill off of electronic monitoring.

Love denied Domph’s motion, saying she has made modifications on almost every one of his court dates.

“I am not going to continue to modify,” Love said. Though she agreed to sign an order limiting the sheriff’s visits, Love said she can’t tell their office how to control its operation.

Domph also filed a motion for disciplinary records of officers involved in the case.”

Gaskill’s lawyer says sheriff’s visits are harassing

[Wednesday Journal Oak Park.com  1/15/13 by Devin Rose]

Update 13: The next hearing is March 19, 2013.

Gaskill’s defense at the February 22, 2013 hearing centered around blaming the police.

“An attorney representing Robert Gaskill hopes that personnel records from River Forest police investigators will help their case.

Gaskill, 64, was arrested last year on allegations that he sexually assaulted two juveniles who were living as foster children in his River Forest home over a 13-year period.

The victims, both female, were between the ages of 12 and 17 years old over the course of the alleged abuse. Gaskill pleaded not guilty to charges of predatory criminal sexual assault of a child in March 2012.

The former publishing executive and his wife have acted as guardians for 75 foster children since 1992.

Gaskill and his lawyer, Ellen Domph, appeared before Cook County Circuit Court Judge Noreen Love on Feb. 22. At the brief hearing, held at the Maybrook courthouse, Love allowed a continuance of the case to March, pending the resolution of a court-ordered subpoena seeking personnel records of members of the River Forest Police Department.

Filed in October, the subpoena requests all documentation of citizens’ complaints filed with the police department over the past decade pertaining to officials who have participated in the Gaskill investigation. Records sought include reprimands, performance evaluations, suspensions and use of excessive force allegations.

The plea includes records for River Forest Detective Sgt. Marty Grill, Officer Anthony Pluto — both of who whom were involved in pre-arraignment interviews with the defendant — and Officer Jennifer Casey.

Domph stated that the police department has ignored the subpoena and failed to provide a reason why the request should be denied under Illinois law. Casey and two other officers were recently cleared on charges of excessive force related to a 2009 disturbance call.

Following Friday’s hearing, Domph declined to comment on the outstanding subpoena, stating that the issue was “nothing new.”

Gaskill, who was accompanied by friends and family at the hearing, is the former publisher of the West Group of Pioneer Press newspapers, which includes the Oak Leaves and Forest Leaves.

The defendant was released on bail in March and is currently subject to electronic monitoring — a provision which Domph has contested on the grounds that her client is not a flight risk.

Love on Feb. 22 said she would be ready to hear arguments at the next hearing, which is set for March 19.”

Gaskill trial waits on subpoena in River Forest

[Wednesday Journal Oak Park.com  2/26/13 by Devin Rose and Ian Fullerton]

Update 14: Our commenters continue to support the victims at the courthouse. March 19 had a continuance to April 11. Hearing continued to May 1. May 1 hearing one commenter says “The judge did not allow his attorney to view the personal records of the officers involved in this case. The next court date is set for june 24″ The Media is not covering these hearings.

Update 15/August 20, 2013/hat tip to two commenters

Robert Gaskill had a hearing on August 19, 2013 in which he won expanded visitation rights with his children.

“Judge Noreen Love, will allow Rob Gaskill to immediately start seeing his children more often, his attorney Ellen Domph said. She declined to give details.

Gaskill sat in the Maybrook court, surrounded by a few friends and family, during his latest court appearance. He will return to Maybrook Court on Sept. 30 when motions related to the case will be argued.”

No trial has been set.

Gaskill wins expanded child visitation rights

[Wednesday Journal 8/19/13 by Deb Kadin]

According to an Oak Leaves report, prosecutors said Gaskill began abusing the girls at different times. One of the girls was 6 or 7 years old in 1996; the second girl was roughly 12 years old when the alleged abuse began several years later, in 2004.”

Judge Allowing Gaskill to See His Kids More Often: Report

[Oak Park Patch 8/20/13 by Charlotte Ericksen]

Share

368 Comments

  1. I don't think "accountability" is the missing piece to the puzzle here. Everything "looked" perfect. I believe, if he did not admit, himself, to these crimes there would be a terrible outcry that he was wrongly accused. Thank goodness for the sake of these poor girls that he did admit guilt. I can only hope these girls are able to recover.

  2. How do you know there was admission of guilt?

  3. How do you know he admitted guilt?

  4. To the Anonymous posters about guilt: We do not see an admission of guilt yet. He is arrested and held on the highest bond we have seen-$50 million. That exceeds the Cristan Room's California case of $12 million.

    To Mark, you do not seem to understand what this archive is about. This is to chronicle cases of heinous or otherwise criminal actions *about CHILDREN who have been adopted or been in foster care*-the ones that have NO VOICE. We report everything we can find about the case. We do not state that Gaskill is guilty at this time as he only has been charged with crimes. If he is wholly innocent, the case STILL stays here as then the action that is disgusting is that adoptees-unnamed at this time so we can't report it- were lying about their AP molesting them.

    Peruse our archive to see what the results of trials have been. An example in which the AP has been exonerated is Brian Dykstra, but that case still remains because his adopted son Isaac…still REMAINS DEAD…his dad didn't take him to the hospital the night he had a major head injury. Regardless of our personal opinion on how that happened, ISAAC STILL IS DEAD, his case has *very much* influenced Russian placements to the US, and will remain in our archives as will all of these cases.

    Some of our cases are about adoptee committing crimes. In fact, one case from last week is about an adoptee strangling both his parents. We also have cases of people who work in child welfare that commit various criminal actions. Most cases take years to go to trial and if we don't report on the parts of the case as they occur, the information will be lost.Call it what you will. This is what the archive is about.We label the cases so people can find them with the goal being to share information to as many people as possible. Some have the victim name on them, some the alleged or known perpetrator and some have a description when perpetrator or victim is unnamed, as many foreign cases protect perpetrator and victim names.

  5. I appreciate your concern and advocacy for orphans and minors, and yes – reporting and archiving of alleged (and true) cases of abuse is necessary as information comes about. However, I tend to agree with Mark. By the headline, "How could you? Hall of shame…" you've already labeled this man as guilty. Your additional comment of, "Another sick case where there was no accountability before, during or after placements," further presumes guilt prior to official arraignment, trial and verdict. So you have actually made a conclusion about this man before a jury has. Clearly, if he is guilty, he deserves punishment for his crimes and an investigation should be done to learn from this case how to better protect children from this type of terrible crime in the future. Likewise, if he is found innocent, I hope you post this information too and rescind your "hall of shame" statement.

    • I agree. Clearly you see this man as guilty already. In these cases they always see a person as guilty before proven innocent. All you have is your word against an accuser. Yes in the past there were too many times where people were not believed but nowadays it has gone too far the other way. If this person is not guilty his life and reputation are ruined forever!

  6. Anonymous, I have not labeled the man guilty. Nope nowhere. Too bad if you don't like the name of our archive.Go start your own and label it however you want.

    I just said in the above comment that all cases stay no matter what happens because either the man is guilty or someone is lying horribly-BOTH are heinous actions of people involved in child welfare and adoption. That is why the intro says "involved in" child welfare and adoption.

    I stand by the no accountability. I also could add postplacement as a piece. The allegations are a pattern of abuse from 1996 to 2009. WHERE was the postplacement monitoring while they were foster kids? THERE IS NONE for postadoption. There needs to be accountability in the foster care system in the during and after placement. As for accountability before placement, there could be two things depending on the outcome of the case: If he is guilty, then I feel that there needed to be more critical thinking during the homestudy. If he is not guilty and there is lying, then the issue could involve past placements OR a lack of resources and mental health care for the kids. Either way, there is an accountability issue on the before side.

    Each of these cases involve multiple overlapping failures. There are MANY prominent foster care providers and adoptive parents in our archive including *several* named foster parent of the year. Sandusky was named an Angel in Adoption!The sad thing is that too many people look the other way when it comes to child abuse.

  7. Rally, YOU did not indicate Mr. Gaskill admitted guilt, but the first Anonymous commenter did.
    I would like the first Anonymous to answer if they know something more. It sounded as if they did since they indicated there would be public outcry if he hadn't admitted guilt. Please let us know, Anonymous, where you heard there was admission of guilt. Thank -you and I hope you see this and respond.

  8. I know Mr. Gaskill personally. He does not admit any guilt. He is professing innocence to all who know and contact him, saying this is slander from a biological family bitter at their loss of custody of their daughters. Time will tell. The case is still being investigated and no trial has been set yet.

  9. Anonymous Feb 9: Do you know this biological family to know that they are bitter at their loss of custody? Do you know the girls personally if you know Mr. Gaskill? What is their motive for coming to the police?

    Also for our readers, sometime in the last day or so Mark removed his own comment. I did not delete it.

  10. http://www.oakpark.com/News/Articles/02-09-2012/River_Forest_foster_dad_to_be_indicted_Feb._24

    If they are going straight to indictment — that is because he confessed and there is no need for a trial, right?

  11. Regarding my Feb 9 comment: I was intending to clarify in regards to the comments above about how Rob must have admitted guilt. I know for sure he has not. I have only seen the alleged victims in passing at community functions with the whole family. All I really know about them is what the Gaskills and others have said, and I have never even seen the alleged "bitter" family. I'm just hearing lots of theories that the girls might have been coerced into claiming these things. Who knows…. Again, the point of this comment was just to say that people close to the family believe this is a false accusation, and that I know for certain he has not admitted to any guilt. I personally, am still not sure what to think. Details are really bare in the press on what the claims and evidence are. And I hate the idea of assuming any alleged victim is lying. Yet this just doesn't seem possible at all from all I know and have observed of their family. This is just shocking news and everyone is reeling from it and feeling the pain this is causing every single member of that family, whose lives have been forever changed regardless of what side is true. Either way is terrible! This case is very much IN PROCESS.

    And regarding the "going straight to indictment" question… my understanding is that there must be an indictment in order to get to a trial. Police gather evidence and work with the prosecutors to determine what the charges are. Then a grand jury must hear their case and formally indict him in order to go to trial. If the grand jury doesn't think the evidence in the case is strong enough, they would not indict him, and there'd be no trial, and it'd be over. But if they do indict, that means it will go to court, and Mr. Gaskill's would then get a chance to build a defense in court. Then that case would determine his guilt (or not) and the judge would sentence him. He could face life in prison. And often the process of being charged and arrested to even beginning a trial can be years! So this will be a long road ahead for everyone involved.

  12. 50 million bail, nuff said!

  13. No…not "nuff said." This is a good man and good family. Stop rushing to judgement. 75 kids and 2 sisters come forward. If this were true, there would be more coming forward and there isn't.

  14. Anonymous, Feb 22, 6:44PM, this case is quite young. I would not be so confident of others not coming forward.

    As for Feb 10 comment about indictment, the sexual assault is a DIRECT indictment. A direct indictment is one in which the case goes straight to trial, before an inquiry is completed, circumventing the preliminary hearing. That means that the proscution feels probable cause is established, but the grand jury may think the evidence is weak. This does quicken the proceedings.

  15. Today Feb 24th, the Gaskill case is in court.
    Last court appearance judge said the case was to be
    heard before a grand jury.
    Does this mean the grand jury already heard evidence from the
    state and will reveal today whether or not the defendant will
    face a formal indidement with a jury by trial and then a
    court date will be set for trial?
    Also, can the defendent if found with probable cause can
    ask for a bench tial and not a jury?
    The fact the bail was set so high may indicate the state
    has a strong case as the bond was set at such a staggering
    amount.
    Also, five children were removed by child welfare and placed
    seperately in other homes which in itself would be a signal
    that the state did this with good reason as I'm sure these
    poor children have been traumatized and fightened.
    The community at large would never let the state hear the
    end of it with a huge public outcry on behalf of the
    pain and suffering of the children living in new homes
    needlessly and the defendent and family put through hell
    on charges and evidence that is weak and or false.
    Hopefully,if there is a strong case sadly for the minors
    justice will prevail and their voices heard so that the
    defendant receive the full punishment he deserves for
    preying on the minors for at least thirteen years; inflicting
    emotional and psychological pain that unfortunately these
    minors have and will carry with them the rest of their lives.
    Also, these minors need to hold the chid welfare system
    accountable for allowing and sadly not staying invoved
    with these children and family especially that the state
    allowed so many children with special needs to be cared
    for in one family.
    Every parent with one or even two special needs children know
    how hard it is to make sure their child's every need is met
    and lovingly provide their children with all the love and
    care they have to give and then some.
    A very sad tragic story for these children to be let down
    and thrown into a family and a system that failed them
    miseriably if the defendant is indeed found guilty.
    THe system regardless should never allowed eight special
    need chidren be placed in one foster home to begin with.
    Children in these cases need supervision from the state
    when allowed to be adopted after being a foster care child
    in the home first place until they reach adulthood as maybe
    the minors would have had a chance to reveal the hell they
    were put through and if true the defendant would have
    received punishment sooner and would not have been able
    to prey on minors if the allegations are true and proved in
    court.

  16. Is there any more news on this? It seems there certainly are many people in River Forest who seem to have information and believe that he has confessed. Also, what is the information regarding the story that the girls identified his private parts? Is there any possibility that his bond will be lowered and he will be able to leave jail? How long before this goes to trial? Also, since he was removed from the house, what does it mean that they still took all of the other children and placed them in different homes? If he was no longer there, did it matter? I just do not understand so much of this

  17. Anonymous, March 7: We have not seen further media articles nor can we access the criminal record. The new lawyer did ask for a lowering of the bail but at this time we do not believe that has happened. The next court appearance in March 16 ( a week from Friday). I think it is possible that bail would be reduced as that is the highest bail I have seen for such a case. It is standard procedure to remove the children from the home in this type of arrest. I have seen the rumors that you write of, but do not have confirmation of any of that.

  18. Bail may get reduced but it will be high enough to still keep him in jail as this is a serious case even though there are
    people out there that can't seem to grasp that without
    credible evidence and not just minors simply making accusations
    because they are mentally unstable an arrest would not have been
    made in the first place. Also, a grand jury heard the evidence
    and the defendant was indited on two counts of class x felonies that can
    place him in jail the rest of his life. Really people, do
    ya think the state wants to seek justice because they want to
    spend tax dollars prosecuting this case and oh yes placing
    and disrupting five innocent children that were in the home

    in other foster care homes because they love to torment innocent children who already started out their lives with
    the deck stacked against them? Those of you accusing the
    minors of mental illness or mental instability make me sick.
    Why is it that these minors if indeed not right mentally did not get

    treatment by these loving parents to begin with?
    Why did our school system fail to recognize how screwed up
    these minors were supposedly and not intervene and even file
    a report with DCFS somewhere along the way?
    If they were really screwed up why would the foster parents
    want them around the other children in the home?
    Also, why 8 special needs children in one home?
    Do you really believe the big tax free checks per child
    was not any way shape or form a motivation to make foster
    care a business to advance ther income level?
    The state I'm sure is eating crow right now as they really
    let these children down in a BIG WAY. These minors if their
    case is proved (seems likely though the defendant is innocent
    until proven guilty) will finally have their voices heard
    and will be a wake up call to people who buy into this family
    being as PERFECT as their PERFECT WHITE PICKET FENCE.
    Wake up Gaskill Groupies you too have been duped just like
    the state. All of you need to look at what as transpired since
    his arrest. Like it or not this case must have merits or the
    accused would not be sitting in jail right now.
    Write all the character references you can for the defendant
    but when you do ask yourself why it is that often times it is
    someone that we would least expect to commit a crime of this
    nature because they think their secret is safe with their
    victims through manipulation that a minor in this case minors
    would never TELL because they were made to suffer and endure
    a life that had to be emotionally and psychologically paralyzing. So, yes everyone has their day in court and are
    either found guilty or innocent. That is our legal system.
    Just remember it takes evidence to even have a case.
    The minors accusations alone would have prevented this case to get to where it is in the first place. Gaskill Groupies take
    off your ROSE COLORED GLASSES and THINK about why this case
    has been indited by a grand jury, JUST ACCUSATIONS?
    If that were the case God help us all because anyone could
    make an accusation as simple as going to a local police
    station and make a false accusation without credible evidence
    and we too could be in jail with a huge bond and be facing
    the conseguences of being indited by a grand jury as well.
    That may happpen in Syria or Egypt but so far that does npt
    happen in a country with a fair and prudent legal system.

  19. These are all wildly speculative posts.

    The last comment "so far that does npt (sic) happen in a country with a fair and prudent legal system" makes me chuckle. That's a broad statement for someone accusing others of wearing "ROSE COLORED GLASSES". There are corrupt presidents, politicians, principles, pastors, lawyers, judges, and policemen. Shall I go on?

    Why not let the evidence speak for itself? This case will go to trial. Why not wait before you convict someone in the court of public opinion?

    It's appropriate to be protective of children and to get very angry when a child is abused. I have much personal compassion since I was abused myself as a child. I would love the truth to be revealed in this and all cases. Yet, as an adult, I have witnessed the flip-side of terror when I took-in a young teen-age girl who lied at every possible opportunity. I shudder to think what could have happened if I was on the receiving end of such an accusation.

    WAIT. Continue to defend children. Look at the evidence. Learn some patience before you convict someone.

  20. free free free at last

  21. The defense attorney called into question the girls’ motives for making the accusations, and argued that their allegation came years after their alleged abuse.

  22. “His family ties, to put it mildly, are extraordinary,” Domph told Love.

  23. That support system was clearly in evidence Friday morning, as more than 40 people crowded in to Love’s courtroom while a dozen others waited outside.

  24. Hey May the truth Prevail — I think it did prevail when he confessed with in an hour of being in custody.

    http://oakpark.suntimes.com/news/11341487-418/accused-foster-parent-free-after-bond-lowered.html

    http://www.oakpark.com/News/Articles/03-16-2012/Gaskill_pleads_not_guilty_in_River_Forest_child_abuse_case

    To the people who believe this man is innocent – I hope you have sense enough not to let him watch your children.

  25. May Truth Pevail

    You are right. Often we who love children get
    angry at the thought of any child being subjected to any
    abuse of ANY kind. Sometimes the thoght of that happening
    to our own children ignites anger and we lose sight
    that this case just like any other case needs further
    investigation and if going to trial hopefully evidence
    that is false will be exposed and the victims if lying
    will be exposed for the horrible situation they have
    inflicted on the accused and their family.
    If the evidence is true anger at the accused and DCFS
    can't help but be felt and compassion for a family
    who besides the accused will continue to suffer and
    for all invoved lives sadly will never be the same.
    I do see both sides and you are right~patience and
    waiting for the court system to do its'job is all we
    can do without letting our emotions get the best of us.
    I too am a survivor of abuse from a stepfather thankfully
    it was caught early on however it is something no innocent
    child should have to endure.

  26. Update 5 describes the allegations and verbal confession. These offenses are alleged when the girls were prepubescent. I hope that an investigation is ongoing with other foster children and children in the home, but I fear that this is not the case. Usually in these kinds of cases, a tip line is set up for others to come forward. I have yet to see that.

  27. anonymouse 5:18 on March 16, very often allegations occur when the child is older or an adult for the obvious reason that there is no adult whom they trust to listen to the allegation.This does beg the question of what his wife Mary knows about this as these allegations appear to indicate that the abuse occurred in the family home.

  28. The accused is INNOCENT until PROVEN otherwise.
    The accused had an unfair bond placed on him from
    the start. He has been in jail for 6 weeks and
    deserved the decision by the judge to be on house
    arrest as I am sure he suffered immensely as well as his
    family. He deserved from the start to have a normal
    bail and I do not understand why he could not have been on
    house arrest while this case was investigated.
    The case could go on for a long time. Thank God he is
    able to be treated fairly by posting bond following
    what the court has required him to do while he waits
    for this bizzare case to go to trial and hopefully
    be found innocent as everything that has been reported
    on him he does not appear to be nothing but a loving
    father and family man. His accusers probably have
    some ax to grind as they were foster children that
    perhaps are punishing this family for what they may
    perceive as payback for something as simple as following
    rules that all children have to have and maybe they
    felt they were treated unfairly or thought the parents
    were too strict. The court has to really investigate this
    case on both sides as it seems like this could be one
    of those cases that revenge might be the motive the
    accusers made the allegations in the first place.

  29. Anonymous 10:42, it is not standard because it is not safe for someone accused of these crimes to be under house arrest from the beginning.

    The bail was high, but the current bail is quite low in comparison to similar cases going on right now in other parts of the country.

    Your comments about axes to grind and investigating on both sides are really sickening. Blaming the victims, once again. Unbelievable that you have no concern for the other children that also might have been affected.

    Look through our archive and see how many are winners of foster care awards.

  30. Once again I'll caution people to exercise restraint and patience related to this highly sensitive case. No one will fault you for righteous anger when children are abused. Wait. Listen to all the evidence because there are MANY lives at stake. REMEMBER that these are allegations until they are proven.

    There is a flip-side to the Foster-care system that deserves respect and protection as well. PLEASE consider the families who sacrifice to take kids into their home. They ALSO deserve to be protected. I know that this is not the blog for that, I understand that, but I hope that those who read this blog will seek justice for ALL- including foster-care and adoptive parents.

    If we don't seek justice for ALL we will not have anyone willing to sacrifice their lives to shelter kids. Let us not take a stance that will make it worse for the very kids that need to be protected the most.

  31. it is safe for someone accused of these crimes to be under house arrest from the beginning.

    Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) is an alcohol-related birth disability and is the number one cause of mental retardation in the United States. It is also the only cause of birth defects that is entirely preventable. The condition occurs from maternal alcohol use during pregnancy. When a pregnant woman drinks alcohol, it passes through the placenta and is absorbed by the unborn baby.

    Children with fetal alcohol syndrome typically have multiple handicaps and require special medical, educational, familial and community assistance. These children may require lifelong, expensive, intensive care and intervention to reach their potential. There is no known safe amount of alcohol use during pregnancy and no known time when drinking alcohol is safe. Alcohol can do more damage to the developing embryo and fetus than illegal or legal drugs.

  32. Lying (purposefully telling an untruth) and stealing (taking what does not belong to you) are dishonest behaviors that break the rules of society. Such misbehaviors in children, adolescents, or adults, especially if they happen often, may be signs of other more significant problems. Sometimes these misbehaviors and others, like cheating, truancy * , destroying property, or hurting others, are called antisocial behaviors, or disruptive behaviors, because they break social rules.

  33. HE CONFESSED!!! Is it not clear that this man CONFESSED? I do not know if he confessed to all allegations but he confessed to enough to let you know that he is not right, that he did abuse these girls and it should go from there! Please, please accept that you made some terrible mistakes, need to pay the price and make it as easy as you can for these poor girls. THESE GIRLS ARE RUINED!!! How absolutely sad and sick it is to think they were taken from a home because of alcohol abuse and put in a home to suffer SEXUAL ABUSE! I think they were better off in their original home. What they are saying happened is just terrible. Aso, think about this…I assume Robert Gaskill did not sexually abuse his biological children. Does this mean the foster/adoptive children are "lesser" people? Are these children considered not as worthy and therefore can be used for his biting fetish? Good grief, entertain your damned fetish by yourself or with a dog. Don't bring innocent, poor, sad orphans into your web of filth. You were the only parents they knew. You were there to protect them and mentor, nourish them. You used them. You used them to gain money and to meet your sick sexual desires. And then you "high profiled" yourselves to be such wonderful foster parents. Who could these girls turn to? DCFS obviously didn't know what they were doing or they would not have placed them in a family with so many kids all the same age. I can hardly breath I am so upset by this whole story and the possibility that even though there was a confession, this man could still be found innocent. I can see it coming, no written confession and oh, yes, is he going to say he was under the influence of alcohol and didn't know what he was doing? What can be done to now help these girls? Is there anything the public can do for them?

  34. DCFS obviously didn't know what they were doing

    A false confession is an admission of guilt in a crime in which the confessor is not responsible for the crime. False confessions can be induced through coercion or by the mental disorder or incompetency of the accused. Even though false confessions might appear to be an exceptional and unlikely event, they occur on a regular basis in case law, which is one of the reasons why jurisprudence has established a series of rules to detect, and subsequently reject, false confessions.

    Matthew 7:5
    You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

  35. I do not know if he confessed. No written confession!

    I think they were better off in their original home? I guess another mistake that the "DCFS obviously didn't know what they were doing"

  36. sad orphans? Are the parents dead?

  37. May the Truth Prevail/March 17, there is nothing in the foster care system that deserves respect, especially when it comes to Illinois DCFS. We have 100s of horrendous cases in just one year from the foster care system.

    We are not stupid here so you can check your condescension about innocent until proven guilty. The current way that child protection operates is by no means the only way it can operate.

    Anonymous just under that, it is NOT safe for house arrest for allegations of pedophilia. I have no idea what you are implying by talking about FAS.Is that some more blame the victim or are you saying that Gaskill has FAS and is not responsible for his actions?

    Anonymous just below that, uh..yea thanks for defining lying and stealing for us.You really are not contributing anything to this conversation.

    There was a verbal confession to police as stated on the record. Chicago area has been known for some atrocious forced verbal confessions, but there is not indication at this time that this is the case.

    For all of you, the top 5 risks for a child for child abuse areFrom Child Abuse [Medicine Net Medical Author:John Mersch, MD, FAAP and Medical Editor: John Mersch, MD, FAAP], "risk factors include

    1.age: 67% of abused children are less than 1 year old; 80% are less than 3 years old;
    2.past history of abuse: Repeated abuse has been shown to occur more than 50% of the time; repeatedly abused children have a 10% chance of sustaining a lethal event;
    3.children with learning disabilities, speech/language disorders and mental retardation;
    4.children with congenital anomalies (malformations) and chronic/recurrent conditions; and
    5.adopted and foster children."

    Pedophiles look for opportunities and the US foster care system is a prime opportunity. Most crimes against children in foster care are sex abuse.

  38. Rally, I have no intention of being condescending to you or anyone who cares for the welfare of children. Your ire toward convicted abusers is COMPLETELY justified. I was sexually abused and I wasn't in the foster care system. I understand this issue from a deeply personal level.

    My request was that the case could be heard before he was convicted without a trial. For the sake of families that open their hearts and homes to kids, we also owe it to them tto be given respect.

    That's not condescending, that's compassion.

  39. Does anyone know how the police can prove a confession
    to whatever he confessed to the police at the station?
    If there is no written confession of any sort that he
    did not sign, how do the state prosectors prove at
    trial that he did confess to some things and made
    the sick statement about a biting fetish?
    Why would the police say that he said that(it is so sick)
    if he really did not.
    I find that part very hard to swallow as the officer
    or officers would make up such a perverted statement
    and make it part of the record submitted to the state
    attorney office.

    • Why would they make it up? Probably because this family had so many other foster kids. The cop or whoever probably thought it would be a huge career boost! Only no one else has come forward and no written or audio confession. Plus who is stupid enough to confess to something like this without asking for a lawyer? Just my observations. My rule #1 – don’t talk to cops without a lawyer.

      • Name, that makes no sense at all. Wouldn’t it make more sense that they are concerned about their sibling still with them? What kind of boost would a cop get in this case? People confess things to cops all the time.

  40. This man CONFESSED within 1 hour of being in custody. This is not a man that was questioned for hours, or beaten in to submission. In my opinion, this behavior is indicative of a man who was ashamed little girl perversion and was glad he was finally caught

    Open your eyes people. There bond was high because it should have been. I have heard – these girls were placed when they were 2 and 4. The Gaskill's were really the only family they ever knew. This man was not just a foster father — he was an ADOPTIVE father.

    Throw the book at him, LOCK HIM UP! Don't ever let the Gaskill's care for children again.

    Girls if you happen to read this blog. I believe you and am on your side.

  41. May the Truth Prevail, This statement "For the sake of families that open their hearts and homes to kids, we also owe it to them tto be given respect" makes no sense. ALL foster parents are not being investigated, just this one.As an adoptive parent, I am disgusted that this type of person passed a homestudy and yes I am judging him on a verbal confession that cops have claimed under oath. I do not understand why people believe family members crowding a court room more than cops under oath. I could be wrong but the victims in the case deserve the respect. They are the ones with no voice.

  42. I think the family duped like they always do and have
    been doing all along; the Judge in this case.
    The Gaskills prevailed with their many groupies to
    cram the court with not only their family but many
    of their fans who just can't believe
    that such a crime as the accused is facing on two counts no less is CAPABLE of such a Deviant act.
    Obviously, they have blinders on and will continue
    to have blinders on even during trial testimony by
    the prosecution when the case is finally tried.
    In the meantime people that have voiced opinions
    on this forum have labled the victims liars and severely
    diminished in mental capacity due to FAS.
    Remember: "WHAT IS GOOD FOR THE GOOD FOR THE GOSSE IS
    GOOD FOR THE GANDER"
    Stop trashing two courageous women who want and NEED
    their voices heard.

  43. Amen to Rally 12:43 PM The young women now are probably
    for the first time in their young lives testifying on
    the horrific abuse and robbed childhood as they are grown
    women now and now have the courage that they as while growing
    could not exercise living in fear in a home that the accused
    could have easily manipulated and controlled their minds
    by telling them perhaps they were lucky to have a home and
    that nobody would believe them anyway. Obviously, children
    can and are manipulated by the perpetrator in these instances
    especially in foster homes.These girls do not have a bunch of
    groupies standing up for them in court like the accused.
    Instead, they have been JUDGED by the hypocrites that moan
    on this blog that the accused being the "perfect family man" could not beyond a shadow of a doubt commited the crimes he
    will be standing trial for. The state is going to have to
    paint a picture of two abused little girls FINALLY having
    their VOICES heard now as young women taking the first step
    to heal by confronting and facing their accuser.
    Girls, if you read this STAY STRONG DROWN OUT ALL THE VOICES
    that have diminished your worth and capacity and if you can
    FACE the ACCUSED in court and look him straight in the eye
    with fear no longer holding you prisoner and SPEAK LOUD AND
    CLEAR. Then let's see how the people who call you liars
    and not of sound mind have to say?
    I pray you have your once tiny voices as little girls
    heard LOUD AND CLEAR as the brave grown women you have become.

  44. Having known the Gaskill family in years past, I was shocked when I first heard these allegations and questioned how something like this could have possibly occurred. However, reading news of a verbal confession and having knowledge of the girls' character, I believe this all to be true. What would these girls have to gain from making up allegations such as this? Nothing. The press keeps reporting on Mr. Gaskill's community involvement and the dozens of courtroom supporters. The judge cited this as one of the reasons for the huge price drop in bond and Mr. Gaskill's release back into the community. I hope the victims realize that there is a large network of community members that are standing behind them, believe them and hope that justice is served.

  45. I would be willing to cram a court room with a group of other people in support for these girls. I believe the Gaskills in these many years passed have certainly done some good things, some good deeds. I believe they tried to do the right thing…at least I hope they were initially sincere in their attempts to help children. I'm also very sorry to say that I do know them and there is a lot more there to meet the eye that is not right. They are not totally the people they portray themselves to be. They have actually tormented many people who I believe are afraid of them. I think we will start to see these people slowly surface and begin to share some of their knowledge. Mary has always been very quick to point out, accuse, confront and bully people she felt were doing something wrong. Now here she is…living with the real enemy, the pervert was in her very own house. I believe these girls and admire their strength. I do not know if I could do what they have done.

  46. "the Gaskills in these many years passed have certainly done some good things"

    “I’m shocked. I’m stunned. I see him out and about with the kids all the time,” said one woman. “I think most of us think it’s got to be untrue.”

    Rutz said. “He was well liked and well respected in the community.”

    “Lydia Home was deeply saddened to learn of the charges filed against Mr. Rob Gaskill,

  47. "We do not see an admission of guilt yet."

    "Why would the police say that he said that(it is so sick)
    if he really did not.
    I find that part very hard to swallow as the officer
    or officers would make up such a perverted statement
    and make it part of the record submitted to the state
    attorney office."

    Innocent of murder, Oak Park volunteer files suit
    After 25 years in prison, Eric Caine volunteers at food pantry

    "When Caine refused to sign a confession, he was struck "with a cupped hand on the side of the head," which ruptured his eardrum, according to the lawsuit. He signed a false confession the next day. Investigations by the Internal Affairs Division of the Chicago Police Department and the State's Attorney General's Office helped prove that his confession was false."

    And Caine was in prison for ? So what was that about "under oath"

  48. I agree with March18 10;50 PM
    Don't really know this family well either, but know of them as many people in the community have always admired them for taking care of many special need children.
    However rumors spread and many people have expressed how zany his wife is and how
    she has problems not minding her business and has always called the police to report
    petty stuff on people near her home no less. Rumors are that she put that picket fence up
    around her house as a SPITE FENCE to make it harder for the neighbors to the south of
    her to have a harder time backing out of their driveway. If they were my neighbors I
    would have moved right after that-who needs that kind of aggravation.
    the people she did this to own some business or something so maybe that is why they
    still live there. If the accused was so great and a model citizen why could he not
    control his wife and her wacky behavior? I'm sure the police must know this is true about
    her because they get the calls and probably know ahead of time that the call is about
    something stupid. I also have heard that she is intimidating and will even spread lies
    about you (IF you cross her) or she does not like you and some lies have hurt many people
    and they then have to set people straight that whatever she lied about was not true.
    I think people must know so much more and they should share whatever knowledge
    they have about how quirky the wife is which really reflects a bad perception not only
    of her but her husband. I don't know many husbands that would accept
    this odd behavior and think their wife is normal. My husband would probably have me
    have a psyc evaluation or something. I hope maybe people that know even more that
    when added together paints a picture of a truly disfunctional marriage that explains
    perhaps why the accused said he has a biting fetish, maybe he was taking out his
    hostility on these poor girls instead of his wacky wife (HE SHOULD HAVE BIT HER)
    Honestly, there is probably a lot more than meets the eye here and I hope it
    does come out as it only proves how weird the two of them are thus the deviant behavior
    that the husband is accused of could really have a psychological (sick of course) deep
    seated reason that he took out on two girls that have had their childhoods taken away
    because they were sadly put there by DCFS by what was probably an Academy Award
    PERFORMANCE as the model couple. I too wish the girls had their own supporters in
    court as they are obviously up against the crazy wife who is more than capable of
    attracting nut cases like herself that fill the court in support of a pervert that
    she lived with it and probably created. My heart does go out to the children in the
    family. They are not at fault and I'm sure if they could speak honestly, they probably
    thought the parents were odd as they have I'm sure witnessed first hand on who
    really wears the pants in the family and is totally in charge: their mother.
    I think the people in their social circles should wake up and smell the coffee and
    start believing the perception they have of the couple they think they know and
    ACCEPT SOMETHING REALLY IS WRONG HERE. Maybe the police will start welcoming
    citizens that know the outrageous behavior of the wife. THey will then realize her own husband
    is afraid of her as she obviously was able to get away with her behavior by her husband
    who could not man up to her-but manned up to control and ruin two innocent lives
    that forever have to live with their nightmare and their lost childhood.(DISPICABLE)
    So, really March 19 11:29 your quotes listed do not mean a thing except for the fact
    that you too are one of the groupies as someone else on this blog called the likes of you–
    ………DRANK THE GASKILL KOOLAID and probably there is no hope for you
    and your pals as you not only drank it but OVERDOSED and their is no HOPE
    for all of you. Hopefully, you will face rehab when the girls have their voices heard
    in court and your KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOUR FALLS OFF HIS HORSE .

  49. Anonymous Mar 19 2:55, relevance to THIS case? As I said before, there have been atrocious cases where confessions were forced, but there is NO evidence of this. Even the defense has not brought that up.

    In the Caine case, Caine's name came up after police TORTURED another witness. In THIS case, the victims HAVE IDENTIFIED GASKILL, their adoptive father as the culprit.

    Insane and lame comparison.

  50. Just watch…people are now going to come forward and start saying some of the things they know about Gaskills. It is not going to be a pretty picture, they are not what they want you to think they are. Too many people have had trouble with them.

  51. I couldn't agree more with March 19, 2012 4:07 PM… "I think people must know so much more and they should share whatever knowledge they have…"

    Relaying isolated incidents may seem weak but when circumstantial evidence is cumulative, the weakness of such evidence is strengthened. As more people come forward, we can help to paint the complete picture. As a member of the same(former)parish and school as the Gaskills, I personally had many interactions where I was intimidated, mislead, and baffled by the behaviors of what I saw as a very dysfunctional and destructive mother. I found Rob to be very quiet, distant,and possibly worn down by a domineering wife. Their dedication and involvement was real but I began to doubt their motives and authenticity after a series of questionable incidents. This was my experience and I can speak for only myself and my family when I say that we knew pretty quickly that there was something "off".

  52. Not to point out the obvious but I have to agree with
    Rally said: March 19, 2012 4:32 PM…

    What is with the copying and pasting of bits from earlier posts, random irrelevant references, and cryptic posts? More meaningful contributions, insights, and/or coherent arguments would be appreciated.

  53. Why do people who "Don't really know this family well either" have so much slander and gossip to spread?

  54. River Forest police station is no way any shape or form a
    department that even comes close and could not be more
    opposite than CHICAGO POLICE DEPTS all around the Chicago
    area. If anything they are true professionals DEDICATED to
    the citizens of RF an are especially wonderful at protecting
    our precious children in the cmmunity.If a child is approached
    by a stranger, followed to school,have a pervert expose
    themselves not to mention child safety across the board
    they are totally on it and our children know that our
    officers will protect them and when apprehend perverts that
    prey on children the apprehended person is prosecuted to
    the full extent of the law and it is always one less stalker
    that is out being a threat to children in our town and
    elsewhere. What does this have to do with the Gaskill case?
    EVERYTHING-RF police have questioned many chid stalkers and
    would be abductors that match and fit the description from
    children that have had one of these nut-jobs stalk or
    try to entice them to come near their car. Many times they
    are able to arrest and charge the criminal with either an
    admission of guilt or evidence that stands up in court and
    are able to prosecute them to the punishment that fits their crime.Having said that,they are not amateurs at the art of
    questioning and dealing with persons that may or may not
    have comitted a crime. THere has never been anything reported
    on questionable police behavior or tactics in dealing with
    would be criminals at RF station. We are a small town and most
    citizens that have lived here long enough know many if not
    most of the officers by name. They in turn know many citizens
    and form opinions about a particular family or individual
    based on encounters with them their children and even get
    to know families that live in particular houses or blocks.
    Also, they are familiar with what articles are written in the local papers both RF and OP and no doubt even read about the
    Gaskills receiving a second place award for ADVOCACY of
    FOSTER CARE as well AS ADOPTION OF FOSTER CARE CHILDREN.

    The fact that one of our top seasoned officer on the force,
    Officer Rutz said Gaskill was well liked and respected in the community only shows that like others in the community that
    were snowed by the oh so perfect Gaskills he too bought into
    the fake persona of this couple.
    To use that quote and others like it only shows what a great
    job this couple did to make themselves appear superior to
    other families because they were so WONDERFUL taking in all
    these special needs children and wanted people to do
    back-flips over their generosity and love of children as
    they were so dedicated to children with special needs and or
    disabilities. Many sane families did not roll over and idolize
    them. Many if were really honest without fear of the wifes'
    singling them out would go on record and say the plain and
    simple truth: FOSTER CARE BECAME A LUCRATIVE BUSINESS FOR THEM.

    Supposedly ther are some kids that were recently returned to this home with the wacky mother. What is DCFS crazy?
    My answer is YES as well as SHAMEFUL.

    The girls need
    to know that many people commend them and respect them coming
    forward even knowing the fans of this couple are ready and
    have thrown them under the bus. GIRLS BE PROACTIVE IN YOUR
    PURSUIT OF JUSTICE and BECOME THE DRIVER OF THE BUS!

  55. Is this blog a source for slander and gossip? Some may perceive it that way. I don't though. Rather I see the recent posts as people who are very disappointed in Judge Love who determined Rob not to be a threat to society because of his courtroom supporters. Rob was given a break based on those around him that spoke highly of him. Rob's supporters have made slanderous remarks calling the accusers liars, mentally ill, disabled and vengeful. I think people realize now that the other side needs to be heard so that the Judge can understand the real picture who Rob is. There is a history of instability that needs to come out.

  56. It has been an interesting conversation today and I thank those commenters. I do need to mention that this case is NOT just about Robert but DCFS and what is looking like large gaps in their postplacement monitoring of the Gaskills. It also has further implications in that Robert worked for the Christian Alliance for Oprhans organization LYDIA home and Mary also at least volunteered for them, so just like the Sandusky case, this has overlap with other organizations. Unlike the Sandusky case, this case really is NOT publicized very far and there are not hotlines set up for more victims to come forward. Are the other 75 former foster children being sought out even? It is concerning.

  57. Wow this last post makes so much sense!
    I live in OP and don't even know this family
    but I have found even in the court hearing
    last Fri.that even the Judge was swayed and bought into
    this guy being so wonderful and with not one but two counts
    of sex abuse of two minors that were in his home and care
    was put on house arrest with a drastic reduction of
    the bail (50 mii was given to begin with as they were
    really saying no bail) and despite objections by the
    prosecution received leinency that he certainly does
    not deserve as the crimes that the grand jury indited him
    on are as henious as they come. What a travesty of justice.
    This guy should be in jail to trial as the victims
    were in their own private hell and living in a jail
    not a home and had not six weeks of being in prison
    but years of torment they had to endure and suffer
    silently. Hopefully, from what I have read on this blog
    many people could give insight inti the true nature
    of the accused and his wife that even operated a business
    called Tapestry out of their home and I bet it was not for
    free. THis is such a terrible story. For the victims
    sake hopefully their sad story will have a happy ending
    when their abuser is held accountable for his dispicable
    actions and he is held prisoner like they were only
    he will be a prisoner for many more years if convicted.
    Apparently, people in RF and OP have not heard of the
    saying "YOU CAN'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT's COVER"
    Hopefully, the jury will know that and dig DEEPER INTO
    THIS BOOK more thorughly than th JUDGE did in this case
    by not setting his bond at least to 25 million and
    totally ignoring the serious crimes he is accused of
    and did not even think of the victims that were in
    a jail almost their whole lifes without anyone bailing
    them out as they were helpless innocent children
    that no doubt lived in fear and now finally are out
    of jail and courageously are seeking justice for
    the living hell they lived in for years.
    God Bless and be with these young women and hopefully
    JUSTICE WILL BE SERVED by a intelligent jury that
    will read the whole book…. NOT JUST IT's COVER>

  58. Make sure to remember Judge Love next time you see her on a retention ballot:
    http://cookcountyjudges.com/judgeBios/Lovefull.html

  59. I have read and I am more convinced than ever that information of the character of this couple that is coming out now by
    people who have known them and or have had exposure to them
    at some point over the years have a whole wealth of info
    that when pieced together creates a good picture of phony
    and selfish people that made an income for a lifestyle
    that wanted for themselves and had nothing to do with
    having fun having lots of children as Mr. GAskill said in
    the interview for the Oak Leaves in 2009. FUN? Who are they
    kidding? Taking on children with special needs requires
    hard work, tons of love, and total dedication to making
    them grow healthy in body mind and spirit as well as making
    strides and sucesses in overcoming difficulties unique to
    that particular child. THe fact that they had eight is
    mind boggling. Unless you have a care giver working with
    each child (which is impossible) there is no way you can convince me these children needs were met except the bare
    minimum. They had their basic needs met and that was it.
    Sure out in public (in church especially) the family put on quite an act to garner the attention and adulation they
    craved by people who thought they were totally selfless and
    remarkable people. People that got close to them soon realized
    the only remarkable thing about them was that they were
    willing to take in as many kids as they could and were
    thinking of their bankbook and not the children the state
    placed in their care. DCFS should take every child out of that
    home as they are RESPONSIBLE for this horrible case to happen in the first place. I hope the victims can sue the state for
    their poor supervision and case studies as well as sue the
    family for the childhood that was taken away from the both
    of them forever and can never be replaced. They are to be
    respected and praised for having the courage now to face
    the demonic crimes they endured and face the accused now
    as young adults that are no longer the helpless little girls
    that suffered in silence for so many years.
    These girls need to know they are supported and that what
    happened to them was not their fault. When justice is served
    they can start their young lives and be very proud of the
    strong young women they are and that they are helping others
    that have suffered sex abuse to not suffer in silence and
    report their abuser and reclaim their life just like they
    are doing so courageously by finally seeking justice.
    The community of people that have anything to share with
    authorities should come forward and share what they know
    or have encountered or even witnessed to give the girls
    the support that the accused has received by people that
    think and believe from the Gaskills that these girls are
    so disturbed and unstable due to FAS. THese people better take
    a good look at the whole picture in this case and then decide
    who really is disturbed and unstable.

  60. How can children still be in the Gaskill home?

    Even if the charge is against only Mr. Gaskill. Mrs. Gaskill is standing by her husband and getting crowds of people to sit in the court room. It clear that she doesn't see the best interest of the child.

    How is possible that they would leave kids in her care!?! There were 5 kids in the initial artical – 1 boy (b/t 17-18 years old) and 4 girls — I would say all under 6.

    Perhaps they left the boy and took the girls? Does anyone know which children still remain in the family home?

    from 2009
    http://www.oakpark.com/News/Articles/06-23-2009/Running_for_Lucy

    http://rememberingtrecie.wordpress.com/

    http://www.oakpark.com/News/Articles/10-06-2009/Obituaries

  61. Re the message above, this is Crabbina responding. Thank you and all those previous posters who are willing to take a stance. We don't know all the facts, but for anyone to imply that FAS is the reason why two girls have come forward with details of abuse (setting themselves up for public exposure and the scorn of those on their parents' side) is very upsetting. From all the comments posted from those who know the family or live in the community, it's starting to become very apparent that this may well not have been the happy home and "forever family" so many assumed it was.

    I can tell you that after many years of tracking adoption filth, those who defend wrongdoing way overshadow those who try to stop it. The denial is so strong because to face what might be a horrible reality is too painful to contemplate. What if Super-Dad is actually a monster? What if Saintly Mom is really deeply disturbed and abusive? Kind of upends your faith in your own judgment, doesn't it.

  62. I knew Missy as a little girl (elementary grades), and it is breaking my heart to think of what she may have been enduring in those years. She was a darling. She was tenderhearted and thoughtful. She was intelligent and gifted in language arts. Her writing revealed a depth of character beyond her young years. The shift toward becoming an angry, troubled young woman seemed to come around high school. It was very, very sad.

    I knew Amber, too. She had learning challenges, and I don't know that she would be able to participate in an elaborate lie for any extended period of time. I also remember her having a speech impediment, and I didn't know why it was not being addressed.

    It seems very plausible to me that these women have come forward out of concern for another foster child in the Gaskill house. Over the past couple of years, Gaskills were working to another little girl into the "family". That little girl is Missy and Amber's sister.

  63. I see that Anonymous 03/20 10:12 has posted the link to the article "Remembering Trecie" Here's what I remember about Trecie: When Trecie lived longer than the doctors had predicted, a social worker, according to Mary, had come into the house and found that the only room in the house suitable to be made into a space for the child and her equipment was the dining room. Mary was flipping out and whining to me, "I can't give up my dining room! I don't want to hurt my family!" I was floored. Wasn't Trecie part of the family? My family would have upended our own tiny house to care for the dog, let alone a baby we loved.

    That article shows a beautiful picture of Maura with Trecie. Maura took on a lot of the childcare obligations in that household. I believe she and her husband are caring for children taken out of Mary's house.

  64. Good luck to everyone that would like to cram the court in
    support of the victims who totally deserves supporters putting
    a face on the all too frequent scenerio that takes place in
    a larger proportion in foster homes than the general population
    that this case has brought to light ( and for all children
    everywhere in general. The reason being is a lot of the people
    (not all of them) actually know and have had experiences
    with (the wife) and know they will unleash a tiger into
    the community that they have to live in. The fury and
    retaliation by the intimidating nature of this woman
    is a force of nature that can not be reckoned with.
    Years of her spiteful and erratic and revengeful nature
    are her signature in RF whenever she is crossed
    in any way shape or form. Many times her vindictivenes
    has caused many people to fear and stay away from her as
    she has been the way she is for years.

    I think if you are citizens
    that have followed this case and feel disgusted by the
    cramming of the court room by her loyal followers, you
    could help if you are not someone she does not know by
    organizing and getting other people that feel the same way
    to stand up and show up in court and sit on the prosecution
    side as advocates for the victims in this case.

    Help these victims also by writing letters to support them
    and encourage them. Let them know there are many many people that
    admire their courage to come forward and urge them to not
    be afraid of the accused and his wife no longer and TESTIFY
    IN COURT WITHOUT THE VEIL OF FEAR THEY LIVED WITH FOR ALMOST
    HALF THEIR CHILDHOOD. URGE them to take the stand and TELL
    THE JURORS THE NIGHTMARE THEY WERE MADE TO SUFFER AND LOOK
    THERE ABUSER IN THE EYE AND FINALLY TELL HIM WHAT HELL
    THEY HAD TO GO THROUGH.
    THE rest of the people
    that have info either call, write, or talk with authorities
    and write a letter even if you want that the authorities can share with the victims and like the defendent the letters
    may be submitted to this judge and open her eyes that she
    has been duped big time like so many others have in the past.
    Stand up and help these girls have the SUPPORT THEY NEED AND
    DESERVE. ACT NOW THE SOONER THE BETTER!

  65. March 20th 12:PM YOU ARE SO RIGHT!

    PEOPLE NEED TO BE PRO-ACTIVE STARTING NOW.
    THIS BLOG HAS BEEN A REAL EYE-OPENER.
    PEOPLE HAVE BEEN SHARING INFO BECAUSE THEY
    ARE ABLE TO SEE THE VENOM TOWARD THE VICTIMS
    COME OUT OF THE MANY GASKILL GOD SQUAD THAT
    BELIEVE MARY THAT THESE KIDS ARE TRASH AND
    LIARS THAT ARE COMPLETELY INCOMPETENT AND
    EXTREMELY DIMENTED DUE TO FAS.
    THE GOD SQUAD BELIEVES ALL OF THIS AS IT
    WOULD MAKE THEM REALLY FEEL BETRAYED AND
    STUPID FOR PLACING THESE PEOPLE ON A PEDESTAL
    SO HIGH THAT THEY ARE ALREADY IN HEAVEN AND
    HOW DARE ANYONE TELL THEM ANYTHING DIFFERENT.

    WELL GOD SQUAD HOLD ONTO YOUR SEATS AND TRASH
    TALKING TWO YOUNG GIRLS WHO HAD THEIR CHILDHOOD
    AND INNOCENCE TAKEN AWAY AT VERY YOUNG AGES
    AND ENDURED THE UNTHINKABLE FOR HALF OF THEIR
    YOUNG LIVES.

    ANY ADULT THAT CAN TRASH TALK AND SAY REPREHENSIBLE
    STATEMENTS THAT THEY WERE TOLD BY THESE PEOPLE
    SHOULD LOOK IN THE MIRROR. IF YOU ARE OR ARE NOT
    PARENTS YOU TOO WERE ONCE AN INNOCENT CHILD.
    PLACE YOURSELVES IN THE SHOES OF THESE TWO NOW
    GROWN GIRLS. YOU PEOPLE WHO PROFESS TO BE SO
    CHRISTIAN RECITING BIBLE VERSUS NO LESS THAT
    YOU HAVE USED AGAINST THESE GIRLS TO PROVE
    THAT THESE GIRLS ARE THROW-AWAYS AND WORTHLESS
    BECAUSE YOU HANG ON EVERY LIE THAT THE FAMILY
    HAS PUT OUT THERE ARE NOT WHAT YOU PROFESS TO
    BE EITHER AND ARE NO DIFFERENT THAN THE PEOPLE
    YOU ARE SO SURE ARE SO PERFECT AND COULD NOT
    POSSIBLY BE TARNISHED IN ANYWAY AS YOU STUPID
    PEOPLE HAVE PUT HALOS ON THEIR HEADS AND HEAR
    ANGELS SING WHENEVER YOU ARE AROUND THEM.

    PEOPLE WHO HAVE KNOWN THE GASKILLS MORE AND
    LONGER THAN ALL OF YOU NO BETTER. (BY THE WAY THEY
    COLLECT FRIENDS FOR A TIME AND WHEN FRIENDS START
    CATCHING ON TO THEIR GIG THEY ARE BANISHED FROM
    THE GASKILL KINGDOM FOREVER).
    TREAD CAREFULLY YOU ARE IN DANGEROUS WATERS.
    THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS COUPLE
    HAPPILY JUMPED SHIP A LONG TIME AGO RATHER
    THAN EXPERIENCE WHAT CAN ONLY BE DESCRIBED
    AS BEHAVIOR AND NEGATIVETY TOWARD THEIR
    FOSTER CHILDREN EVEN IN THE CHID'S PRESENCE.

    SO HOLD ON TO THEIR WINGS AND GET READY FOR PEOPLE
    ON THIS BLOG AND THOSE THAT ARE NOT TO COME OUT
    AND SUPPORT THESE GIRLS IN ANY WAY THEY CAN.

    BLOGGERS AND OTHER ADVOCATES FOR THESE TWO GIRLS
    GET BUSY NOW! ORGANIZE PEOPLE THAT WANT TO BE
    SITTING ON THE PROSECUTION SIDE BECAUSE THEY
    CARE AND MAKE SURE MARY DOES NOT KNOW YOU AS THERE
    WILL BE HELL TO PAY. THE REST OF THE PEOPLE IN THE
    COMMUNITY E-MAIL THE DETECTIVES, CALL THEM, WRITE
    LETTERS TO THE JUDGE SUPPORTING MISTY and Amber and SUPPORT THEM AS WE ARE RF A TOWN THAT LOVES ALL CHILDREN AND VALUE EACH AND EVERYONE OF THEM.

  66. Couple questions…..

    Does it makes sense anyone that several children would be in Mrs. Gaskill's care? The initial news report said 5 children were removed. Now several are in her care….what? Could an investigation be concluded and the children returned to her? I don't understand that at all

    Second I noticed when the 16March article came out it had the the girls first names. The article was edited to now say victim1 and victim2. Is that because the abuse occured when they were minors to the paper can't print???

  67. I remember many different children that lived in the Gaskill household in the early years of their foster care.They were always the first to share with whoever would listen each child's diagnosis, family status and abuse history. It was so sad. People who were supposed to protect them had no respect or basic understanding of the children's right to privacy. My only guess is that sharing this information fulfilled some need for attention. I can't figure out why else they would want to expose these vulnerable children in the community like that.

  68. I have also witnessed Mary Gaskill spouting personal information about the children in her care. It was uncomfortable. Another thing…she also seemed to create or imagine physical and mental problems some of these children had which I don't think they did have. Even saying both of these girls have FAS. Is that really true?

    Would it make a difference to show up at the courthouse? I would like to show support for the girls. I also am afraid of Mary. What could be done?

  69. March 20 10:42 I too remember vividly that the Gaskills
    did not respect or guard the childrens' privacy and almost could not wait to let you know a child's personal histoty
    which never should be shared with anyone at all.
    It is very sad and even when the children were older they
    still talked about their backround in front of the child
    or children. I think they were just plain mean and it
    spoke volumes on how they viewed their role as foster parents.
    They truly did not care about these children and they seemed
    to enjoy talking about the unfortunate circumstances that
    caused them to be wards of the state by DCFS and in need of
    foster care. Unfortunately, the word PARENT is in the word
    and definition of Foster Parent. Parent was not the role
    they took on. They were CUSTODIANS of these poor children
    and nothing more. If they were really Foster Parenting these
    children they would have had their privacy respected and
    loved and treated as they treated their own biological
    children. THese children were just little people that they had
    to put up with and many times treated as if they didn't
    exist as a lot of times they were not even around when
    they were visiting someone with their biological children.
    They were always second fiddle and as the children grew up
    they knew that their so called parents could care less about them and they knew they really would never be real members
    of this family even if legally adopted and given the name
    Gaskill.

  70. I do not live in RF. Why are people so afraid of Mary Gaskill? I've heard she's quick to file a law suit… does anyone have solid info? I do know she sued her last employer when she was let go; I'm pretty sure they were happy just to give her $$ so she would go away. Also, does anyone know the true story of why she got kicked out of St. Luke's?

    I knew the girls and have reason to believe their claims, and am thinking I should speak up — but want to know what I may be getting myself into.
    Thanks for any helpful info.

  71. Anonymous 12:41PM: If you do know the girls and can vouch for their character, I am sure that would be greatly appreciated and possibly necessary in this case. Please consider giving that support.With so many children fostered, there may be other victims who may come forward…

  72. To
    March 21 2012 12:09 AM In regards to the qustion you raised
    about wanting to go to court and sit on the prosecution side
    whether the girls are strong enough to be in court and
    perhaps testify or not. I hear your concerns loud and clear.
    I like you know for a fact and have witnessed Mary tell
    as many people has she could that the chidren in her care,
    especially Misty and Amber always bringing up the fact that
    they were FAS babies which if true is no one's dam business
    nor does it DEFINE who these girls are and that if true
    if you knew the girls (I am assuming you do) if it was
    true or not one of her many lies; the girls were progressing
    well in school and if they were so mentally disturbed, there
    would be documentation as well as intervention as we have
    one of the TOP school disricts in the state. Our teachers,
    social workers, and principals now and past, are top notch
    and very perceptive and pro-active when a child is
    struggling in academics, social behavior, and obvious
    behavior that the school Dist. would have our Dist.
    psychologist and evaluate the child and then make
    a judgement on how or if their needs should be addressed
    if they were in his jugement in need of prompt psychiatric
    evaluation and treatment.
    Mary also was a borderline mother that presented the
    disorder of (sp? may be incorrect: Munchowsin ) It
    is a disorder that mothers make up physical or mental
    symptons of a child as they themselves have problems
    and want attention on themselves not really the child.
    However, many believe Mary wanted everyone to believe
    these children were needy both mentally and physically andin
    some other childrens' cases, as what would she do if they
    were perceived as bright, overcoming problems they may
    or may not have? It would totally change what the state
    was paying them extra money for. If the children were
    mainstreamed without SP. ED services she would loose
    a substantial amount of money by the state.
    To go around putting a label of FAS whether true or not
    was her way of diminishing these children and putting
    a stigma on them that affected the girls sel-esteem
    immensely as they heard her talk about them even when they
    were in ear shot which was not only sad but despicable.
    She NEVER would do that to one of her BIO. children.

    What do we do? We have a wonderful professional police/
    detective force that will listen and take information off
    the record without diclosing our name. You can call the
    non-emergency # and ask to speak with detectives on the
    case and they will appreciate any info that will give them
    more insight into this case. It is IMPORTANT for the
    girls sake to give them the support they need NOW.
    We watched them suffer silently over the years and
    were concerned, sad, and heartbroken as we too were
    as helpless as they were as to report ANYTHING to DCFS
    and if she knew your identity there woud be hell to pay.
    This is a very serious case and it is not only RIGHT
    but necessary to help our force so they can paint the
    full picture of a horrible woman whose only
    interest was not the children, it was all about
    money so she could lavish and spoil her bio. kids
    and treat the children in her care as nothing
    more than borders in her home. So DO IT ASAP and tell
    other with info to do the same. IT does not even
    require a trip to the station and it is more helpful
    to have a dialog with the DET. than an e-mail.
    WE CITIZENS OF RF PROTECT ALL OUR CHILDREN: THESE
    GIRLS NEED ARE HELP AS THEY HAD NO PROTECTION THEIR
    WHOLE LIFE!

  73. Totally Agree with the blogger for people who know and have
    experienced "THE OTHER SIDE OF THE PERFECT WHITE GASKILL FENCE". I too am someone who has seen personally and heard
    from the mother herself criticizing, relaying private info
    on the two victims especially; but sadly the other children as well. The damage she alone did to these children is not a crime
    that she can be charged with except perhaps if those of us
    that knew the family(THE PARENTS) and reported the damage
    she was inflicting which some of us unfortunate enough to
    witness firsthand to DCFS maybe these girls might have
    been removed and no other child would have been placed with them. Looking back, we all know why we did not report her
    as she is feared by many myself included and there would be
    hell to pay. I wish I would have now, as I realize she could be reported to the police and have a restrining order put on her. However,even if that happened she would find other
    devious ways to make life miserable for not only you
    but your own family. WE can HELP NOW I AGREE AND WE OWE THAT
    TO THE GIRLS WHO KNOW HOW CRAZY SHE IS BUT STILL NOT ONLY
    FACED THE CRIMES OF THE ACCUSED BUT FACED AND KNEW THEY
    WOULD CONTINUE TO FACE BY HEARING ALL THE STILL AWFUL THINGS
    SHE IS TELLING EVERYONE THAT WILL LISTEN TO HELP HER HUBAND
    BT GETTING AWAY WITH HIS TORMENT JUST AS SHE HAS GOTTEN
    AWAY WITH IT (DUPING DCFS AND OTHER PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITY)
    ALL THESE YEARS. DCFS BETTER WAKE UP AS SHE STILL HAS
    CHILDREN IN HER CARE THAT SHE OPENLY TELLS THEIR PRIVATE
    INFO IN FRONT OF THEM AS WELL.
    PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITY NEED TO SPEAK WITH THE AUTHORITIES
    AND THEY WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR YOUR COMPASSION ANDGOOD
    CITIZENSHIP AND THEY WILL NOT DISCLOSE YOUR NAME AND
    EVEN THOUGH OFF THE RECORD THIS INFO WILL GO ALONG WAY
    TO HELP THEM UNDERSTAND THE FAMILYS'BEHAVIOR AND IT IS
    PERTENENT AS IT SHOWS HOW LITTLE THESE CHILDREN WERE
    CARED FOR AND RESPECTED. IT TOTALLY EXPLAINS WHY ABUSE
    BY THE ACCUSED IS NOT A LIE MADE UP BY THESE GIRLS AS
    THE GASKILLS ARE TELLIN EVERYONE.
    SO DO WHAT IS RIGHT-PICK UP THE PHONE AND TALK TO A DETECTIVE
    ON THE CASE AND HELP THESE GIRLS FINNALLY HAVE JUSTICE
    SERVED

    LET"S MAKE THIS FORUM A FORUM OF ACTION AS WELL
    NOT JUST BLOGGING ABOUT WHAT WE KNOW.

  74. To the blogger that does not live in RF your question on
    why people are so afraid of her is: she will send you hate
    mail, she will spread lies about you and your family,
    and chidren no less. She will do everthing she could possibly
    think of and then some to hurt you anyway her screwed up mind can think of. The other question about her last job (CALVERY
    Church} I attend there frequently. There was a problem with her
    work ethics that could not be resolved and the churh sent out a letter rgarding her mutal aggrement with them to leave
    her job immediately and I do believe she received severnce
    pay for awhile, and yes they wished her well in the letter
    but asked the chuch community not to gossip among each other
    and yes they were happy to have her leave as it was so evident after she was not there.
    AS for ST. Luke I never went there but knoe people that attend sevices there and I was told she falsely accused
    a priest (who was innocent-an investigation was done)
    of making inappropriate advances of a sexual nature
    toward her. The parish was stunned, she was driven out
    of the parish as people knew it was a lie and lost friends
    and her family even suffered for awhile. Why she did this
    no one I talked to knew, but her mind was obviously disturbed and in the gutter I might add.
    I also believe the girls. IF you do have something to share
    on their behalf as you knew them, like other people that are
    contacting RF detectives they will protect your privacy
    and will be grateful of info that you can and should give
    to help them prosecute this case.You will not be getting
    yourself into anything. Your info will be off the record and perhaps even investigated. You will feel so good to at least
    be able to that for the girls and what you have to share
    can only help them and not harem them. There are so many adults that are accusing these girls of all kinds of things
    including serious mental illness and lack of intelligence as well.It is refreshing to finally see people coming forward
    and helping these girls and they deserve help as they never
    received any help from this family-only suffering and misery.

  75. I do not know this woman personally. I have heard about her
    from people I know and nothing they said (Years Ago) was
    good. People sighted many of the things I have been reading on this blog, so I am not shocked of these girls suffering
    sexual abuse in that home. I heard the girls have no reason to lie as the family is telling everyone who will listen.
    It is my opinion that all of these things put together
    point to a high probability that the crimed did happen
    as what kind of husband is he? He know doubt was nuts or
    perhaps he was afraid of her as well and was too passive
    and let her call the shots. Which brings me to a point
    In would like to make. I would appreciate the people that know the two of them write on this blog if they have thought of this and agree. I think the girls were abused as the husband
    can't be quite right in the head as he obviously allowed
    his wife to be so notorious in the community with her numerous acts of craziness toward other people she had it out for.
    Also, I think the two of them were partners in crime period.
    Reading what people who know them say is a real eye opener.
    It is obvious it was a business for them to make money.
    I read the article in the Oak Park paper that they even managed to run some type of foster care business out of their
    home called Tapestry. I can't believe they had the time with
    all those needy kids but I think if it involved making money
    they did it for profit only. I looked it up on line and what
    a surprise the sight was removed and no longer exsists.
    I think both of them did not respect these girls, love,
    them and be parents to them. Is it any wonder that left to his own devices he took away the girls innocent childhoods for
    a reportedly long time (years) and the girls paid a huge
    price-their lives were totally ruined by his sickness
    and it was giong on after reading this blog while his
    wife did everything she could by taking their self esteem
    and selfworth by her treatment of them and trashing them
    verbably to others even when they were around.
    It is too bad she isn't on trial along with him.
    She is just as despicable as he is.
    These girls deserve justice and if the jury after hearing
    what their life was like as a whole they will be sickened
    as well. It is hard to read thi stuff without shedding tears
    for these girls. I hope they get all the support they can
    and I for one (they would not know me) will be sitting
    on the prosecution side. Hopefully, when the verdict is read
    and justive served for these girls suffering I along with
    many will be shedding tears only when that happens the tears
    wiil be of joy.

  76. Has anyone suggested RF Detectives set up a hot-line
    for people that have info to share can call and give
    info they have? I think the RF Dectives or police should set up and post it on line or in the RF newspaper as the Gaskills
    had many people come and go in their life (until people
    reached the conclusion that they were off and Mary was crazy)
    They went through friends like wildfire. That in itself tells
    you they were strange.
    If RF police did set up a hot-line they will get many tips
    as they knew tons of people that knew them during the middle 90's and even presently. They belonged to the RF tennis club
    and hung around many of the members there. Mary also was
    involved in that child care place in Oak Park that takes
    chidren in until they can be reunited with their families
    again. I think she also volunteered there.
    So with all these contacts there has to be more info on
    how they parented the childen they took in and what people
    perceived or learned about them from theirsocializing
    with the two of them as well as the children.

  77. ATT: River Foresters and Oak Parkers
    If you come across and have read this blog for the
    first time and feel like many people that have
    come to the young victims aide in support, concern
    and want the girls to prevail in putting this
    foster and or adoptive father in jail where he
    belongs as these girls would not make this up
    as they are grown now and I'm sure they were or
    are expecting their FST parents to say the most
    horrible and despicable things to convince
    their circle of religious fanatics that the
    charges are bogus and these girls are either
    mentally ill or just plain liars.
    I ask you, why would the girls knowing their FST P's
    horrible vindictive nature draw attention to
    themselves and read or hear what the couple are
    spreading around about them?
    These girls are not only extremely brave but
    contrary to the FST parents lies they are
    intelligent and know right from wrong.
    They suffered for a long time and were
    silent for obvious reasons.
    Think of what they would be up against, not
    to mention their tender ages when their life
    was upside down. In the beginning, I bet
    they thought that was some kind of special
    attention with dad as they were so young.
    When older they knew they could not tell
    anyone as they knew nobody would believe
    them based on all their FST parents fans.
    Also, predators are more than capable of
    keeping them in a state of fear with so
    many manipulations that they lived like
    this was just their fate and obviously
    were so scared that they carried this deep
    secret like a noose around their neck.
    Help them now. Put yourself in their place
    right now. Think about how difficult but
    neessary exposure of the accused that did
    this to them. They never had anybody but
    each other. No one was in their corner, and
    even now adults there are adults that beleive a
    a perfect FST parent like the defendent could
    possibly comitt the crimes he is accused of.
    Please consider
    even if you are known and are
    recognizable to the FST parents stand up to
    them and sit with the prosecution
    side as that is the right thing to do.
    What can Mary really do to you now?
    She and her husband are in serious trouble
    already. I doubt she will want the police to
    come to her door with charges of harasment
    or other threating behavior.
    Those of you out there that do not know them
    but believe these girls are telling the truth
    go to court as well on their behalf.
    Also, if you have info to share that will help the girls case
    in any way, call the RF police and they will protect
    your privacy because they have had many dealings
    with her themselves and know her to be difficult.
    Everyone that cares about abuse of children of
    sexually, physically and mentally need to do
    whatever you can and help these girls recieve
    the justice they truly deserve.
    Help remove that noose they have been carrying
    around their necks for most of their life.
    Don't let them down.

  78. What kind of husband was he? On more than one occasion, I heard him introduce himself as "Mr. Mary Gaskill."

  79. DCFS needs letters wriiten to them as well.
    There are no excuses that they could possibly
    make to defend themselves on totally not seein
    the Gaskills for the leeches they are.
    They had four children of their own. The
    fact that they had as many as eight foster/adopted
    children on top of the four is insanatity.
    Did they think the couple had super human
    parenting powers?
    I will never understand this horrible mistake
    that did not have to happen in the first place.
    To place eight special needs children some with
    serious health problems as well is unreal.
    They did not even pick up on the motivation
    of this couple. To keep wanting and asking and
    actually being allowed to have that many did
    not even ring the bell for them.
    How did they miss what everyone around them knew
    for years? They made foster-care a business to
    garner big money from the tax payers of this state
    (tax free) and the reason there were and never have
    been children placed in the home without special
    needs is the difference in money the state pays
    as special needs chidren placed in a FST. home
    get a whole lot of more money.
    What a surprise? How lame are the case-workers
    supervisors and up? They obviously did not do
    a home-study that required really examinig
    why they were so bent on FST care of Sp needs
    children when apparently their yougest child was
    the same age as the Misty the older sister of
    Amber. I'm sure the biological child that was
    the youngest had a hard time making room for
    a child her age appearing out of the blue
    and sharing the attention from the parents.
    DCFS should have seen trouble right ther and then.
    I'm sure the two girls could have gone to a couple
    either with one older child or better yet, no
    other children in the home.
    What is there explanation by constantly adding
    more and more children to the home?
    Also, what were they thinking that they let up
    to 75 infants and or toddlers over the years
    that stayed for short periods as well as long
    periods while they had their handsful already?
    So many questions that the media has not even
    discussed. Someone else on this blog said the
    girls should be able to sue the state as well as
    a civil suit on the Gaskill family.
    I hope they can and are able to sue both.
    There is no amount of money that can
    make up for their lost childhood and the
    suffering they have had to endure thaks to
    DCFS and these money grubber parents.
    My advice is beside writing letters to the girls
    that will support them (maybe the girls can send
    them to the judge) or give them to the state
    attorney office to let the juge read).
    The judge obviously has not evaluated this
    case with sound judgement as she denied the
    prosecutions request for no bail.
    Since when does a defendenet charged with two
    class X felonies get no bail because of a bunch of
    nut jobs show up in court and write letters
    that the man is perfect and above the law
    because he like his wife put on a good act
    as "a great family man"
    Totally not impressed with this judge.
    She should receive letters as well.
    Thank God this case will be heard by a jury.

  80. To MARCH 21, 11:07PM The comment that the husbans made
    on more than one occasion is
    really a true admission on
    his part as he knew he was
    not the one that was in charge
    of anything unless his wife
    put him in charge of whatever she wanted
    out of him that she would benefit from.
    He was home holding the fort down
    more than she was, as she tried to
    be a social butterfly to keep up
    the appearances. Also, she took her
    bio kids every where while MR. Mary
    Gsskill was home with the FST. children.

  81. I read these posts this morning. I have been out of town on
    a business trip for a week and have not kept up on this blog.
    I have learned so much more than I knew about the Gaskills
    who I have encountered at RF TENNIS CLUB in the past.
    I aleays saw them with their bio kids and their bio kids
    even took tennis lessons with my children (same age groups).
    Their children were very nice and my children looked
    forward to seeing them at the pool as well besides the
    many wonderful children oriented events that the club has
    for them to enjoy. Thinking back, when thet started adding
    foster children to their home, the children were seldom
    there with either parent. I believe I saw Mary once or twice
    in passing when the fst. children (the two girls) were little
    in towe and she stopped and told me she was now parenting
    these two girls (she said temporarily at that time).
    I was surprised but I knew them to be quite involved with
    their bio kids that I thought it was nice and as long as she
    was happy to help other children she should be commended.
    I rememder the two girls reminded me of the Olsen twin
    girls that were on the show FULL HOUSE and thought they were
    so cute. Mary did tell me that the reason she had then temporarily was that they were taken or I forgot relenquished
    while thei bio mom was in rehab or something like that.
    She went on to say they were FAS babies and were likely to
    have learning problems because of FAS. I felt really sad
    for the childrens' circunstances but I thought at least
    they were in a good home with a loving family as I saw
    the couple with their bio children and knew the to be
    involved and protective of them at the club.
    I never really seen the two girls as often as the bio,
    maybe a few times. It has been a long time so it is hard
    to remember. Ther were times when I saw the whole fanmily
    in passing but I did not see the twolittle girls and I
    assumed they were no longer with the family and thought
    nothing of it. Later, I learned the girls were staying
    for an indefinite amount of time and I still did not see
    them that much at the club. I did see them once or a few times
    at the kiddie pool while one or two of her bio children
    were at the pool for a free swim.
    My kid and her bio kids are all grown up now and I still
    an a member of the club but the family has not been here
    for quite a long time. I totally lost touch except for hearing
    from my own children and other people that they had added
    quite a few more FST kids to their family and that the little girls were permanetely in their care. I marvelved
    at how they could keep up with a houseful of needy chidren
    as well as their own and because of the FST children
    having Sp needs I felt that they would have many difficulties
    keeping up with their own childrens' lives and numerous
    activities. I have heard many of the same things
    already mentioned on this blog. I am deeply saddened for the
    two girls and I will never forget their cute little faces
    the day I first them. I hope the girls do get support from our
    community, and the community responds with info to authorities not only what they know from the girls early years
    but their high-school years as well. I heard they were very
    unhappy teens and who could blame them if depression came
    their way with a life that through no fault of their own
    was a living hell and total nightmare. It is amazing to me
    how far they have come from being totally helpless to
    now realizing they finally are no longer helplless
    and are having their voices heard.

  82. To Rally and or Crabbina, Do you think the girls will testify
    in a case like this that would be
    very hard to do in a courtroom
    full of people, especially
    seeing the accused and his wife
    who apparently did not make their
    life easier from what I have read
    on this blog?
    Also, will it hurt their case if they
    choose no to?
    Will the prosecutors prepare them for
    the vicious nature of what the defense
    will be saying about them from the
    exaggerated and fabricated lies that
    the family has said and will have their
    lawyer say in open court about them?
    Also, in these cases is it your
    opinion and experience from following
    cases like this one that the accused
    will have to take the stand?
    I am just wondering if the victims do
    not testify will it hurt their case?
    They are young adults now; but I
    would think it would be difficult
    reliving the abuse they suffered
    as little girls.
    Also, will the court let citizens that
    want to sit on the prosecution side
    to support the girls even if they
    may not be in court during the trial?
    I know these are a lot of questions
    but I personally have never been
    involved in a trial case and I do
    want to be there for the girls
    as this family has their clan of
    supporters who are viciously telling
    the lies that the Gaskills would like
    them to spread around to boost
    their portrayal of these girls
    as totally deranged and liars.
    It sickens me that the girls may not
    have many people supporting them
    unless people like myself attend
    court and sit on the states' side.

  83. I want to thank everyone again for sharing such amazing details for our readers!To the commenter just above: I can only speculate on all of your really great questions (many of which I share). I *hope* that the emotional well-being of the victims is taken into consideration. They are adults now, so I don't know if they will receive less consideration but maybe they could be videotaped in. I am not familiar with that courtroom to know.I would think that they would have to testify in some manner as that will be key for the prosecution and I feel that they could really benefit from character witnesses.If the prosecutor is good, he should prepare them. I think they would be prepared. So far as I can tell, the court is still open to the public and in other cases in other parts of the country, those that want to be there to support the victims are allowed.

    Sometimes the issue is that the court dates aren't publically announced -hard to come by the information. Some jurisdictions are completely transparent and you can search criminal cases online for ALL upcoming court dates. Others, like this county do not have that available. I *think* you can call the court and ask if they will disclose that.The worst they could say is No we can't release that information.

  84. Okay, I've printed up the 37 pages (so far) of this blog, and I am sending the package to Judge Love at the Maybrook Courthouse, with a note saying that I want to speak on behalf of the girls, but with the condition that my identity be protected from Mary Gaskill.

    Could someone also make sure that DCFS and the RF police and the girls' prosecutor are made aware of this blog?

    The next court date, as published in the local papers, is April 26. So far, these published dates have been true.

  85. I preface these comments by saying that any interaction between my family and the Gaskills was terminated more than a decade ago. However, having known the Gaskills and their family for many years,I was initially dumbfounded by Missy and Amber's allegations of sexual abuse by their Father, Rob. You see, I began to think of Rob Gaskill as a victim of domestic abuse. I still believe that he was/is and in his sick little world, he made Missy and Amber, his victims.

  86. He did not confess! There is not written or audio confession. Just a statement by ONE policeman. The media is presenting this as a one sided story. Look into it before you spew lies! These girls if you look at their record with the police have a history of lying to the police! You know nothing about this case. I cannot believe the media is so one sided on this. This case is reminding me of the one in Florida right now except that this guy is not black so no one is there to protest this. Everyone thinks these girls are so innocent. Well look into it further. Not every child is innocent and rushing to judgement is not right. There has been NOTHING reported on the other side. I am so ashamed at the media and the police seem very corrupt. Who gets a report by two girls with a history of lying to the police and doesn't look one speck into the other side of things??? It seems as though the police want him to be guilty. Maybe since it's an election year? They think it will be this huge case or something. Based on what I've been reading in the news I feel something is up here. There is nothing reported on the other side and it looks like they've investigated nothing! Shameful.

  87. This page makes me sick! This man has not even been convicted! The media has been very biased not reporting on the other side at all. As a person who does believe in good and being just and fair you need to look into both sides. Something the police and media have not done at all. I am not saying that this could never happen but I would NEVER EVER say someone is guilty before being proven innocent. Which is what everyone is doing and is not how the law is supposed to work! If this were the other way around there is no way the media would be reporting like this. This is America where you should get a fair trial. I guess not anymore. And people who make accusations when they know nothing about the real case or before a person has been tried are sickening human beings. If you want to make a rush judgement wait at least until this man has been proven guilty or innocent. I am ashamed of everyone on here!

  88. This man did not confess. He pleaded not guilty. There was no confession. There is a statement by a policeman who said he confessed but is there a written or audio confession? I haven't read about one. I watch tv. I know it's nothing like real life but if anything I know how they can twist your words into something different. This guy was stupid for going with the police but if anything I bet he thought he was innocent so why not. That is one thing I always tell people. Don't go with police if you don't have to and don't speak without your lawyer. This can be an example for anyone else in this situation. Never speak without your attorney present. I believe had he not gone there he might not have been in jail. From what I read and having witnessed a false accusation and a true one in my life you need to have a good lawyer and don't say anything without them. In both cases the family's lives were completely ruined. If this man is innocent and it's anything like what I've seen in the past, this family will lose everything. FYI this can happen to anyone. I actually thought it would be nice one day to be a foster parent one day but now after reading about this case there is no way in ____ I'd ever do that. I hope that each side is represented fairly because if this man is innocent he will probably lose everything, reputation, money, family…if these girls are lying they won't have lost anything. You say that there are plenty of cases on here where a man did this and he was a foster parent but there are also plenty of cases where children lie. We can't just rush to judgement because these were children. They are making these accusations as adults and if they are true then that is very sad but we don't know so both sides need to be represented fairly.

  89. Sarah, I do not know how long you have known this family.
    Yes, we all KNOW this man has not been convicted
    and innocent until proven guilty.People that have
    come forward with their EXPERIENCES and WITNESSING
    FIRSTHAND the family as it evolved over an EXTENDED
    period of time feel compelled obviously to come
    forward and reflect on a couple that portrayed
    themselves as fst. parents that were too amazing
    for words.

    Go back on this blog and read CRABBINA

    She is an expert on this blog her name appears on the
    homepage of this forum).
    In your outrage expressed you say "this is not how the
    the law is supposed to work" How is it that this blog
    expressing concern and support of these two girls
    with real life experiences as well as witnessing
    how the girls were not valued even early on by this
    this couple, any different than what the Gaskill
    Groupies have and are doing defending the accused
    as being so pure and pristine and absoluely the
    best father that ever walked the planet?
    They have written character refs to the judge,
    they have crammed the court room even breaking
    court rules by standing up when the accused enters
    or leaves, and go around spreading the mosr awful
    demining comments about these two girls being so
    mentally disturbed and total liars and are even
    still telling people about the girls having FAS
    at birth.
    Many of these people NEVER WITNESSED HEARD IN PERSON
    how these girls were devalued by this family.
    (PROBABLY NONE) as the Gaskills always manage to
    attract new friends that get sucked into their web
    of lies and USE these people to place them on
    a new pedastal as they have been knocked off
    so many it isn't even funny.
    Read Mar. 19 6:14 PM-"Relaying isolated incidents
    may seem weak but when circumstantial evidence is
    cumalative, the weakness of such evidence is
    strengthened as MORE PEOPLE COME FORWARD SO
    we can help PAINT THE COMPLETE PICTURE"
    Sorry you don't like the picture that is now
    being PAINTED of this horrible and deplorable
    case that is the outcome from many of the examples
    and reasons that people have known and been AWARE
    of for along time.These people want to help
    because many of us just stopped sociallizing
    with them when we should have reported our
    concerns to DCFS. In our defense at the time,
    we did not report what we saw and heard as Mary
    would have denied it antway and if she KNEW
    YOUR IDENTITY she is so disturbed that you
    and your family would have HELL TO PAY>
    Do I need to say more?

  90. Officer Rutz who has been in River Forest a long time
    and was quoted as saying that everything he knew or perceived of Mr.Gaskill was that he was well known and
    liked in the community. I would think that if Officer Rutz
    was at the station or even called in on the case as he "KNEW" Mr. Gaskill to be an upstanding and well known citizen,
    he would have had the police when investigating the case
    prior to Mr. Gaskill's arrest, warned that in order to
    even make the arrest their needed to be credible testimony and or evidence that would warrant an arrest to begin with.
    I really don't think the dept.would allow an officer to
    investigate and question someone in custody without another
    officer present. The officer that stated what Mr. Gaskill said
    had no reason to say that statement as worded for two
    reasons: 1. it is such a perverted statement that I can't
    imagine making up. A biting fetish? Really? How sick is
    that for a officer to say? Even if it is not in writing,
    the RF police would not make up something that sick just
    to trump up a case because they enjoy setting up an individual
    to face serious charges.2. I'm sure even if some of them never even heard or knew Mr. Gaskill they were probably told that
    he was a model citizen. During their questioning and investigating if anything , the charges had to really hold
    water so to speak, as they were probably hoping to begin
    with that the girls were lying so there would not be a case
    or an arrest of Mr. Gaskill. It is my humble opinion that if anything they were more likely to do everything they could
    to be careful in the investigation because they themselves
    probably were stunned that the case had merit and that the
    girls ( if they lied in the past to them) were not
    lying this time. We do not know everything they know
    and it seems more likely than not that Mr. Gaskill
    made the statement he did before his attorney arrived
    and then back peddled and said he did not. He know
    doubt when making the statement was admitting that
    he did abuse the girls and probably thought that maybe
    besides the girls testimony the police probably had
    and maybe still do (like knowing something about his body
    parts) that he was finally caught and figured he would
    be getting arrested anyway. He had to be stressed out by
    just being arrested in the first place. After hearing the charges he made a incriminating statement that seems very
    far fetched an officer or officers made up. If anything
    because he was well known they themselves probably were
    shocked and saddened that he was arrested for such serious crime. He says he did not confess but the statement is an
    addmission of guilt and such statements even if not a written admiision can and will be used against him. It is not worth
    an officer making up such a statement because the officer
    just wants to make the case go to a grand jury. What is in
    it for Rf police dept.to have a case like this from a citizen in their own back yard? I seriously doubt they were gleefull
    to see Mr. Gsaskill in the position he was in,but the law
    does not discriminate between a model citizen or a citizen
    that is always in trouble. Sadly, they had to charge and
    arrest him and a grand jury had to judge if this case
    had merits and they did; so it is not as simple as saying
    that he is in trouble for what he said but other components as well. The case is sad for many that know Mr. Gaskill as well.

  91. To Mar.23-12: 29 pm–Thank you for being such a great example
    of what people can do seperately and collectively when
    they see a side of a case that has many pieces that when
    pieced togrther, expose a sad picture of the lives these
    children endured for years. When looking at just what has been revealed here by people that feel a need to express what
    encounters (some more than others)that are basically the
    same observations and experiences with the way the
    chidren especially these two girls,were belittled and
    almost distained by the mental and emotional abuse by
    the mother alone, it is easy to see this couple really
    if they had the money they felt they needed would have
    no doubt would have NEVER become foster parents to begin with it.
    The picture emerging is also making it seem very believable
    that sexual abuse occured in this home that really should
    not have ANY children placed with them by DCFS.
    It is also apparent as stated that these children held
    little or no value to either couple accept for the income
    they receieved over these many years.
    The accused sounds like he may have had deep seated issues
    that made him feel less of a man by his dominering wife
    who was known to be so much of a powerful figure in the
    household that as somene said the accused introduced himself
    on more than one occasion as Mr. MARY GASKILl. There is always
    some truth revealed when someone makes a statement that
    he thought was perhaps funny but really is sad as what
    husband would like to admit to the fact that he is not
    in charge but his wife is. Mr. Gaskill probably had built
    up hostility within himself and perhaps abused the girls
    as he could then have some "manly" control in his life that
    his wife never really let him have. His wife in a sense
    created a monster by her taking on the manly role and
    this man as someone else said suffered from domestic
    verbal and female dominence (abuse without physical
    actions.)It is a great first step by printing this blog
    even as it evolves which I'm sure more people will want
    to share their personal negative exp. with the way these
    girls were treated even as little tiny girls and their
    whole life with these fst. pts. The judge will have some
    reading of the Gaskiil book (without simply judging them by the
    COVER) that they want everyone to read only and walk away
    and be so impressed with their (cover-up) that people really
    go no further and read the sorid details of the poor job
    they did by the children placed in your care.
    I personally am so ANGRY with DCFS AND I and others will
    be contacting them and they too will read the blogs on thi forum. Also, I have spoken with RF police and I,m sure
    they are expanding their direction into this couples not
    so pristine reputation (especially the wife and her crazy
    behavior) including lying herself (maybe to make her husband
    jealous) by false accusations that a priest made sexual
    advances toward her) PROVEN NOT TRUE. Ironic as she believes
    that these girls are lying by coming forward to defend
    themselves. IU hope everone that have expressed support
    for the victims take actions as the court case needs the
    whole book to be read and not just the beautiful cover
    th Gaskils want the court to read without knowing the
    history that indeed made this a home where sex abuse
    could and we will use the word "aledgedely took place"
    Yes, the defendent is innocent until proven guilty-
    but all the facts need to be considered before a verdict
    can be made. That is why it is important that the court
    have all the pieces and base this case on its totally
    not just the few pieces the Gaskills want the court to
    know as THAT IS NOT FAIR TO THE VICTIMS who deserve
    the Gaskills be evaluated fully so then and only then
    the jury can make its' decision fairly and not just one-
    sided.

  92. I agree with the above post."That it is not fair to the victims" if the Gaskills are not fully evaluated in
    character as well as the treatment that was apparently
    witnessed by people that knew them well and even those
    that knew them for a time and thought their role as
    fst. parents was not the role of truly selfless,loving
    tireless advocates for the children in their care
    especially these two girls. The court needs all info.
    so they can put all the pieces together to understand
    how this may have happened as the home life left a lo
    to be desired and was not the home these girls could
    have thrived in. The court has already been getting a picture from the Gaskill supporters that believe the home could not have been nothing but a loving, caring,and dedicated parents
    not only to the bio children but ALL the children in their care. the court has also received letters of support filled
    with glowing accounts hoew this dad is and family man
    that should be held in the highest esteem and is being
    falsely accused by two liars who are disturbed.
    Let the court see both pictures and form their opinion
    based on the entire pieces of this puzzle that begs to
    be based on everthing as a whole. Then and only then
    will the girls be on equal footing with the defendent that
    has his supporters only paint one side of this case and that
    the girls are not tob taken credible as they are liars,
    disturbed and as evil as they come. Somewhere in this mess
    they are answers that can only emerge if the totality of
    these girls lives are factored in to explain how even a model
    citizen could end up being the predetor that this dad is
    accused of in spite of how outstanding he has been regarded in the community. If the girls are proved to be mentally ill
    and gravely disturbed and have made false statements regarding
    their sad lives the state is more than capable of making
    sure that this man not be punished and will be vindicated.
    None of this can happen fairly for either party if all
    the pieces of this picture are not there for the jury to
    evaluate and come to a just decision in this case.
    It should be everyones' hope that there be a fair trial
    that have all the pieces tp put together in order to
    render a verdict that is right and just.
    Give the jury everthing that they need to know before they
    deliberate this case based on all facts and all character
    witnesses for the accused as well as the victims.
    Justice will prevail only if the jury hears everything
    about both sides. The scales of justice need to be equal
    when the jurors deliberate and make a decision on the merits that were given to them in court.

  93. Amber (5 or 6 YO at the time) would be sitting on Rob's lap and he would call her a moron. When I asked why he said that, he would say "She is an idiot, why not?" I would say that this was not a nice thing to say and he would just laugh. This was not a single occurrence. At the same time, his wife would say "Doesn't he (Rob) look like Alfred E Neumann?" Another stream was "I know he is Jewish-listen to his Mother's and Father's first names. Only Jewish people have those names."

  94. Amen! Let the court system get a clear picture of both
    sides of this case evenly. Court cases of this
    nature have to evaluate everthing that is presented
    on both sides. Most times victims like these girls
    especially fst. care victims are not given any
    support as they do not have a support system in place
    to begin with. Unlike the accused who has support,
    family and friends supporting him and speaking on his
    behalf, these girls need people that can help
    them with their exp with the girls as well as thier
    observances of the interactions and behavior of
    the interactions that many on this blog noted
    and can attest to.
    It would be unfair and unjust for the victims not
    to be given the same respect and support as the accuser.
    The prosecution unlike the defense always has this
    problem when these kind of cases are tried in a court
    because the family depicts them now as outsiders
    and not as children that were truly a real part of
    this family from the beginning. A trial can only
    be fair when each side is heard not just one side.
    This is horribly painful for both sides.
    Compassion for everyone in this case is needed
    and necessary as cases like this have far reaching
    effects for the accused and the victims .
    I pray for both sides that justice will be made
    by a fair and balanced trial that people can
    respect at the end because each side was given
    the same rights and support to have their voices
    heard. If you do nothing else, and believe in
    prayer, pray fo a Fair and Just trial for both
    sides and let God do the rest.

  95. It is true that Mary Gaskill did tell anyone who would listen personal facts about her foster children. I don't know if that alone is representative of continual emotional abuse in the home. I think what we need is someone who was very close with them and in the home often to come forward and give a scenario of what it was like for the family with every day living. Personally, when I think of it now, I cannot imagine that any home would run smoothly and adequately with so many children, some the same age and some with disabilities. The more I think of it the more I am also angry with myself. How did this happen? What could I have personally done? If DCFS didn't think this was cause for concern, then who am I to question?

  96. I too like the blogger above heard Rob (not just MARY) make disparging remarks of particularly Amber. (Mary talked
    negatively about both girl in my presence even with the
    girls close enough to hear). However, Rob would say how
    "stupid" Amber looked more than once. I am not surprised
    what I have just read on this blog calling her
    an idiot while she was sitting on his lap.
    This verbal abuse early on and later only made Amber
    a child that thought she really was stupid and I really
    believe her stuttering and stuggle to express herself
    was due to the impact of her low self-esteem and anxiety
    by the stress of hearing over and over that she was an idiot
    and stupid. If he said that in public what else did he or
    Mary say to these girls in private. I am convinced they
    both verbally abused them by bringing FAS up to the their
    whole life. The fact that Rob in public said insults about
    Amber explains how she easily could be preyed upon by hi
    even at the age of 12 as reported. He knew she was ill
    equipped to express herself and she had so many years of being told how stupid she was and looked it would be highly doubtfall
    that she would come forward and tell anyone in authority
    because she though no one would believe her as why would
    they believe someone as stupid as her over her BRILLIANT
    AND OH SO HANDSOME Fst.dad. This sheds alot of light
    on this case and the girls should be questined about
    how they were spoken to behind closed doors as well as
    in person. How despicable is it to take a childs' self esteem
    away and cause her to view herself inferior to everyone
    around her. Is it no wonder he went the next step and preyed
    upon a little girl (girls) with the MOST DESPICABLE AND
    HENIOUS ACT that could possibly be done to a chid (CHILDREN).
    That is why ALL THE PIECES OF THE MANY DARK AND SICK
    treatment of these girls NEED TO BE HEARD IN COURT as
    even a child could piece this case together and conclude
    the girls are NOT LYING. TOO BAD IF MANY OF YOU DON'T
    LIKE HEARING AN OPINION AS HE IS PRESUMED INNOCENT.
    However, based on this couple that DCFS deemed qualified
    and truly WONDERFUL fst. Parents, their ACTIONS SPEAK
    LOUD AND CLEAR-THEY FAILED THESE GIRLS MISERABLY and
    I for one think these girls have been victimized by
    this couple and it is MORE THAN LIKELY THAN NOT THAT
    THE PIECES OF THE PUZZLE POINT TO GUILTY AS CHARGED>
    AGAIN I KNOW PEOPLE WILL SAY HOW DARE YOU SAY THAT-
    TO ALL OF YOU I SAY -GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE SAND
    AND START DIGGING DEEPER AND PUT EVERTHING YOU
    ARE READING ON THIS BLOG AND ASK YOURSELF IF YOU
    REALLY SEE HOW THIS COULD HAVE NEVER HAPPENED IN
    THE HOLY HOUSE OF THE GASKILLS?

  97. I like Mar. 24 5:53 felt the same way about DCFS.
    I feel very bad about myself for not reporting the times I was in the home and the unfair treatment of the fst children was way
    differnt and very apparent. These children lived by a whole set of rules not enforced to the bio children. When Misty
    and Amber were little (approx ages MIsty 6 Amber 4) when
    the family had company over of any kind for any occassion
    the girls were not even seen. Instead, they had an extremely
    early bedtime ( 5:o'clock 5:30) whether they wanted to or not,
    This was a red flag at the time as children by those ages
    are not READY to go to sleep; plus they were (girls) missing
    out on the fun the bio children were having with the company's
    children.If Mary was questioned she would say they were over
    stimulated or they were super earlt risers and needed to
    be in bed early. The girls bedrooms were in the attic bedrooms
    on the third floor. Isolated, and I do not remember ever seeing
    them come downstairs at all .We as ousiders that did not live there day in and day out
    can only speculate that if we witnessed unfair treatment
    dispariging words, and other slights these girls received
    in the presence of company, we can only conclude that
    this was no doubt consitent with their daily living and
    without others around it no doubt was worse.
    I like many others thought of what just hit you now, that
    is many of us simply were troubled and baffled that
    a household with even more very needy children could no way
    be managed to the advantage of these children individully and
    collectively to improve their life in any way. Rob never worked
    late hours and came home to his second job which was
    way more stressful and 10 times harder. Mary put him to
    work and WORK he did. We all now look back and ask what
    we should of done and could of done so you are not alone
    and unfortunately have alot of company. Do I wish now
    that I and others that knew things were not what the Gaskills
    wanted portrayed of themselves reported to DCFS what we
    already knew and what we surmised was a home that was really
    not a home but a boarding house? ABSOLUTELY. Hind-sight is
    20 20. In defense of people that did not buy their happy
    ever happy home for these poor kids (myself included) many
    of us stayed as far away as possible as we did not want to know
    or witness anymore than we already had. We thought DCFS
    must be checking and that if DCFS were happy with the way things were then it was on their heads and not ours.
    This is really making me want to get involved in outing
    all the horrible MISTAKES DCFS does on a regular basis and
    this has been a big WAKE UP CALL. I live chidren too much
    to allow DCFS not to be held accountable for their total
    lack of ACCOUNTABILITY and I am already making it known
    that I and many others will be expecting them to come to the aid of these girls rather than make PHONY EXCUSES FOR
    their EXTREME INADEQUCIES.If you feel that angry with yourself
    now, do something for the girls. Stand up for them.
    The accused has many delusional people standing up for
    him and I bet they are mostly new friends (they changed friends
    so often) and are disparaging these young girls every chance
    they get as This couple to them are SUPER HERO DAD AND MOM.
    Sadly, they have fallen for this familys' FALSE PERSONA and
    believe they are GOD LOVING PEOPLE. Makes you want throw
    up doesn't it?

  98. Whenever there was a dinner party with Friends, Amber, Missy and Another were locked up on the third floor; the biological children were always at the parties. Furthermore, Missy was the caretakes of Amber and the Other from a very, very early age (less than 10 years old) every night. She bathed them and put them to bed and then the three of them were locked up on the third floor.

  99. This family life is something out of a sick movie. Anyone remember Cybil? This is awful. Are there children still living in this house?

  100. Well, after reading all this, I can thank God that Rob was not black because the rush to judgment would be even worse. We're all going to have to wait until the trial to know the truth. Police, God bless them, have unfortunately shown a capacity to misconstrue, mislead and sometimes outright lie in order to shape public opinion. We would still have death penalty in the state if police departments from across the entire state didn't railroad people into false confessions, leading questions and constructed recollections. The juicy tidbit about a "biting fetish" which is the kind of viral information that plays well in the news media could very well have come out of a marathon questioning session that goes like this:
    Good Cop: "Mr. Gaskill, can you think of any misunderstanding that could lead these confused girls to make such accusations?"
    Gaskill: "I don't know, I don't know. Sometimes I play with them and they bite me?"
    Good Cop: "I can see that. So you're just playing with them, right? Where do they bite you?"
    Gaskill: "Not on any private parts, but all over, you know, feet, hands. It's all just for fun."
    Good cop: "Sometimes it's easy to get aroused this kind of thing, you know."
    Gaskill: "Oh I know, my wife and I sometimes bite each other in a playful fetish kind of way."
    Bad Cop Writes in His Notebook: "Gaskill confesses he has a biting fetish and gets sexually aroused when allowing his children to bite him all over".

  101. The facts that are and have been emerging from people
    on this blog with exp. with knowing this family
    and witnessing verbal abuse as well as treatment that was unfair and very different from the bio kids EXPLAINS
    alot on how this home was not a home for these girls and
    anyother children in their care. How the state put
    so many kids with sp needs in this home is moronic.
    This blog has had many examples that point to a couple
    that viwed these children as meal tickets and were never
    really parenting these children to begin with.
    It explains how abuse of these girls EASILY and HIGH
    PROBABILITY that the abuse happened and these girls
    are NOT LYING. I hope the girls tell the state attorney office
    how it really was growing up in a house where you were
    insulted, unrespected and mistreated because you were
    not viwed as areal part of the family, your worth was
    monteray only and years of suffering from mental abuse
    went on (simultainiously with despical sex abuse as well.
    This couple deserve to be investigatedd thourughly,
    people need to not only blog that know stuff but talk
    to authorities as a picture of the life these girls led
    points to the picture how sexual abuse happened for the
    extended time the girls have come forward as young
    women who are finally free and are now strong enough
    to stand up for the horrible suufering they endured for
    many years by the predator as well as the suffering
    and crel treatment by BOTH these so called FST PARENTS.
    Tthes two need to be held accountable. One needs to brought to trial and hopefully found guilty and punished. THe other
    the cruel crazy mother should have the state REMOVE the
    children in her care as she is NOT A MOTHER IN ANY
    SENSE OF THE WORD TO THESE POOR CHILDREN. SHE and her
    husband the PREDATOR have and still look at having these
    chidren in their home for MONETARY GAINS PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

  102. http://oakpark.suntimes.com/news/11341487-418/accused-foster-parent-free-after-bond-lowered.html

    Domph told Love that Gaskill will be living in an apartment, not his River Forest home, where his wife, Mary, continues to care for several children

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    SEVERAL CHILDREN

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    Rally or Crabbina -
    If DCFS investigated this home. The children would be subjected to a medical exam and interview. I am guessing DCFS was satisfied with the results of this investigation.

    I find that alarming because the 5 girls in the Gaskill care looked to be under 6; and lets not forget they all have special needs.

    I would appreciate any thoughts your have on this?

  103. Anonymous 12:48 pm – this is Crabbina. Thank you very much for posting – and thank you to all who have posted, even those who swear that Mr. Gaskill is being framed. You are obviously not aware that your faith in his innocence and your insulting of the children and police force is as damning in its way as those who are calling him and his wife out after many years of seeing abusive behavior and doing nothing to stop it.

    In any case, we have no personal knowledge of these people or this community and we are glad we can provide an open forum for those to post about it, whichever "side" you are on. As is clear from the purpose of this blog, we are on the side of justice and to give voice to the voiceless and powerless, and in this case it means the CHILDREN. I personally find it hard to believe that children who grew up in a household as has been described in detail by many who have posted here would dare risk a court case were there not some (or total) truth to their allegations, but that is just my opinion.

    As for DCFS, again, I am not familiar with their regulations in your state so I can't answer your question. However, if this is the DCFS that placed children in this family over the years, I would have grave reservations about their basic judgment, wouldn't you? I do not think it is ever a good idea for SN children, especially if they are very young, to be subjected to placement in a home with many other SN children. How can they possibly get the attention and treatments they need? But as we all know, DCFS is overworked and often called upon to make judgments that in retrospect are horribly if not fatally flawed. They may have been sucked in by the alleged Gaskill charm and/or pretense of expertise. Or there may have been other factors at play. I just don't know. Hopefully all will be revealed in court.

  104. To the person who blogged that thins that people that
    are putting together the overall picture that has emmerged
    from people that know and been around this family to make
    or form an OPINION if the home lent itself to sexual abuse
    POSSIBLY OR LIKELY in probability as the picture that is
    and continues to emerge are parents that could and did not
    repect the privacy of these girls and actually ( Rob was
    witnessed by many calling Amber derogatry adjs. and both
    parents would make them have a super early bedtime aand
    locked them on the third floor ( bedrooms) when entertaing
    while their bio kids could enjoy the company and go to sleep when they were tired. Their yougest bio kid is the same age
    as Misty, why was she not put to bed early so she would
    be out of the way as well? Funny, you bless the police and
    then go on to say that if he were black he would receive
    worse treatment. Also, you accuse them of micontruing info
    to affect public opinion. You are wrong on both statements.
    First, saying if he were black implies we have a RACIST police
    force here in RF. Also, the police in RF have solved and have
    many cases that the arrested person is questioned to see to
    get more info and we as citizens have NEVER heard them put
    out statements to justify an arrest and or have the state attorney office influenced to have the person placed in
    custody before a bond hearing and placed in jail.
    What possibly is in it for RF police treat a local
    well liked and known citizen (UNLIKE HIS PSYCHO WIFE) and
    spread rumors and or take glee that they even had to arrest
    Mr. Gaskill at all? I'm sure like many in the community
    they themselves felt bad that before they even brought him to
    the station the day he was arrested, they investigated the
    info and accusation by the victims for several weeks as they
    would NOT ARREST a citizen unless facts pointed to there
    being evidence gathered that supported the victims accusations,
    and arresting the suspect to tell him why he was arrested
    and that they were formally charging him with the offese
    he was arrested for in the first place. I'm sure MR.Gaskill
    was treated well (RACE NOTHING TO DO WITH IT). Mr. Gaskill
    had to be nervous and whatever he said that perhaps incriminated himself without realizing it maybe came from
    the fact that he figured since he was arrested and getting
    booked the police knew a lot of info and a plausable explanation could have simply he carried this around with him so long and felt guilty and until hi attorney arrived he
    might have even confessed. THis is conjecture of course,
    but no different than the conjecture you stated.
    You also made up a dialogue that you even had questions
    and answers made up to prove how unscrupoulos RF police
    and dtectives are. Where did you get that dialouge from?
    It makes me wonder if you got it from the horses' mouth.
    Also, it seems like THIS IS THE SPIN ON HIS STATEMENT THAT
    AN OFFICER SWORE UNDER OATH LIED AND PURGERED HIMSELF BY
    PURPOSEFULLY TRYING TO MAKE UP SOMETHING SO SICK TO MAKE
    SURE Mr. Gaskill a cizen of RF well respected, go to trial
    because RF dets. love to see one their well known citizens
    being falsely accused and having to face a trial that the
    Grand jury felt there was ENOUGH there to go to a regular
    trial. YA- that makes TOTAL SENSE. Your DIALOUGE BETWEEN
    OFFICER and ACCUSESD SMACKS OF JUST WHAT THE GASKILLS
    WANT FLOATING OUT THERE. As for you get a reality check.
    Rf police ARE NOT NOR EVER HAVE BEEN ACCUSED OF SETTING
    UP SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY LOVE SEEING PEOPLE SUFFER NEEDLESSLY
    AND A WELL LIKED CITIZEN OF RF JUST MAKES IT THAT MUCH BETTER.

  105. How many DADs Of GIRLS OR BOYS (AGES 4 and up)
    BITE their kids all over becuse they LIKE IT?
    Why?? would a dad think that that is appropriate behavior
    in any way shape or form? Also, would not that give the girls
    an example that biting is a fun activity to participate in?
    If so, was he not getting them ready to "BITE" him in the future? Totally LAME EXCUSE and sorry but I for on am not buying it? Anyone else ???????????????????????????????????

  106. I have known the family for several years and have witnessed many similar instances of verbal and emotional abuse to those recounted by previous posters. It is encouraging to see so many coming forward in support of Missy and Amber. I hope that those who have helpful information will not hesitate to share it with the authorities.
    To the foolish people spouting slander and FAS factoids, please stop.

  107. I find it hard to believe the accused thought it was a
    fun activity that the girls enjoyed to bite him
    everywhere (of course not any where near his private parts)
    and he allowed this inappropiate fun activity to let
    the girls do because they thought it was fun. Is he kidding?
    If he said that to show what a fun playful dad he was to make them happy it is out of the realm of reality.
    Since when do parents allow such behavior because the child
    or children like it? If they liked and thought it was fun to set him on fire I suppose because he is such a fun dad
    he would allow that as well? Does he really believe anyone
    would think wow why didn't my kids think of that fun activity?
    The other blog before me called it a Lame excuse for the behavior. I call it Perverted behavior and if this was
    fun for them it was no doubt a prelude for what was to
    come later. The thing is I do not believe the girls ever
    wanted to bite him for fun ever. I believe this statement
    if he made it regarding his "biting fetish" was his way
    of admitting biting took place and it is not hard to go
    a step further that their biting did include "other body
    parts" only not because the girls liked it and it was "fun"
    It was he himself that liked it and it was fun for him.
    It was no doubt one of the ways he preyed upon on
    them and really believed in his sick mind that the girls
    liked it and he was pleasing them. If indeed he said these
    statements it does not take a genius to figure out that
    the only "fun" derived from this sick behavior was the
    "fun" he enjoyed and liked as part of his sick abuse of
    these two girls. His statement was very revealing and
    spoke volumes on how indeed he viewed his predatory
    nature and truly in his sick mind convinced himself that
    his victims liked it and thought it was fun.
    Personally, I would hate to hear anymore of his so called
    fun activities that he justified and in his mind he believed
    the girls liked. Too distubing to think about. Only these
    girls had to live it and had to think about it alone in silence
    and carry it around with them for years taking away their child
    hood and innocent lives.
    Thankfully, they have come forward and hopefully
    over time they will be able to put all of this behind
    them as much as possible. These girls need to get to a place
    in their lives where they can live and replace their
    awful memories with new memories that lie ahead of them.
    They need support and help to free themselves of what they carried around too long. They will and They can set themselves
    free as they have already taken a very important part of
    freeing themselves by coming forward to set themselves
    free. Freedom is a powerful word. These girls have and will
    always know that they themselves were and are extremely
    brave and in the end the freedom of this nightmare will
    make a huge difference in their lives and they will
    know and experience what they deserved for so long-
    Freedom to live the life that they were so tragically
    denied in their young lives.

  108. ANY parent that encourages their children to bite ANYONE
    does not deserve the title of PARENT to begin with.
    When children are toddlers because they don't know
    any better sometimes a younger sibling (the toddler)
    tries or suceeds to bite an older sibling. We as parents
    and of course the older sibling let the child know that
    biting is a no no and that they hurt their sibling
    (who is usually screaming and crying) and show them
    their brother or sister who was on the receiving end
    bite marks and how the act of biting is not acceptable
    and feel guilty for making their sibling cry because
    the bite hurts them and make the child fully aware
    that the act of biting is wrong. I had a toddler
    ( age two) who did that to his older sister (age 4)
    at the time. To say his sister was upset with her
    baby brother who she adored (until he bit her), is
    an understatement. We quickly showed her toddler
    how he hurt his sister and explained that what he
    did was not nice and he then felt bad, kissed his
    sister's boo-boo and never bit her or any other
    child again.
    I would think that a parent would certainly never
    let a child bite anyone ever, let alone the parent
    himself. To say that the children thought it was
    fun and since they liked it, were able to bite
    his hands and feet (God knows were else) is the
    most ridiculous thing I have ever heard of.
    Does Mr. Gaskill really believe that anyone hearing
    his story on how he allowed the girls to bite him
    because they thought it was fun and he obliged
    because after all they liked it? How stupid does
    he think other people are and the police no less?
    If he could make up such a far-fetched story like
    that (according to the blogger that gave a totally
    crazy account of the dialouge that was probably
    twisted in his words by the police to set him up)
    what else did he say in his defense as a n excuse
    for ant other inapproriate behavior?
    How sad that he was allowed to be a fst parent
    eight times over. If he thinks this or any other
    ridiculous explanation for his interaction and
    "play time" with these girls is believable he
    is sadly mistaken. I wonder if his wife believes
    his story. She no doubt does as she by all accounts
    is as sick as he is. DCFS, I hope you are getting
    the picture here, YOU WERE and ARE RESPONSIBLE for
    letting these children Fall through the cracks of
    DCFS into a HELL that NO CHILD should ever have
    to experience or live through. I have a question
    for you (DCFS) WHY does the other sick parent, the
    monster mom still HAVE CHILDREN IN HER CARE?
    Wake up! The woman has issues and is sick also.
    The state is even PAYING for the poor children
    you have placed in her care. Is it any wonder that
    everone with half a brain know the child-care system
    is totally broken and DCFS should stand for: Don't
    Care For Shit about children in state care.
    I hope people become pro-active and keep the
    spot light and heat on all of you who fail
    children and are partners with creeps like
    this family that RUIN CHILDREN'S LIVES.

  109. Bloggers who feel that those who have written about these disturbing, cruel, and unjust actions and words by Mr. Gaskill and his wife, Mary, say that we are denying him the right of 'innocence until proven guilty' and 'convicting him in the court of public opinion'. Your statements are not logical or truthful. We are remembering a home in which we saw mistreatment of the adopted/foster children in our presence by our very eyes. Now speaking entirely for myself, understand that I am chagrined that I was duped for so many years by Rob and Mary Gaskill before I wised up; and secondly, I carry guilt that I never reported any of these incidences to DCFS, There are no winners here; just many good people who were silent and did not do the right thing.

  110. THIS BITING STORY BY THE PERSON THAT POSTED A MADE UP CONVERSATION
    BETWEEN THE ACCUSED AND POLICE OFFICERS TO DEMONSTRATE HOW
    THE ACCUSED REPORTED STATEMENT (OR RUMORED STATEMENT) ABOUT
    THE BITING FETISH THE ACCUSER SUPPOSEDLY ADMITTED HE HAD IS
    A SPIN THAT SOUNDS LIKE THE GASKILL COUPLE WANT OUT THERE TO
    MAKE PEOPLE THINK THE POLICE TWISTED HIS WORDS AROUND TO
    HAVE A STATEMENT TO PUT OUT THERE TO DISGUST THE PUBLIC
    AND INFLUENCE THIS CASE AND CAUSE PEOPLE TO MISTRUST THE
    RF POLICE IS NOT ONY MORONIC BUT INSINUATES THAT WE THE PUBLIC
    ARE MORONS AS WELL. THERE HAS NOT BEEN ONE PERSON I HAVE
    TALKED TO THAT READ THE BLOG THAT BELIEVES THIS TAKE ON HOW A
    STATEMENT LIKE THAT IS MADE UP BY THE POLICE. POLICE THAT TWIST
    WORDS AROUND SO THEY HAVE A JUICY STATEMENT TO PUT OUT
    THERE TO GAIN SUPPORT THAT THIS GUY IS PERVERTED.
    THE PERSON THAT POSTED THAT MADE UP STORY WAS NOT THERE.
    HOW IS IT THAT HE REALLY BELIEVES AND WANTS OTHERS TO BELIEVE
    THERE IS ANY TRUTH TO THIS MADE FOR TV STORY ABOUT CROOKED
    POLICE OUT THERE THAT GO AROUND MAKING WORDS A PERSON
    IN CUSTODY INCRIMINATE AND GO AROUND TELLING SUCH
    INFO TO THE MEDIA TO INFLUENCE THE CASE THAT WAS DECIDED
    BY THE STATE ATTORNEY OFFICE AND THAT THE ACCUSED IS NOW FACING
    TRIAL FOR SERIOUS CLASS X FELONIES PERPETRATED ON TWO MINORS.
    THE BLOGGER HAS TO BE IN THE GAKILL CAMP AND UNFORTUNATELY
    FOR THIS POOR SOUL IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE GASKILL PUPPETS
    THAT IS BEING USED BY THE COUPLE TO PUT THE POST ON THIS
    BLOG TO BEGIN WITH. PERHAPS, THE PERSON IS A FAMILY MEMBER OR
    THE NUT CASE WIFE HERSELF. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE NO ONE IS
    BUYING THE BITING STORY THAT SUPPOSEDLY WAS MADE UP BY
    RF POLICE TO COME UP WITH THE STATEMENT THE BLOGGER CONCLUDED
    WAS WRITTEN DOWN IN A NOTEBOOK WITH A TOTALLY MADE UP STATEMENT
    THAT THE OFFICER MADE UP BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT THE POLICE DO.
    HOW STUPID DO YOU (BLOGGER) THINK PEOPLE ARE? THANKFULLY, NOT
    AS STUPID AS YOU. MAY I MAKE A SUGGESTION? WAKE UP AND GET AWAY
    FROM THIS FAMILY ASAP. IF NOT, YOU TOO WILL AND ARE ALREADY A VICTIM
    YOURSELF. AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU WILL HAVE TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR,
    AND CALL YOURSELF A MORON.

  111. I too feel EXACTLY like the blogger March 27 12:13 PM. Many, Many people like you and my family who distanced ourselves and no longer socialized with them on any level did so because we WITNESSED as well as HEARD abusive treatment that was grossly apparent and UNFAIR to these girls both in how they were treated (second class even worse) and verbally abused by their so called mother that ALWAYS talked about
    their private issues an struggles and how screwed up they were because of FAS. We too, were duped for awhile and carry a nagging case of "WHAT IFS?" now that we totally know
    and BELIEVE the girls are NOT LYING. I personaly have What if I did report them to DCFS? What if I would not have let Mary,s disturbed nature deter me from not only reporting but even identifying myself to DCFS and told them that what I saw and heard was absoluely true and I so WISH now I did.
    You are right. THere are no winners here; just many, many good people that distaned ourselves altogether to alleviate are own struggle with knowing these girls deserved better but instead walked away and hoped DCFS would find out from the girls themselves, or someone else would report them.
    I feel guilty as hell now looking back that I and my husband jumped ship on the family totally, but we should have been smarter and reported what we knew so an investigation
    could have taken place to get these girls off the ship
    and placed in a loving home that they deserved and were being denied because we did not do the right thing. I feel sick
    over what I should have done and I always will. To think what people like you, myself and many others did by not taking this couple to task and confronting them with DCFS for the
    phonies they were is something we all have to live with it. There is a lesson here: when you see a wrong-do everthing possible to make it right.(even if you are intimidated by a bully the likes of a Mary Gaskill as in my case was a factor as well). You are so right about no winners here. I feel
    like a loser for not doing the right thing and it is my hope by telling the police about my exps. and the awful parents they were will help the girls back up what I'm sure they have had to describe about how they were treated growing up
    that led in my eyes and many others that they suffered
    sexual abuse at the hands of a man that like his wife
    should NEVER HAVE BEEN A FOSTER PARENT IN THE FIRST PLACE. ALL, we can do that KNOW A LOT is SHARE what we witnessed first hand and not remain SILENT A SECOND TIME.
    Letters also on behalf of the girls to the judge, state attorney office will also help the girls as well.
    First, take the time THIS TIME and TELL are RF police
    dept what you know and at least then and only then
    you like I can at least now FEEL LIKE YOU DID THE RIGHT
    THING FOR THESE GIRLS AT THIS CRITICAL JUNCTURE IN THEIR
    LIVES THAT WILL HELP THEM HEAL AS WELL AS BE FINALLY
    HEARD AS THEY NEVER HAD A CHANCE TO BE HEARD LIVING
    IN THE HELL HOLE WITH THE OH SO PERFECT WHITE PICKET
    FENCE.

  112. I agree with 12:13…I was once in the inner circle and was often confused by much of what I witnessed. It took awhile to wise up and make the decision to pull away, a tricky dance as there were relationships built between the children, as well as the reality of the family's widespread involvement and influence in the church we attended. Once, I confronted Mary on the treatment of Amber and was met with a threatening and angry irrational response. I, too, regret that I did not report these things to DCFS. I am willing to help the girls in any way that I can and intend to contact the investigating officers this week. As 12:13 stated, there are no winners here, but a very real opportunity to make a difference.

  113. It makes me realize I too am not alone (seem there are many}.
    Wishing and feeling bad that I too should have reported my
    observation and first witness accounts that disturbed me
    enough to stop my association with this couple. I was
    aware that Mary was someone you did not want to cross
    and sadly, I always thought DCFS would learn from the girls
    themselves and I blindly thought that may have well
    happened as I continually learned that DCFS was placing more
    SP needs children in the home. However, when I heard they had
    as many as eight the first thing I said to my husband was"Can you
    imagine what a nut house that is now". (I was directing my statement
    about Mary and her inability to parent any SP needs children).
    I feel all I can do now is support the girls even by writing a letter to
    the court as well as ask the RFpolice if they need people to back up
    what the girls everyday life was like and how they were sadly treated.
    I believe the girls, as this house was not what the couple wanted
    everyone that knew them to believe it was. This is so tragic on so many
    levels. People in are community that have expressed their sorrow on
    this blog (myself included) and many others feel like we let the
    girls down by doing nothing have broken hearts for what these sweet
    little girls endured for so many years of their childhood. Thank God
    they came forward. We need to be there for them as so many have
    expressed on this blog. We owe that to them now and staying silent
    with what we know would be like making the same mistake twice.

    this blog

  114. March 26, 10:32 am : With every word, you add to your own foolishness. Methinks the truth is already out…

  115. I AM SO PROUD OF OUR TOWN RF. MANY OF US THAT SEEN A WRONG
    AND ARE FEELING HORRIBLE THAT WE EACH DID NOT EXPRESS DESPITE
    OUR OWN INDIVIDUAL INTERACTIONS AND EXPERIENCES TO DCFS; ARE
    NOW STANDING UP , COMING FORWARD, CONTACTING AUTHORITIES
    BECAUSE WE WANT TO CHANGE THE WRONG INTO A RIGHT.
    WE NEED TO HELP THESE GIRLS NOW EVERY WAY WE CAN AND WE
    HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO COME TO THEIR AIDE.
    THESE GIRLS WERE DEPRIVED OF A CHILDHOOD AND SUFFERED MENTAL ABUSE,
    UNFAIR PUNISHMENT AND TREATMENT AND SUFFERED SEXUAL ABUSE ALL
    AT THE SAME TIME. IT IS HARD TO COMPREHEND HOW THIS WENT ON UNDETECTED
    BY DCFS BUT IT DID. THIS FAMILY DUPED MANY OF US FOR A TIME, UNTIL WE
    WITNESSED CRUEL AND VERBAL ABUSE BY A MOTHER WHO WENT AROUND
    ACTING LIKE HER FAMILY WAS "THE BRADY BUNCH".
    WE ALL WISH WE COULD TURN BACK THE CLOCK AND ACT ON THE GIRLS BEHALF.
    WE HOWEVER, NEED TO HELP THE GIRLS NOW. WE NEED TO MAKE SURE WE
    LET THE AUTHORITIES KNOW WHAT OUR INDIVIDUAL NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES
    WERE WITH THE WAY THIS COUPLE MISTREATED THESE GIRLS FROM THE VERY
    START. IT WILL SERVE THE GIRLS WELL AS A PATTERN OF ABUSE STARTED
    EARLY ON WHICH LED TO THE UNSPEAKABLE CRIMES MR. GASKILL IS ACCUSED
    OF. WE NEED TO ARM THE PROSECUTION WITH EVERY EXAMPLE WE REMEMBER
    (THER ARE PLENTY) SO THEY CAN KNOW THAT THE HISTORY OF ABUSE THESE
    GIRLS ENDURED WAS WITNESSED BY MANY OF US AND IT TOTALLY ADDS
    UP TO A HOME WHERE THESE GIRLS WERE SEXUALLY ABUSED AS THEY WERE
    VICTIMS OF ABUSE THE MINUTE DCFS PLACED THEM IN THE GASKILL HOUSE
    OF HORRORS, A FAR CRY FROM " THE PERFECT BRADY BUNCH" THE COUPLE
    PORTRAYED THEMSELVES TO BE.
    THESE GIRLS HAVE TAKEN THE FIRST IMPORTANT STEP BY RECLAIMING
    THE LIFE THEY WERE DENIED. WE HAVE TO HELP THEM SEE THE DAY THAT
    JUSTICE WILL BE SERVED AND THEY CAN CONTINUE THEIR HEALING
    KNOWING THEY NO LONGER ARE VICTIMS AND SUFFERING SILENTLY
    IN A HOME THAT WAS A TOTAL NIGHTMARE. I WISH I COULD GIVE THEM
    EACH A HUG AND TELL THEM HOW PROUD I AM FOR FINALLY FINDING
    THEIR VOICE AND SEEKING JUSTICE THAT WAS DENIED THROUGH NO
    FAULT OF THEIR OWN AND KNOW THAT THEY HAVE MANY ,MANY
    PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITY THAT ARE BEHIND THEM 100 PERCENT.

  116. To the blogger that said that with every word a blogger or bloggers have said( so CLEVER I might add)"that with ever word
    you add to your foolishness" "Me thinks the truth is already out….."
    WHAT FOOLISHNESS? If you read the blogs, the majority
    have written and even expresse that they witnessed deporable
    parenting of the girls and that many want to be there for the girls to help if needed to reiterate and validate what
    the girls described about their entire life with the couple.
    Do you really think they did not have an opportunity to
    TELL THEIR WHOLE STOTY AS WELL AS THE SEXUAL ABUSE THAT
    ON TOP OF A HORRIBLE CHILDHOOD THEY ALSO ENDURED?

    Most if not ALL the PEOPLE I KNOW BELIEVE THE GIRLS
    ARE NOT LYING AND YES, WE FEEL THE TRUTH IS OUT.
    HOWEVER, YOUR CRYPTIC REMARK CAN BE CONSTRUED AS
    SOMEONE THAT PERHAPS BELIEVES THE FACT THAT THE
    MONSTER DAD, MR. MARY GASKILL AS HE REFERRED TO
    HIMSELF ON MANY OCCASIONS, IS OUT ON HOUSE ARREST
    UNTIL TRIAL. IF YOU THINK THE FACT THAT HE IS NOT IN JAIL
    RIGHT NOW IS AN INDICATION THAT HE IS NOT GUILTY YOU
    ARE SADLY MISTAKEN.
    THE OPPOSITE HOLDS TRUE AS WELL. IF YOU THINK WE
    (MANY WHO KNOW AND KNEW THE GASKILL WELL) THINK WE
    SHOULD BE THERE FOR THE GIRLS OR WANT TO BE THERE
    FOR THE GIRLS ARE FOOLISH AS THE TRUTH IS OUT ON HIS
    GUILT YOU STILL ARE SADLY MISTAKEN.
    YES, I WILL SAY ONCE AGAIN THAT OBVIOUSLY WE BELIEVE
    HE GUILTY BECAUSE THE LIFE THESE GIRLS LIVED POINTS
    TO A HOME THAT SEXUAL ABUSE WAS NO DOUBT ADDED TO
    THE GIRLS MISERY.
    WITH ALL THAT SAID, "ME THINKS YOU ARE BOTH CONDESENDING
    AS WELL AS SOMEONE WHO THINKS
    THE BLOGGERS ARE REPORTING WHAT
    THEY KNOW AND SUPPORTING THE
    GIRLS AS WE DON'T BELIEVE THE
    COURT OF LAW WILL AND OR WE HAVE
    DOUBTS THAT MR. MARY GASKILL WILL
    BE FOUND GUILTY AT THE END OF HIS
    TRIAL."

    YOUR REMARK CAN BE TAKEN TWO WAYS AS DEMENSTRATED
    BY WHAT I STATED ABOVE.
    SINCE YOU ARE ALL KNOWING AND BELIEVE THE TRUTH IS OUT
    AND EVERYONE THAT WANTS TO MAKE SURE THE GIRLS COME FIRST
    AND NOT THE ACCUSED ARE FOOLISH AND WE ARE WASTING ARE
    TIME BECAUSE AS YOU SAY THE TRUTH IS OUT……
    YOU ARE A POMPOUS —(FILL IN THE BLANKS) AS WELL
    AS SOMEONE THAT IMPLIES THAT EVERYONE THAT ALREADY
    FEELS THERE IS GUILT HERE BECAUSE THEY HAVE EACH
    EXP THIS ABUSE PATTERN UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL AND
    ARE WANTING TO BE THERE FOR THE GIRLS WHO WE BELIEVE
    ARE NOT LYING ARE FOOLISH BECAUSE THE "TRUTH IS OUT"
    "ME THINKS A TRUTH IS OUT BESIDES THE OBVIOUS CONSENSES
    THAT WAS MENTIONED ABOVE, AND THAT TRUTH IS IN REGARDS
    TO YOU IS IF ALL YOU HAVE TO CONTRIBUTE IS ONE STUPID
    SENTENCE THAT YOU THINK IS SO PROFOUND AS WELL AS SMUG
    ONE CAN ONLY CONCLUDE YOU ARE ONE OF THE GASKILL
    CLAN OR A DIE HARD GROUPIE THAT BELIEVES WE ARE
    NOT ENLIGHTENED TO SEE CLEARLY THAT HE IS INNOCENT
    AND THERE IS NO OTHER TRUTH"
    "ME THINKS YOU ARE A MORON"

  117. OK–TIME TO STEP UP AND DO SOMETHING NOW THAT WE DIDN'T DO OVER VARYNG TIMES IN YEARS PAST. I'm talking to all of you and me who feel the GUILT–because we witnessed abuse in the Gaskill home and did nothing but sever our connections with the family. I want to engage-but need some advice. Write letters to who? RF Police?, DCFS?, Judge?, Prosecuting Attorneys?, Public Guardians?

    Guardianship Assistance Desk for Minors
    Circuit Court of Cook County
    69 West Washington Street, Room 1020
    Chicago, Illinois 60602
    (312) 603-0135

    Public Guardian of Cook county
    http://www.publicguardian.org

    The Office of State Guardian
    http://gac.state.il.us/osg/

    Someone who knows what to do and how to do it–Please give me/us your advice. I don't want this connection of blogs to become nothing more than that; I/we need direction for the next step-Please Help.

  118. Blogger from March 28, 5:39 am : I am afraid that you did not realize that I was speaking on behalf of the girls. My comment was directed toward the blogger from March 26, 10:32 am who offered up the insane imaginary dialog between the police and Rob Gaskill, supposedly coercing his confession of having a biting fetish. Every word added in defense of this man's actions is indeed, utter foolishness. That same blogger said that we will all have to wait until the trial for the truth to come out. My point is that the truth is ALREADY, thanks to his own confession and the overwhelming support that is evidenced on this blog. I'm sorry that I did not make myself more clear in identifying my position.

  119. Blogger March 28, 11:47am : Thank you for opening up this call to action. I want to do all that I can and know of a few others who want to be involved as well. We are all in need of direction for next steps.

  120. TO Mar.28 11:47
    I hear you LOUD AND CLEAR!
    I as well as my family (my children even that were
    friend at one time of two of the bio girls) SEVERED
    ALL CONTACT with this family.
    I like you and many of us, feel and have felt
    GUILT IN the PAST AS WELL AS NOW.
    WE can't change what we should have done in the past
    (REPORTING TO DCFS) but WE CAN DO SOMETHING NOW.
    Start with RF police. Call non-emergency # and ask
    for DET. GRILL, or DET. DEYOUNG and if they are
    you can leave a voice mail and they will call you back.
    You can call Dept. chief officer Craig Rutz and get
    him directly, or leave him a message and he too will
    call you back. I talked to Det. Grill as well as
    Dept. chf Officer Rutz and both listened and thanked
    me for the info as it does show how the dysfuntional
    home can and does LEAD TO SEX ABUSE TO MINORS IN FST
    CARE sadly too often and the children that are
    in a home with other patterns of abuse are even
    at higher risk to be sexually abused and live in
    fear and silence as the predetor has control over
    them and uses their vulnerability to manipulate
    them anyway they can to keep the abuse secret.
    I tried DCFS (calling) they NEVER RETURN CALLS.
    I have written a letter to the STATE ATTORNEY OFFICE
    PROSECUTORS IN THE CRIMINAL COURT IN MAYBROOK which
    I am just now getting ready to send out.
    I have not yet written to JUDGE LOVE. SOMEONE ON
    this blog said they were making copies of what
    this blog reveals and is sending it or has sent
    the copies to JUDGE LOVE.
    I will call the # you listed above and see if they
    can EXPLAIN WHY THERE ARE STILL CHILDREN IN MARY
    GASKILLS CARE.
    I am glad you are getting involved like myself
    and many others who have or are active in sharing
    their exps. with this family as it proves the
    history and pattern of abuse started long ago
    and sadly resulted in the worse possible act
    that these girls endured for years along with
    all the other verbal, mental and emotional
    abuse which made their young lives a living
    hell that I can not even believe they were
    carrying around the hell they were living.
    They were both sweet girls. they always were
    polite and enjoyed any attention from others
    that came there way as it was so sorely lacking
    in their home life.
    I hope this HELPS you to get on this IMMEDIATELY
    and I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU THAT THIS BLOG
    should be more than a blog, and I REALLY SEE
    FROM READING THE ENTRIES THAT MANY MANY PEOPLE
    ARE ENGAGEDV AND NOT SITTING ON THEIR THUMBS
    AND THE ACTION WE ARE TAKING INDIVIDUALLY AS
    WELL AS COLLECTIVELY WILL ONLY HELP THE GIRLS
    AND THEY WILL KNOW THEY HAVE PEOPLE WHO BELIEVE
    THEM AND ARE WILLING TO SUPPORT THEM ANYWAY
    THEY (WE) CAN!!
    THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR WANTING TO DO YOUR PART.
    COLLECTIVELY, THE HELL THESE GIRLS LIVED THEIR
    ENTIRE LIVES WILL BE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT THE
    COURT WILL TAKE AS PART OF THE PATTERN OF ABUSE
    THAT ALSO RESULTED IN BOTH THESE GIRLS LIVING
    WITH SEXUAL ABUSE FOR AT LEAST HALF THEIR LIVES.

  121. http://oakpark.suntimes.com/news/11341487-418/accused-foster-parent-free-after-bond-lowered.html

    People who witnessed abuse, or disturbing behavior by Mr or Mrs Gaskill – I urge you to report it now.

    According to the newspaper, Mr. Gaskill was staying in an apt on house arrest because Mrs. Gaskill was still caring for SEVERAL children in her home.

    You are not just stepping up for Amber and Missy; you are also stepping up for the children that are still in that home.

    The nonemegency number to River Forest police is
    (708) 366-7127 .

  122. I totally applaud everyone on this blog that
    have inf. to share that they winessed first hand
    on the various forms of abuse these girls
    suffered overtly and privately as both types
    of abuse have a cumalitive affect on children
    and alters their self worth, mental and emotional
    being that destroys self cofidence,their own persona
    and cause inferiority issues that psychologically
    they feel worthless. They begin to really believe
    that the abusers are right and that nobody in
    their family loves them as they feel unlovable
    and are so broken down that they are vulnerable
    to beig sexually abused and not tell ANYONE as
    they have been damaged so much that they believe
    whatever the abuser tells them. They are easily
    under the control and manipulation that they
    endure the abuse silently, and are helpless to
    say or do anything to help themselves.
    It is not unusual to come forward as young adults
    when they are no longer paraylized by the fear
    and hopelessness they felt during the years
    in their young life that they were captive
    and bound by feeling they had no way out and
    no where to go. I can tell you this as I am
    an adult that suffered sexual abuse as a child
    and when I grew into a youg adult and was no
    longer paralyzed by all my fears I was able
    to come to terms with that I NEEDED to speak
    and have my voice heard and it did and does take
    a lot of strength to realize that you and you
    alone need to confront the abuser and finally
    be the one in control. I can tell you that
    was my first step in healing and had I not confronted
    my abuser I do not know what or where I would be
    in my life today. Healing begins immediately when
    you feel you are in control, and continues step
    by step until you realize none of it was ever your
    fault and you start to look at life and everything
    you endured as finally over. You see yourself as
    a boxer in a ring that finally got up after the count
    and took the other boxer out and feel victorious
    in ever sense of the word.
    The steps toward healing do come abd you start to feel
    for the first time in your life that you are strong
    and can take on any adversity with a self love an
    awareness you were deprived and robbed of by the
    suffering you endured by a coward that preys on
    children. The abuser is nothing but a coward.
    You realize his only strength was derived by
    overpowering his victim who is helpless and
    vulnerable.To this day I realize I am far stronger
    than he ever was or could be.
    These girls are strong and brave. They like me will
    see the abuser for the coward he is.
    They have begun the first and most terrifying
    first step in healing. They will soon see themselves
    as the strong young women they are. THe coward will
    always be a coward. They are strong but will continue
    to heal and see themselves become stronger than ever
    and they will find that they can and will become
    crusaders for others who have gone through the
    same hell. Like me they will be able to see we
    are the strong ones that become stronger; while
    their abuser is and always will be a coward.
    Everyone that has been active and supporting the girls
    your efforts will go along way in their own healing
    as they will know that they are cared about and
    have people that not only believe them but will
    stand up to the horrible things that have been an will
    continue to be said about them by the abusers family
    and people that never even knew them.

  123. To the blooger that shared your personal story,
    your exp and how you were able to become stronger
    after what you endured once you exposed the abuser
    in your own life, and were able to realize that
    nothing you did caused the abuser to abuse you.
    You are so right about a child abuser being a total
    coward and his only strength (he feels) is the power,
    and control over his child victim by having his sick
    fantasies and sexual excitement satisfied and kept
    secret by what must be terrifying and extremely
    detrimental to a childs' psychological well-being
    as they like you suffer in silence and actually
    are so brain washed and manipulated that the abuser
    also feeds on the power and control he has over his victims
    You shared that once the abuser in your case was exposed
    you began healing and realized your abuser was a coward
    and would always be a coward. You pointed out that
    you realized you were strong and that you became
    stronger and knew that nothing you did caused the
    suffering you were made to endure. This was very
    insightful as we all hope thes girls like you will
    and are already seeing their abbuser as a big coward
    and small in comparison to themselves; as they are
    strong to face not only thier abuser, but a woman
    (his wife) who has and will continue to drag them
    in the mud and make people think that they are
    mentally disturbed, unstable and total liars.
    It is my hope and I'm sure others who have read
    your exp in becoming even stronger and living
    your life knowing that by exposing the abuse
    you suffered; you finally had control of your life
    that you were so horribly denied as a child that
    these teo girls never had control even with other
    forms of abuse that many of witnessed and were
    so sickened that we could not stand being around
    this couple and alot of us thought about reporting
    them to DCFS but didn't. We are now doing what we
    can for these girls and are actively trying to
    help them by telling what we saw and heard (abuse),
    to authotities as we want the judge and court to know
    this family is a far cry from what they portrayed
    themselves to be and are still portraying themselves
    as a perfect family that is being falsely accused
    by two worth-less, disturbed liars.
    The fact that so mant people who know better and believe
    these girls hopefully will help them take comfort
    that people care about them and value them and
    want to see them recieve justice that they were
    sadly never given in their young lives.
    Thank you for sharing. Your story will only make
    more people become pro-active for these girls
    and share info that they exp by speaking or
    writing letters on behalf of these two brave girls.

  124. Write Judge Love, and let her know that not everyone thinks Mr. G is so terrific:

    The Honorable Noreen Valeria Love
    Circuit Court of Cook County
    Maybrook Courthouse
    1500 Maybrook Drive, Suite 131
    Maywood, IL 60153

    I think we can also write to the State's Attorney at

    State's Attorney
    Fourth Municipal District
    1500 Maybrook Drive
    Maywood, IL 60153

    or email:
    statesattorney@cookcountyil.gov

  125. To blogger from March 29, 12:16 am, thank you for sharing such encouragement and wisdom, I am sure that it was hard won from your experience…we can all keep your words in mind as we move forward in supporting the girls in various ways in the days ahead..those who have helpful information to share with investigators and are willing to write letters, those who will be able to attend the trial dates, those who would like to encourage them by reaching out personally, and all of us as we stand in their defense when others speak of them disparagingly.

  126. There's no confession. A cops word but no audio or written confession. They were in the foster care system in this state for years and there's no way after years of living in that house that they wouldn't have caught something? I'd like to see what people say on here if this man is found innocent. I'm not saying he is but there seems like there is something up here. A supposed confession. No one else coming forward. No signs of anything in the past I assume since nothings been reported. And no look into the other side. Hmmm….plus in the one article it says the one girl said nothing happened. Maybe I'm just too jaded from people in the world taking advantage of other people but before I'm wrong I'd like to see more looking into the other side. Looks like the Cops are corrupt in the Trayvon case too.

  127. Mar.29 10:08 Are you an insider and privavy to what
    happened or did not happen with the qustioning
    and answering session with the accused and RF
    police detectives?
    You are very naieve about how these girls were
    in an enviorment that nothing like sex abuse
    could of happened.
    Many Gaskill insiders, that were friends with
    the family for extended periods of time, some
    for several years have witnessed verbal abuse,
    unfair treatment and disrespect of these girls
    firsthand. The girls were never treated fairly
    and those that witnessed it over and over became
    so disgusted that they cut ties with this family
    and severed even their own children socializing
    with the bio girls as well.
    If you study or are even aware (which I doubt)
    the treatment of these girls (at times outwardly
    distained) by this perfect couple; the probability
    that sexual abuse was high as a pattern of
    abuse that no doubt was WORSE BEHIND CLOSED
    DOORS.

    It really is not hard to see that such a
    home where abuse is taking place as an
    on going part of their life in public
    and NO DOUBT IN PRIVATE, the girls
    were an easy mark as to become sexually
    abused by the accused as he preyed upon
    their brokeness and acute vulnerability.
    You mention no one else has come forward.
    You obviously do not know everything
    you think you know about this family.
    The girls were with them most of their lives.
    The reason no one else is coming forward is
    they took in many many babies and toddlers
    for short periods of time, which is the reason
    it was reported they fostered as many as 75
    children in the 20 plus years they were in
    the "BUSINESS OF FOSTER CARE".

  128. March29 10:08
    You have no idea what the police have or do not have on
    the case. The accused is saying he did not confess
    nor sign a written confession or anything else.
    However, the case obviusly does not hinge on
    a confession (most cases the accused insists
    they are not guilty,especially abuse against minors
    of this nature). The reason is obvious, they can
    as already has been done claim that the minors are
    total liars with all kinds of serious issues including
    being mentally unstable, and in this case saying
    they are so screwed up due to FAS.
    Also, you are sadly mistaken that just because
    they were in this home for years this type of abuse
    could not possibly happen. The years the girls were
    in the home they were verbally abused, treated
    unfairly and there was a definite distinction
    in the way they were treated compared to the bio
    kids. Actually, one can really compare their life
    to the clasasic disney story: CINDERELLA.
    People (many in number) witnessed the abuse and
    mistreatment of the girls and totally were
    disgusted as it was not isolated incidents.
    It was not the parenting these girls should
    have had and they had ver unhappy lives living
    in this home that was NEVER really a hometo
    them in any sense of the word. That is why
    the people that were friends of this family
    broke ties with them as it was obvious and
    uncomfortable to witness the way these girls
    were treated and did not want to be around
    to see these girls have a life with rules,
    treatment and punishment that their bio kids
    NEVER EVER HAD TO ENDURE.
    I venture you know very little about these
    girls lives as you really do not understand
    that the abuse that was listed above, made
    them especiaaly vulnerable to sexual abuse.
    The court has EVIDENCE and not just wild
    accusations otherwise Mr. GAskill would not
    be in the serious trouble he is in facing
    two counts of class X felonies and standing
    trial.
    Think about it, if they had only wild accusations,
    he would have never been arrested in the first place.

  129. I have no idea why nothing was recorded or signed. I think we all realize though that there was some pretty substantial evidence that enabled the police to arrest him. It is so very hard to believe and accept but I believe he did confess. Also, the person who said "nothing happened" was not one of the two girls accusing Rob. It was a different person. I still don't understand how anyone, let alone DCFS could ever think that amount of children with special needs were okay in that house. How could they have their needs met? It is just so bizarre when I think of it!

  130. Does anyone know if the Gaskill's were able to foster and/or adopt Missy and Amber's younger Sister?

  131. Apparently at least one, that I know for sure, of the bio children would also like to bite when playing with friends. The child would be asked to stop by the friends as the bites were both very painful and considered strange by the kids involved.

  132. It really does not matter if he confessed or not.
    Many criminals do not confess (even with overwhelming
    evidence). Also, there must be more than enough as
    if it were simply accusations with nothing to confirm
    with the girls accusations, there would not be a case
    going to trial. The police stated they did investigate
    for weeks prior to the arrest. It is not like he was
    arrested that day because the girls just made the
    accusations and they jumped in a car to arrest him.
    Many people do not believe or do not want to believe
    there was a confession. The only people that really
    know are the defendant and the detectives.
    I tend to believe that their was an admission of guilt,
    and perhaps he regretted it, and now is telling everyone
    he did not and spreading lies that are so awful about
    the girls to take the spotlight off himself and
    turn this case into two psychos that are the criminals
    as they are total liars and mentally ill as well.
    The girl that the paper quoted that said nothing
    happened is about 10 years old, and she was removed
    from the home and she is not one of the children that
    were returned to Mary Gaskill. Hopefully, nothing
    did happen to her but she is young just like the two girls
    were and possibly still in the mind set that she needs
    to keep it a secret. I hope that is not the case but
    we really do not know her psychiological state or
    evaluations. Perhaps she was removed in the nick
    of time and could have been abused in the future.
    DCFS has a lot to explain here. 8 children with SP.
    needs in one home is irresponsible and ludicrious.
    I do not know why DCFS returned some of the children
    that are back in the home now. I hope the girls get
    good legal advice and sue the state if possible for
    all that they have gone through. I'm sure they can
    file a civil law suit against the family.
    I feel horrible about not acting on what I saw and
    heard and I knew the girls were not treated right
    in that home. I could have called DCFS repeatedly
    and should have. I can only say in my defense, at
    that time period I associated with them, I thought
    the girls would tell case-workers what they were
    going through. I thought they would say something
    like "My mom is mean, she does not talk nice to me
    and is not nice to my little sister." I thought
    that was what case workers were for.
    I distanced myself from this family (even affecting
    one of my own children who was friends with one
    of the bio girls). Also, I must admitt, that Mary
    has a stong personality and I did not want to cross
    her in anyway as I was intimidated by her as well.
    I hope these girls receive the justice they deserve
    as they suffered in that home on many levels,
    the worse of course the abuse that their so called
    fst dad is standing trial for. This should have
    NEVER happened. I hope DCFS is HELD ACCOUNTABLE BY
    THE COURT AND THE PUBLIC AT LARGE. I for one, am
    not going to slip quietly in the night….this
    time around.

  133. I could not agree more with the"ACCOUNTABILITY"
    that DCFS NEEDS TO BE TAKEN TO TASK over this
    HUGE BLUNDER(to put it mildly) on FAILING THESE
    GIRLS and also placing 8 Sp Needs childrenin
    the home as well. How they can justify the number placed
    alone in this home is beyond the pale.
    THey could not even pick up that this familyor
    any family COULD NOT GIVE EACH OF THE CHILDREN
    THE ATTENTION THEY NEEDED AND HOURS OF ONE-ON ONE
    TIME that children with SP. Needs require.
    To think they jammed these children in this house
    even while at least three of the bio-children lived
    there until recently. I think one bio-college girl
    still lives in the home. Obviously, she has her own
    life as she should, and is not around to even give
    a helping hand. I would like to know how Mary Gaskill
    was seen many times in restaurants and other social
    appearances actually was able to find the time and
    energy to party at a fav. restaurant of hers, as
    well as drinking margaritas and go home and be useful
    to these children even the next day after.
    When she was seen at night Rob was not with her, so
    I guess he was home minding the store.
    How DCFS NEVER HEARD ANY REPORTS ABOUT THIS FAMILY
    THAT NOT WERE "GLOWING REVIEWS" is BEYOND COMPREHENSION.
    This home was NEVER a good choice as it was apparent
    early on with the girls, they viewed thir role as
    care-takers at BEST. It was obvious that they were
    all about their bio kids and the girls were just
    extra inconvient baggage that they carried around
    and HAD TO PUT up WITH in order to get paid by
    the state and for no other reason.
    They of course passed themselves off (or tried to)
    as FST. parents that were dedicated to the girls
    and that they ABSOLUTELY LOVED TAKING ON THE EXTRA
    RESPONSIBILITY because they had SO MUCH LOVE TO SHARE>
    THat was so far from the truth, many saw through their
    real motivation, which was and always about MONEY.
    SAD BUT TRUE. Mary loved spending money period.
    Frivioulosly, I might add. She was not working and
    was not happy with the income she had to live on
    based on her husband's salary. Fst. Parenting
    became a business to her from the very begining and
    continued even now while this terrible case has
    come to light as DCFS has returned some children to her
    care in the home. Does ANYONE KNOW HOW DCFS CAN STILL
    BELIEVE THIS IS THE BEST POSSIBLE HOME FOR ANY
    CHILD??????? KEEP IN MIND THE CHILDREN HAVE
    SERIOUS DISABILITIES as well as SP Needs.
    Mary is not on trial like her husband. However, she
    is not the DEDICATED fst. mother she has and still
    EXPECTS EVERYONE TO BELIEVE.
    WE can only hope that DCFS RECEIVES SUCH AN OUTCRY
    ON HOW THEY FAILED MISERABLY WITH THE GIRLS AS
    WELL AS EVER LETTING THEM BECOME FST PARENTS to
    BEGIN WITH.
    People need to get involved and make sure the
    state attorney office gets THE WHOLE PICTURE
    OF THISN MONEY HUNGRY COUPLE, AND THAT IT REALLY
    HAS NEVER BEEN ABOUT THE CHILDREN WHICH were
    really INCONVIENT BORDERS IN THE HOME, FOR ONE
    REASON aND ONE REASON ALONE: THE PAYCHECK IN
    THE MAIL AND NOTHING MORE.DCFS NEEDS TO HEAR
    THE MESSAGE LOUD AND CLEAR: YOU ARE AT FAULT
    TO ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN, WHICH LED TO THIS
    ABUSE TO HAPPEN FOR YEARS AND NOW THE WORSE
    ABUSE IMAGINABLE SEEMS MORE THAN LIKELY HAPPENED
    TO TWO GIRLS WHO SHOULD HAVE BEEN TAKEN OUT OF
    THAT NUT HOUSE TO BEGIN WITH!

  134. To answer Mar.30th 6:30PM-To answer your question about
    the little sister of Misty and Amber, The little sister
    (about 8-10 yrs. of age) was living with the family as a
    fst child for most of her life. The Gaskills had been
    TRYING to adopt her as well, but there were complications
    (unknown) that prevented that from happening.
    She is the little girl that was taken and not placed
    back into the home like other children were(sadly)
    recently were returned. She also was the little girl
    when questined that the paper quoted her as saying
    nothing happened. (Hopefully and Thankfully nothing
    did happen). However, she could have easily been at risk
    in the near future if she continued to stay in the home.
    Sidenote: At the church where I met the Gaskills
    several years ago, (they no longer attend the church
    as Mary was employed and was asked to leave the job
    due to questional ethics behavior where finances of
    the church were involved) it was noticibable she
    favored and treated the girls sister better than
    many of us witnessed Misty and Amber. The reason
    being this little girl (mary told several people)
    was not born with FAS as the mother of the girls
    did not do alchol and or drugs during the pregancy.
    DCFS at least did the right thing by this little girl,
    as I'm sure the court would have intervened and made
    sure the GAskills NEVER EVEN SEE HER AGAIN.
    My hope as well as others is that perhaps she is living
    with the girls and a relative.Misty and Amber loved
    their little sister (it was so apparent watching them
    dote on her), so I hope all three girls will live happily
    the rest of their lives away from this very troubled
    couple. This whole Gaskill story is really like a very
    sad made for tv movie about the nightmare these girls
    lived and how they finally were able to confront
    their abuse seeking the justice they were denied and
    the justice they clearly deserve. However, the other
    fst. and or adopted kids that were adoplted while they
    were a foster child deserve justice and be taken out
    of Mary Gaskills' care as well. She may not be standing
    trial like her husband, but she certainly was an evil
    force in these chidrens' lives and contributed to
    the abusive enviornment that made these girls become
    higher risk for the sex abuse as she herself made
    these girls feel inferior their whole life and treated
    them that way as well. It is no wonder the accused
    thought they were easy prey. You really could not
    write this stuff or make it up as the whole story
    is so unbelievable as DCFS really were failures
    in the care and well-being of these girls.
    them

  135. The child that did bite (we had that happen as well
    at our house) is the yougest bio-child. This child
    was having difficulties having two little girls coming
    into her life knocking her off the pecking order of
    being the baby. The mom knew that and this child was
    spoiled even more and the girls were treated worse
    because of it. Misty and this bio child were the same
    age as well. The mom actuaaly put Misty a year behind
    in school which really was not called .The motive
    was obvious to people that knew her as she would DO
    ANYTHING that she felt would benefit her bio-child,
    at the EXPENSE of the fst. girls in her care; in this
    case Mistys. If there is justice for this woman beside
    her husband is that she should not have one single
    kid in her care now or ever. DCFS will be hearing that
    alot if they have not heard from irate and appauled
    people in the communitys' reaction. This sad story
    went on to long and IT NEEDS TO END NOW.

  136. I have read this blog since the start. I know who this family is as they
    were active at the church I attend in Oak Park, Calvery but I did not
    personally know them. I live in Oak Park and people that knew them from church
    and live in Oak Park are like myself stunned, while others are saying they
    knew there was something not right about this family. Those that became
    friends with them, are saying the same things I have been reading on
    this blog. It really has been an eye-opener. I don't think this many people
    would be speaking about their experiences with this couple if there was
    not a true profile of what they truly witnessed; and their overwhelming
    desire to support the girls. I hope the court and judge are made well aware
    of what all these people that knew them well have had to say.
    I must agree that DCFS needs to be held accountable. I also
    hope that these girls have justice served on their behalf.
    Since I really do not know them; but outraged that DCFS placed so
    many children in this home I am going to do my part of finding
    out how I can get their attention and let them know as a tax payer
    in the state I am disgusted these people received tax dollars which
    it seems was the reason they took in so many children to begin with.
    I will continue reading this blog and I hope the many people that said they were
    going to let authorities know about the outward abuse they witnessed
    get their information across as I can see how it will help this case and
    support these two brave young ladies.
    If I can I am going to try and be there in court for the girls. It seems
    they are greatly out numbered in court and they really do not have
    anyone but the state supporting and standing up for them.

  137. Why does DCFS still have children in this home even now?
    Does anyone know how many? Also, are the children school
    age or younger? If there are some younger ones, does Mrs. Gaskill
    stay home and take care of them? I would think with everything
    going on in her life with the husband standing trial, she would be too
    distracted and obviously stressed out to be an good to any of these
    children. Would not the children be better off in a home that is calm,
    and put into other homes so they could receive the attention and care they deserve?
    It seems DCFS does not care that this home was and no doubt even now
    dysfunctional.

  138. My huband and I were wondering if wife is the
    same age as her huband which is reported he
    was 63 yrs. old. The paper did not mention how old the
    wife is. We know it takes a lot of energy to
    babysit our precious grandchildren(we love every minute)
    but we are the same age as Mr. Gaskill and I can
    tell you when they go home we are exhausted as they
    are normal energetic children. We both remarked
    that there we be no way could have eight needy
    children everday as we would be beyond exhausted
    not just physically but mentally as well. They
    could not possibly care for all these children
    without a lot of extra help. Did they have hired
    care-givers to help? If they did would not these
    care-givers have alot of information to share
    with what the home life was like.
    I would think if they are both our age, they
    would want to have fun doing bthings they both
    enjoy and taking life a little easier.
    We are enjoying our retirement and we both can
    not phanthom having the responsibility these
    people took on as there would be absolutely no
    time for ourselves and to enjoy life.
    DCFS should have placed these children in a home with
    no more than one or two children. My daughter
    and her husband are as busy as ever and their
    children are not sp needs and thank- God healthy as
    well. We hope the girls in the case have justice served
    as everthing we have read is so sad and unbelievable
    and it is sad they fell through the cracks.

  139. Mary is supposedly about 53 years old (but she probably lies about that age, too).
    I never knew her to have hired help. Kids took care of kids while she worked a full time job and, for a time, supposedly was HOMESCHOOLING some of them!!!

    Actually, I don't know that all these kids were genuinely special needs. I don't believe that Missy was — she was a smart little girl. I have wondered whether Mary manipulated doctors to get those diagnoses so that she could get more of our money?

  140. To the person who asked if the couple are both in their
    sixties, I believe the wife is in her late fifties or so.
    I agree about the energy level it would take to keep
    the energy level needed to take care of all these
    children. I think they must have had hired help as it would
    be humanely impossible to make sure these needy
    childrens' needs were met. I wonder if the care-givers
    have told the authorities what they observed as well.
    I too, do not understand how that many children were
    placed in that home by DCFS. It is no wonder that this
    forum exsists as after reading about how so many children
    suffer in fst. care; the child protective services
    FAIL miserably and are the CAUSE of many sad, horrible
    cases of all kinds including death. I knew the system
    failed children but this forum has really educated
    me that many fst children suffer because of the
    deficiencies of CPS. I know there are wonderful fst
    parents out there, and truly are loving parents that
    value and treat their fst children as their own,
    and many end up adopting these children and the
    children are loved and treasured and are in their
    "forever home" and would not want any other parents
    in the world because they are so loved and their
    wonderful parents would move heaven and earth for
    them and then some. It is a sad fact that CPS does
    not vet the family and have very high standards
    that have to be met for placing any child in a home,
    let alone a SP needs child. My brother and his
    wife became adoptive parents five years ago and
    I can tellyou the home-study and interviews were
    extremely intense, and the agency took their time
    to make sure my brother and sister in-law qualified
    in every way possible before they were even in
    a waiting period for their daughter. The wait was
    about two and a half years but so worth it.
    They are now the family they dreamed og being
    and are beyond the moon over my beautiful niece
    that has been so wanted and waited for by not only
    them but both families and she is the sunshine
    of all our lives and boy does she know she is our
    little princess!

  141. I have been reading about the Sandusky case on
    this forum, there are mant uncanny overlaps
    that are very similiar to this case. The two
    cases both have involvement with child protection
    or organizations that are involved with the care of
    children as well as the wives being very similar in
    character. It appears the Gsaskill and Sandusky
    family have alot in common…sadly.

  142. Thanks for the info about their little sister. I have the feeling that many of us have had first hand knowledge of situations that made the Gaskill home less than a good place for children to be fostered. For example, when Missy made the travelling soccer team and the Gaskill's bio-child, who was the same age, did not; Missy was not allowed to join the team. This may sound like nothing given the situation now, but in life's scheme, it wasn't. It was sad, hurtful and unjust.

    Now a question? Will there come a time in court when Missy and Amber should/could be supported by those of us who would like to be a visible presence?

  143. I think the Gaskills should pay back the state for all the checks they received as "unfit" foster parents.

  144. Anonymous April 3, I do wonder if a civil suit will be brought against the Gaskills and/or DCFS to cover the costs of any therapies that they may need.You pose an interesting question of whether the state would sue a foster parent to get money that they paid out back. I have no idea if that is possible.My guess is no. I do like the idea though as the taxpayers of Illinois have certainly paid enough to the Gaskills.

  145. To April 2nd 6:24PM
    I think it would be great if yiu can even share that story
    about Miisy making the travel team and the youngest bio-child
    did not; and that once AGAIN ANOTHER EXAMPLE how UNFAIR
    and CRUEL Mary was to Missy by NOT CELEBRATING WITH HER
    AND letting her ENJOY The EXPERIENCE SHE EARNED AND DESERVED
    by NOT ALLOWING HER TO JOIN THE TEAM because her VERY SPOILED
    AND BRATTY yougest bio-child did not qualify.
    THIS IS ANOTHER GREAT EXAMPLE OF HOW POORLY MISSSY WAS TREATED
    AND LIKE YOU SAID HURTFUL AND TOTALLY UNJUST.
    ALSO IT SHOWS HOW IN THE HOME BEHIND CLOSED DOORS MIISY
    AND AMBER SUFFERED SO MUCH MORE INJUSTICE AND CRUEL
    TREATMENT THAT THE GIRLS OR ANY CHILD EVER SHOULD HAVE
    TO ENDURE AND LIVE THROUGH. THIS WAS A VERY CRUEL UNHAPPY
    HOME FOR THRSE GIRLS IN CONTRAST TO THE BEAUTIFUL LIFE
    SHE MADE SURE HER PRECIOUS BIO_GIRLS DESERVED>

    LET ME KNOW IF YOU DO NOT SHARE THIS INFO WITH RF POLICE
    OR DETECTIVES ON THIS CASE> THIS EXAMPLE IS NOT A NOTHING,
    IT IS AN IMPORTANT EXAMPLE (THERE ARE MANY) HOW THESE
    GIRLS WERE MENTALLY ABUSED AS WELL AS EMOTINALLY AND
    LIVING IN THAT HORRIBLE HOME THEY HAD NO CHANCE OF
    DEVELOPING SELF-ESTEEM OR CONFIDENCE WHICH LIKE THE SEX
    ABUSE THEY WILL HAVE TO OVERCOME THROUGHOUT THEIR LIVES.

    I KNOW THES GIRLS BUT DID NOT KNOW THE SOCCER EXAMPLE,
    AND I CRIED WHEN I READ IT. MISSY SO DESERVED TO BE IN
    THE SPOTLIGHT FOR SOMETHING SHE ACCOMPLISHED AND FEEL PROUD
    OF HERSELF BUT WAS DENIED BY THE DESPICABLE CHARACTER
    THE LIKES OF MARY GASKILL WHO WANTED EVERONE TO BELIEVE
    SHE WAS SUCH A GOOD HEARTED MOM AND THAT SHE TOOK GOOD
    CARE OF THESE GIRLS. I WANT TO PUKE RIGHT NOW!

    Good question about if Missy and Amber will be in court
    and I believe the RF detectives if will call close to trial
    may be able to answer that. I do think everyone that wants
    to support the girls, DO EVERTHING POSSIBLE INCLUDING
    SITTING ON THE PROSECUTION SIDE BECAUSE ALL THEY HAVE OUR
    THOSE OF US (whether they knew the Gaskills or not) to
    HOLD THEM UP AND SUPPORT THEM AND GIVE THEM THE CONFIDENCE
    THEY WERE GRIEVEOUSLY DENIED IN THEIR YOUNG LIVES.

  146. To April 3 1:33 PM

    I think the Gaskills were spend-thrifts and I doubt
    they have all that money that they DID NOT DESERVE as
    Mary always indulged herself and bio-kids as Mary
    wanted and always has wanted to KEEP UP WITH THE JONES"S
    AND EVEN SURPASS THE JONE'S SHE VIEWED AS HAVING MORE
    THAN HERSELF AND HER BIO-GIRLS.
    THE BEST WE CAN HOPE FOR IS A CIVIL SUIT FOR SEXUAL
    ABUSE AND EVERY CRUEL MENTAL SUFFERING THEY ENDURED:
    BY SUING THEM OURIGHT WHICH WOULD INLUDE ASSESTS THE DO
    HAVE AS WELL AS THE SALE OF THEIR HAPPY HOME.
    HOPE THE GIRLS HAVE A PRO-BONO LAWYER THAT CAN HELP
    THEM AS THEY DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY I'M SURE TO PAY
    FOR ONE.
    Anyone out there that is or knows a lawyer willing
    to help these girls file a law-suit PRO-BONO should
    ask the RF dets. if the girls have one or would
    welcome one after the trial is over.

  147. April 3 1;57

    Many on this blog are wondering the same things about
    law suits on this blog. I'm not sure the state can file
    a suit against the Gaskills. It seems to me the state
    can be sued for never picking up (what was so apparent
    and obvious to so many) on how they FAILED THESE GIRLS
    MISERABLY AND DID THE WRST JOB POSSIBLE ON STAYING
    ON TOP OF THE GIRl's LIVES including questioning the
    social circles the Gaskills had or have in their lifes
    to attest to how they treated the girls wiyhout the state
    looking over the shoulder when the state did their very
    few checks on these girls.
    The Gaskills would never have given names, however, when
    the girls were older they themselves could have provided
    names easily as they knew the Gaskill pals as well as
    the Gaskill pals children.

  148. I have just read about Misty not being able to join
    the traveling team as the bio-daughter (exactly the
    same age) did not make the tr.aveling soccer team.
    How many horrible examples of cruel mental and
    emotional abuse these girls endured behind closed
    doors? Is it any wonder that sexual abuse did take
    place in this kooky home? Mary Gaskill can go around
    24hrs. a day and try to spin how her dear sweet
    husband is being accused by two liars who ade deranged,
    as well as stupid due to FAS.
    Mary needs a reality check. Thank yourself Mary for
    diminishing these girls any way you possibly could.
    You took away the way they viewed themseves in the world.
    Telling children they are stupid and idiots like your
    husband did to Amber several times in the presence of
    others proves the diminishment of these girls was
    acceptable to your husband and appauling at the same
    time.These girls could not have self esteem on every
    level as they were torn down by you, your husband and
    no doubt the bio-girl the same age as you taught her
    that she was little miss wonderful, and could do no
    wrong; you prompoted a unhealthy relationship between
    them from the very begining. Many people are aware and
    remember you holding Misty back a grade level.
    Your excuse was she was behind and it would help her.
    The real reason was because you could not handle them
    being in the same grade as God forbid Misty would
    out shine her youngest bio-daghter in any way shape or
    form. I have a child that was a classmate of Misty,s
    and I was an involved parent in and out of the class
    room and I can tell you that Misty was so sweet and
    very bright. I saw nothing that indicated that she
    needed help in any way. It is a shame she was held
    back as she no doubt was bright enough to excell in
    the grade level that she SHOULD have been but was denied
    by Mary Gaskill. I wonder why DCFS allowed her to make
    call. Where they afraid of her to the point of
    letting her diminish what Misty was capable of
    without the school district testing her first?
    Mary should be confronted with the abuse she dished
    out on these innocent girls durin their whole life
    as these two had no way ou and were vitrual prisoners
    with a warden instead of a mom that care and truly
    loved them.I hope the prosecution calls her to the stand
    and watch her perger herself under oath. I would even
    pay to se that with the money going to these girls.
    I plan on asking the Rf police if they will give the
    girls some cash in a card with words of encouragement
    enough for them to go shopping and treat themselves
    to something they really like or want as their warden
    certainly denied them that experience as well as the
    bio-girls had everything their heart desired.

  149. Great idea about law suit. I believe it is
    and will be warranted after this trial is over.
    I would like to know how the girls can sue the
    state for a settlement for failing them their
    whole life. No amount of money will take their
    pain away, but they do totally deserve restitution
    for ending up in the worse home possible.

  150. Apr. 3 7:08
    There is NO AMOUNTOF MONEY that can
    ever take the pain they endured in
    the home the state placed them with.
    However, since the state was RESPONSIBLE
    for their well being and care, I believe
    the girls will get a settlement from the
    state as these girls will want no doubt
    restitution as they not only deserve it
    but will likely need and or want professional
    care to talk about their lives and to help
    them heal from the sex abuse and all the
    other abuse on every level,they endured in the
    home.I also think for sure they can file a
    civil law-suit against the Gaskills and no
    doubt are aware of that, or will be aware of
    that fact at the end of this trial.
    The person that said they are going to give the
    cash with a card of encouragement and support,
    I think that is a great idea. These girls no
    doubt can use the money, and I am going to
    send a Jewel Food Gift card as I am sure
    they can use a helping hand in paying for
    groceries as well. Maybe, those of you that
    know the girls (even if you did not) can send
    a cash donation and a note of support to the
    girls as I don't believe they are having an
    easy time financialy. Ironically, the so called
    fst. parents exploited these girls as well
    as ruin their lives; making money from the
    state as these girls were just meal tickets
    to this greedy couple for their entire lives.

  151. Has anyone on this blog been able to contact
    and speak with anyone at DCFS? I tried calling
    and they do not return calls. Would it help
    to send letters to DCFS in care of the STATE
    Attorney Office ?
    I think they need to feel the heat on how the
    public is outraged for placing these girls for
    so long (and never picked up on ANYTHING)
    and actually signing off on these girls being
    adopted by this mone hungry couple.
    The state continues to pay the adpt.parents
    so obviously this couple adopted them to get
    DCFS off their back. I believe there could not
    have been post-adoptive supervision, or any
    checks on these girls after that happened;
    so once again the state failed these girls
    and walked away.
    I will never understand why the state allowed
    the number of children in that home.
    It was reported as many as eight. How then is
    it that when DCFS visited this home they could
    not realize how this family was dysfuntional,
    and failed to see the real reason they wanted
    that many was the income they received from the
    state and nothing more.
    April is CHILDHOOD ABUSE AWARENESS MONTH, I think
    this case has exposed that even so called model
    citizens and from what I, have read, religious
    fanatics can and do ABUSE children in fst.care and
    in this case adopted girls that received NOTHING
    but hardship and suffering unimaginable to
    comprehend, and now as grown young women have
    to even endure reliving the nightmare of sexual
    abuse for more than half of their young lives.
    If I were them, I would get rid of the legal name
    GASKILL as soon as possible and take back their
    biological name as unfortunately, the last name
    Gaskill was all they sadly received, and it meant
    nothing as they were never a real part of this
    family their vwhole lives.
    Also, there is NOTHING to be proud about being
    saddled with the name GASKILL and will always
    remind them any time they sign their name, that
    they were given this name not for love, but for
    blood money this couple have and always will
    have on thier greedy hands…. NEVER TO BE WASHED
    OFF no matter how they try to deny that they
    were in fst. care for the LOVE OF CHILDREN and
    that the only reason they were ever in it is
    the fact that it was a businees that was lucrative
    for themselves and nothing more.

  152. Illinois has a Children's Ombudsman to report things to regarding DCFS complaints. The website is http://www.state.il.us/dcfs/library/com_communications_inspector.shtml

    Text:"DCFS Office of the Inspector General

    4 West Old State Capital Plaza
    Eighth Floor
    Springfield, IL 62701
    (800)-722-9124

    2240 W. Ogden
    Chicago, IL 60612
    (312) 433-3000
    Fax: (312) 433-3032

    The position of Inspector General for the Department of Children and Family Services was created by unanimous vote of the Illinois General Assembly in June 1993 to reform and strengthen the child welfare system. The mandate of the OIG is to investigate misconduct, misfeasance, malfeasance and violations of rules, procedures or laws by Department of Children and Family Services employees, foster parents, service providers and contractors with the Department. (See 20 ILCS 505/35.5, 35.6, and 35.7)

    To that end, the OIG has undertaken numerous investigations
    and initiated projects designed to improve practice, uncover
    wrongdoing and increase the professionalism of the
    Department. The value and focus of the OIG is the individual life of the child.

    The OIG responds to and investigates complaints filed by the state and local judiciary, foster parents, biological parents and the general public. At the request of the Director, or when the OIG has noticed a particularly high level of complaints in a specific segment of the child welfare system, the OIG will conduct a systemic review. Investigations yield both case-specific recommendations and recommendations for systemic changes within the child welfare system. The OIG monitors compliance with all recommendations.

    The OIG investigates deaths and serious injuries of all Illinois children who were involved in the child welfare system in the preceding 12 months. The OIG is also a member of Child Death Review Teams around the state. The Inspector General is an ex officio member of the Child Death Review Team Executive Council.

    OIG reports are submitted to the Director of DCFS. The OIG also reports to the Governor and the Illinois Legislature. An OIG report contains a summary of the complaint, a historical prospective on the case, including a case history, and detailed information about prior DCFS or private agency contact with the family. An analysis of the findings is provided along with recommendations.

    OIG reports contain various types of information that are confidential pursuant to both state and federal law. As such, OIG reports are not subject to the Freedom of Information Act (FOIA). The OIG has prepared several reports with confidential information deleted for use as teaching tools for private agency and Department employees.

    Rules of the Office of the Inspector General are published in the Illinois Register at 89 Ill. Admin. Code. 430. The Rules govern intake and investigations of complaints from the general public, child deaths or serious injuries, and allegations relevant to employee licensure action. The Rules also address the Inspector General's reports to the Director.

    Filing A Complaint

    Due to confidentiality requirements mandated by law and the unsecure nature of electronic transmissions, the OIG does not accept complaints by e-mail.

    If you wish to file a complaint with the OIG, please print and fill out the attached form or contact the OIG directly at (800)-722-9124 or (312)-433-3000."

  153. This is Crabbina – Do any of those posting who are local know how much media coverage this case has gotten? Can you please let us know as we can try to contact the media. This case is crying out for national coverage. Thank you.

  154. THANK YOU RALLY FOR THE VERY INFORMATIVE INFORMATION
    YOU LISTED IN GREAT DETAIL FOR THOSE OF US WHO HAVE
    BEEN BAFFLED AS HOW TO EXPRESS OUTRAGE AND PUT DCFS
    IN THE HOT SEAT FOR HOW THEY ALLOWED THESE GIRLS
    TO EVEN BE ADOPTED BY THIS DESPIVABLE COUPLE.
    I HOPE MANY ON THIS BLOG, USE YOUR VALUABLE INFORMATION
    TO EXPRESS HOW DISGUSTED WE ALL ARE THAT THE STATE
    IS SO IRRESPONSIBLE AND REPREHENSIBLE IN MAKING SURE
    CHILDREN UNDER THE STATE'S LEGAL GUARDIANSHIP ARE
    PLACED IN HOMES THAT THE FAMILY IS FULLY INVESTIGATED
    WITH CHARACTER REFERENCES AS WELL AS STRINGENT
    SUPERVISION IN EVERY AREA OF THE CHILD'S LIFE
    INCLUDING MOTIVATION FOR WANTING THE FST. CHILDREN
    IN A HOME WITH FOUR BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN LIVING THERE
    TO BEGIN WITH. I WILL FILE A FORMAL COMPLAINT ASP
    AND I HOPE THE PEOPLE WHO TOOK THE TIME TO SHARE
    THEIR DISGUST WITH THIS HORRIBLE EXAMPLE OF HOW DCFS
    FAILS CHILDREN GET BUSY AND DO THE SAME.

  155. Anonymous April 4, 2012 358p — I do believe both girls dropped Gaskill prior to going to the police about this case.
    I know Amber definitely did – not sure about Missy
    ~~~~~~
    Crabbina – I would say this case has not received very much coverage. The two major papers are the Chicago Sun Times and Chicago Tribune. I was kind of shocked not to see any coverage in the Chicago Tribune; but I saw a story in the Chicago Sun Times. The local media has been reporting after each court date.
    http://riverforest.suntimes.com/index.html
    http://www.oakpark.com/Home/Contact_Us
    http://oakpark.patch.com/

    ~~~
    I agree that there needs to be a bigger deal made about the case. The Sex abuse is apalling — but I also cannot understand how so many children were placed in one home.
    I was curious about how many children are allowed in a home according to IL DCFS liscensing standards. I found a link here. It says 2009 so not sure how accurate:
    http://www.state.il.us/dcfs/docs/Rules%20402%20eff%208-1-2009.pdf

    If you go to appendix C it says there are no more than FOUR children with special needs allowed to placed in one home; unless of course there is special permission. Someone at DCFS signed off and made the exception for some many special needs children to placed in the Gaskill home. I would say there is someone at DCFS or the private agency the Gaskill family was working that should be held accountable.

  156. It has recieved coverage from local publication (the oak leaves and wednesday journal), nothing big. Initally there were quite a few articles and the story was run on cbs and fox (i believe). Now there is at least one publication that will run an article after each court date. Any coverage is minimal.

  157. Crabbina, I am so glad you asked about media coverage.
    The coverage has been the articles you posted
    on this blog in the Oak Park Leaves and
    the River Forest Leaves both local to the
    community that the Gaskills are known.
    The Chicago news-papers only had a small article
    when the story first broke due to the fact
    of the huge bond that was placed on the accused.
    I and many on this blog would agree, that the
    Chicago papers should cover this horrible
    story that is an example of DCFS FAILING
    CHILDREN and allowing them to live in a home
    that clearly should have never been allowed
    in the first place. The results of such lack
    of RESPONSIBILITY speaks volumes in this case.

  158. I agree that really only are local papers
    have covered the story only after each court date.
    I'm sure DCFS is very happy that the story of
    how grossly irresopnsible they are has not been
    exposed in the two major Chicago area newspapers.
    I believe if reporters were given the whole story
    about this entire fiasco, they would expose to
    their readers how DCFS fails, and the horrible
    consequences that befall innocent children that
    depend on them (DCFS) to make sure that a home
    these children in the state's care needs to be
    a home where the fst. parents are thorughly
    investigated and in every way possible qualify
    becoming fst. parents in the first place.
    Also what kind of home-studies, visits, supervision
    did this couple really have? If the examples I
    have read on this blog are any indication of
    how even the community they lived in had raised
    eye-brows on this couple; how is it that these
    so called case-workers could not pick up on the
    girls unhappiness in the home? The only answer I
    can come up with is these children perhaps were
    never given an opportunity to speak freely without
    the fst. mother and or father in their presence.
    Also, this woman sounds like (and husband) to be
    very cunning and extremely adept at being able
    to present themselves as people that are perfect
    parents as well in character, It is to bad the
    couple was not reported to DCFS multiple times,
    but everthing I havr read I believe DCFS still
    would not have done anything as they are obviously
    so inept and total failures that the reports may
    have not been investigated. The fact that this
    family had child after child placed in their care
    is beyond apprehension. The media, not just the
    community papers, need to hear the ugly facts of
    this horrible life these girls lived and put
    DCFS in the public domain to not only expose
    how they fail children and obviously get away
    with it as there seems to be no accountability
    or scrutiny that the state of ILL. holds over
    them; and they have no one to answer to but
    themselves. This story has so many components
    that have come out and proves two things for
    sure. DCFS does not protect children and lets
    childrens lives be ruined due to their failure
    to protect them, and that there are fst. parents
    that they let through who have one motivation
    only, and that is to collect money for doing
    nothing but housing children and abusing them
    mentally, emotionally, psychologicaly and in this
    case add on sexualy.

  159. I honestly feel that the DCFS System is broken and that it doesn't have the skills, the money, the where-with-all to fix itself or be fixed. I'm NOT saying that as long as something 'runs' even if only on 1/2 or less of its cylinders, that attempts to 'fix it' shouldn't be made. I am saying that the road will be very difficult, but perhaps the attempt(s) would gain much needed strength if Missy and Amber's story was used as the riveting, driving, focal point.

    Anita Alverez, Cook County State's Attorney, lives right down the street from many of us in River Forest.

    People on this BLOG must wonder how so many of us could be 'played' by Mary Gaskill. I might be generous enough to include some of the Caseworkers from DCFS also. She is a bright, manipulative, mesmerizing, crafty, duplicitous, self-serving, skillful liar with a wonderful smile. She has had almost a 'Mansonian' control over many often resulting in actions out of the norm for people under her influence. I don't believe it was just 'giving Mary the power over me and others', but resulted from a carefully skilled and directed manipulation. Some broke off the pathological relationships in a few months, whereas, for others, it took years. When one wises up, her net has already been cast in reeling in another dupe hypnotized by her self-aggrandizement and contrived, salacious stories of her past friends who were "evil" and so "terribly mean" to her after how "good she had been to them".

  160. APRIL IS CHILDHOOD ABUSE AWARENESS MONTH.
    I would think if the papers in Chicago receive
    copies of this blog or are asked to have
    investigative reporters take a long hard look
    at another tragic DCFS child abuse story;
    they no doubt would write about it and follow
    this case closely as the local community papers do.

    Crabbina: if you with your expertise in this area
    can do anything from your end, you
    would be exposing DCFS for the total
    failure that they are and how this case
    is sadly an example of how poor decisions
    and supervision rob children of normal
    lives and run a high risk of abuse in
    every form when placed in the care of
    people who are in it for monteary gains
    and not to care and provide a loving,
    nurturing home for a child to blossom in.

  161. Look at the situation realistically. How and why would a caseworker not be fooled by Robert and Mary when friends and neighbors who know them much better believe they are pillars of the community? Remember how many supporters the Gaskells had initially. Many of them are powerful, educated, wealthy people. It is asking a lot of a lowly caseworker. It’s easy to say “a trained caseworker should have seen the signs.” (Trained doesn’t mean they get a crystal ball.) You have the advantage of 20/20 hindsight.
    DCFS is not perfect. They do make mistakes. In this case, the caseworker made a very understandable mistake and doesn’t deserve to be fired. Instead of demanding heads roll, do something positive. Take the time and energy to think of ways, and act on them, to help make DCFS a more effective agency.

  162. This is Crabbina. Thank you to the posters who clarified the info about the media coverage. We are trying out best to get media coverage. You might also want to check the Sun Times and the Tribune and see which journalists there do investigative reporting on stories like this, and email them or call them and do not let up until you get a response. You can also do the same with the local TV networks.

  163. Does anyone know what the fst. care business
    called Tapestry was? It was reported in the paper
    that the Gaskills operated this business out of
    their home. Was it non-profit, or did they run
    this business for financial gain as well?
    I would hope the detectives and prosecution
    have investegated or are investigating this
    "business" they ran out of their home as if
    it was for profit they managed to pass themselves
    as professionals in the area of fst. care and
    mislead and deceived a whole other group of
    people.

  164. How will the prosecuters in this Gaskill abuse
    case weave into how this home was a home where
    sexual abuse happened as the girls were abused
    on so many other levels; rendering them vulnerable
    and manipulated by the likes of the accused in
    this case? Since so many on this blog want their
    identity protected; there will be no one on the
    stand swearing under oath the many different forms
    of abuse they personally witnessed by the mother
    in this case. Is giving the court the letters,
    copies of this blog, calls to RF police/detectives,
    DCFS, state attorney office,attorneys handling this
    case a way to testify the true nature and character
    of this couple as they speak to the jury on the girl's
    behalf? I would hope that information that has been
    obtained and given multiple times by many people
    would in some way give the jury the whole puzzle
    and not just the pieces that the defense and family
    have been spinning about these girls from day one.
    It is my sincere hope that the state can and will
    paint the picture of how this couple are not the
    people they scammed DCFS and others in their
    own community to be. The couples deceit was picked
    up on and known to many people who distanced them-
    selves and their own children from this family
    as has been stated over and over again on this blog.
    Hopefully, the people who have taken the time to
    become pro-active for these two girls, will and
    are making a difference for the sake of these girls
    who outrageously have been and will be dragged
    through the mud with every vicious statement about
    them coming from the Gaskill family themselves.

  165. In response to April, 5th 4:43Pm: FYI the Gaskills
    wanted to be PERCEIVED as pillars of the community
    both at St. Luke Parish as wellas Calvery Church OP.
    The pillar they placed themselves on in the St. Luke
    Parish tumbled down taking them with them.
    Next, they tried to be suddenly placed on a pillar
    at Calvery Church in Oak Park
    . Unfortunately, once again their
    pillar that they so desperately wanted to be placed
    in this church community tumbled down once again.

    They now belong to another church (some where in the
    universe) and no doubt have put themselves up on
    still another pillar but with this ugly story being
    exposed;they have no doubt fallen off another pillar,
    with their tale between their legs. The people that
    they made sure they rolled elbows with to elevate them-
    selves in the community that as you say were powerful,
    educated and wealthy were not duped by them for long.
    How many of them associate and respect the Gaskills
    and did not cut all social ties with them years ago?
    Do you really believe these people have held them
    in high-esteem these last 15 to 20 years?
    If you do, you are so sadly mistaken.
    To say that a casworker that works for DCFS should
    be cut some slack in this case or any other case
    where chidrens' lives and welfare are at stake
    is absurd. They are part
    of DCFS and DCFS is responsible for cases like
    this because DCFS does not hold their employees
    accountable as they do not want to be held accountable
    period. It has been this way for years. If you really
    have read this blog; it is so apparent that people that
    have expressed disgust with DCFS are involved in
    taking action and yes, want heads to roll no matter
    if it is a caseworker or inept supervisor of a caseworker.
    All heads need to roll at DCFS. People are doing some-
    thing. People are letting DCFS know that this case is
    unacceptable and are even questioning how they could
    possibly believe placing so many sp. needs children
    in one home can benefit any child in that home and
    expect that home to be functional and beneficial
    to any child is beyond comprehensible.Holding this
    agency and exposing and filing complaints against
    DCFS is happening; and if you haven't caught on
    educated, powerful, wealthy people in RF (as you
    pointed out) are involved as the whole community
    is outraged and want the state exposed in major media
    outlets to educate the public that all of us need
    to advocate for children in DCFS care; and the state
    of IL is at the center of making changes and reform
    in a system that has been broken too long.
    That is the way to make DCFS more effective; exposing
    their lack of ACCOUNTABILITY even if it means and
    no doubt does, making heads roll, as the lives of
    innocent children are at stake which requires strict
    requirements and serious supervision including
    many surprise visits to a home instead of every
    visit being scheduled which the fst family makes
    it look like everthing is going smoothly and they
    are such wonderful fst parents.That my friend,
    is how to make DCFS more effective. You need to
    read the many blogs that express making sure DCFS
    receives complaints and are exposed as that is
    the only way this system will change and reform
    the way they unfortunately operate.

  166. Re: Tapestry Chicago, I don't think it was really anything. I got to look at it right before it was taken down, and it was just four or five "article/blog entries" written by Rob and Mary and commented ("Great article")on by Rob and Mary. There was info some professionals (lawyer, doctor)that were supposedly experts/has special interest in foster and adopted children; but when you looked them up, there was no indication that they really has any special interest.

    When I looked at the time the page was started, it seemed suspiciously concurrent with the time she would have found out that her new pastor/boss was trying to adopt. I think it was just an elaborate plot to get next to him. I may be wrong, but you can't check it out now.

  167. I looked at the Tapestry Chicago website as soon as the arrest of Rob Gaskill was announced. The Tapestry site was accessible the first day. It listed Mary Case as co-founder, then the Doctor ? and Lawyer ? and perhaps, a social worker, and Rob Gaskill as co-founder. There was a FEE to JOIN and to get past the homepage. (Case is the maiden name of Mary Gaskill).

  168. To April 5th-4:43 PM Your defense of a caseworker/or caseworkers makes me think you or someone you know is
    a casworker at DCFS. If not, you are more outraged
    about people on this blog pointing fingers at DCFS
    as a whole entity from top to bottom (including case-workers,
    then the girls who not only suffered in the home; but have
    been totally thrown under the bus by the Gaskill family
    with allegations the girls are mentally ill, liars, and even
    try to say FAS is part of their so called deranged allegations.
    Why is it that the Gaskills kept them in their home as long
    as they did if the girls needed serious mental health care?
    Gee, let me think….mmm the girls like the Gaskills were
    able to not show any of these signs to DCFS including reports
    from a top school district that has every resource available
    to help children with mental health issues receive help
    and would have intervened on the girls behalf if their
    mental status was in any way presenting itself in the
    classroom; and from complaints of parents of their peers
    as they no doubt, would have heard from their children
    that the girls were troubled as well.Maybe I am missing
    something here. DCFS caseworkers understandably were
    duped also by the impaired mental status of the girls
    like they were understandbly duped by the Gaskills
    being the next thing to "ROYALTY" in the community,
    as after all they were so loved by educated, powerful
    and wealthy people in the community? Are you kidding?
    You need to read Mar. 20-11:04AM on this blog.
    The person who wrote it points out that Amber was more
    needy and had a speech impediment that was never really
    addressed and was allowed to continue without outside
    speech therapy she could have received in addition to the speech services she was receiving in the school district.
    I guess it is totally understandable that a caseworker
    would be duped by the child herself. Obviously, the case-worker could not hear the speech impediment because the
    child was able to hide it so well and the case-worker
    was duped again.People on this blog and others in the community, in case it is not apparent to you, are stepping
    up holding the whole DCFS (including your lowly case worker)
    totally accountable and have and are actually pursuing
    ways to get the word out to the public at large as the
    only way to make DCFS (become more effective as you stated)
    is to do it in a way that people joined together make
    DCFS feel the heat and be forced to make significant
    changes and major reform to prevent child neglect, and
    abuses of every nature that all too often children in the system suffer because there is a lack of ACCOUNTABILITY
    in this whole agency that needs to be in place; so
    children receive the best care and home possible.
    One person can not change DCFS or any state agency that
    fails miserably. However, people joined together (which
    is happening and taking place)can force DCFS through public
    awareness that they need to stop FAILING CHILDREN and
    do everything possible to PROTECT CHILDREN PLACED IN A
    FST.HOME FROM SUFFERING ABUSE and yes, getting rid of
    (lowly case workers-as you stated) as EVERYONE in the
    agency needs to be held to high standards and accountability.
    What are you doing may I ask, with your time and energy to
    as you put it help make DCFS a more effective AGENCY?
    When you come up with more ways than what people on this
    blog are already doing WITH THEIR TIME AND ENERGY……
    LET US KNOW……..WE WILL BE WAITING…….

  169. To Anonymous April 6, 12:11: No, Gaskills are still in the pillar stage at their new church. They know about the allegations, but consider it a lie/Satan's work. They even have a financial fund to help the family.

    Ever notice how these kind of people (Gaskills) always work in churches and Christian organizations? I don't think they could get away with their garbage in the real world. They always plant themselves where there are a lot of weak-minded, easily influenced people who don't know how hard life is outside their bubble.

  170. I find it interesting that perhaps Mary Gaskill has
    a priest/pastor groupie complex. She always wanted to be
    close to priest at St. Luke and other priests she
    knew in the Chicago Archdiose. Of course that ended
    at St. Luke due to false allegations against a priest
    that drove her and her family out of the parish in
    short order.
    The family then dropped beind devout Catholics, and
    amazingly switched to a prodesdent church in Oak Park.
    The whole time she was here (calvery)she tried to befriend our former popular and loved pastor; which in the long run
    this pastor and his wife and family relocated to another
    state due to this woman trying so hard to hang out with
    the pastor and even causing the wife of the pastor to
    be irritated on how she tried to intrude into the
    families life as well. Many people at Calvery (myself
    included) believe if she never came to Calvery our beloved pastor would still be here as he and his family
    were very fond of the chuch as well as living and
    raising their sons in Oak Park.
    Now, I just read the blog about this woman trying
    to help a pastor adopt just to be close to him as
    well, It seems there is a pattern here; of a woman
    that needs to be close and elevating herself in a
    church community by flaunting how chummy she is
    with the church pastors, and in St Lukes case the
    priests and the pastor.
    I find this more than a coincidence, and I think it
    proves this woman seeks adulation and loves to
    tell people how close she is with the church pastor
    or priest as if people (in her eyes are wishing they
    were close to the pastor or priest). People thought
    she really had a problem and many here at Calvery to
    this day wish she never came here as she was a
    driving force that made our former pastor leave a
    church commuity that he loved and a area that he
    and his family loved living in.
    I wonder if anyone else has noted this weird obsession
    with her wanting to be QUEEN BEE in a church community.

  171. I have known the Gaskills for years

  172. The person that said they looked up the Gaskills
    Tapestry on line is correct.It was not exactly
    a non-profit group to advocate Fst. Parenting/adpt
    to"help" people and educate them how to pusue fst.
    parenting and or adoption. I went to the site right
    before the sight was taken down. It was set up like
    a businessas jiust to get info other than the home-page
    there was a fee involved first, and then you could
    acess the sight after you paid the fee. I thought
    immediately that this was a out of home "business"
    for the Gaskills and not a phlionthropic endeavor
    on their part. The site was taken down fairly quick.
    If it was something that would reflect them in a favor-
    able light; it would still be up and running as they
    would want the sight to show what generous people
    they are by finding time ( with their busy schedule
    of taking care of all those needy children)has a way
    to "advocate" for children in fst. care as if they
    were experts in the field no less.The business was
    mentioned in a news article so the info was obviously
    known about when it was on the sight they created.
    I'm sure everything they were involved with has and
    is being investigated by investigators on the case.
    If they were making money as a side business , I'm
    sure it has been noted and sheds light on how passing
    themselves off again as something they are not;
    ( experts in fst/adp), is no different to passing
    themselves off as the perfect religious pillars
    of two communities , RF and OP,that many in both
    communities have known for a very long time the phonies
    they are as well as their motives of becoming fst.
    which is and always has been about money.
    The Tapestry business no doubt was profitable, as if
    they were so proud of what their involvement was,
    it would still be available to acess on line.

  173. April 6 12:11
    Thanks for updating thatb the Gaskills have once
    again found another home base church; and are
    enjoying being once again on a pillar by people
    who eventually will be wondering later, how they
    bought into their convincing persona that they
    use to their advantage, as you stated these kind
    of weak-minded people are easily manipulated by
    people like the Gaskills because once they find
    out that they are so dedicated to fst.care and
    are all about caring for children and are selfless,
    they elevate them as people who must be so giving
    that they give up their lives to devote to caring
    for needy and disabled children.
    Is it not surprising that these cult like individuals,
    start pointing that Satan is attacking them ( Gaskills)
    and everything that has and is happening is Satan
    trying to take them down and sadly really believe
    that they have been victimized and targeted by Satan
    himself. The real facts that exsist that caused the
    trouble(which they were guilty of for years), are
    totally ignored and deemed fabricated by two deranged
    liars and even people that have shared their negative
    experiences are all in Satans hands and are really
    Satan himself attacking them because they are just
    such Godjy people.
    It is intersting but not surprising, that their followers
    are raising money for them. What happened to all the
    money they took in from the state and their own jobs?
    Perhaps, as someone posted on this blog; Mrs. Gsaskill
    was a big spender on herself and family (excluding fst.
    care children) and does not have a sizeable bank-account.
    However, they did take in tax-free income, so how could
    they not have money saved to help them pay their lawyer
    fees? The couple needs to look at the trouble they are in
    and face the hard fact that they themselves not Satan,
    have brought them to this juncture in their lives.
    All they both have to do is look in the mirror, they
    are the cause not Satan, for the abuse and suffering
    they both comitted against the two girls that were
    robbed of a normal childhood;and for years suffered
    silently the abuse that the accused is now facing
    and standing trial for.

  174. Apr.7-12:31 AM
    Your comment about Mrs. Gaskill wanting to
    be as you put it "QUEEN BEE" in whatever
    church community she was in is so true.
    She always as well as her husband, actively
    propelled themselves to be high profile
    as they wanted everyone to know how christian
    and religious they were and they were so
    much better than the other church members.
    It is my experience, that people that need to
    wear their faith in God "on their sleeve",
    and parade around as being better than anyone
    else; are people that have problems and they
    use their religious piety to elevate themselves
    to be viewed(in their perception)as beyond approach
    in character, morals and values. Often, these kind
    of "wear it on your sleeve " people "wear it on their
    sleeve" because they all too often "WANT" others
    to see them and reward them with adulation as they
    really are hiding who they really are behind the
    facade of their faith. Obviously, many devout
    Christians from any demonation, PRACTICE and LIVE
    their faith and do NOT SEEK ADULATION as faith is
    a relatinship between you and your God; and live
    thier lives by living their faith and practicing
    their faith quietly. It is often a red flag when
    people "wear their religion on their sleeve",
    as it does make one think why they feel they need
    to flaunt "how holy they are". Sadly, many times
    these kind of people hide behind their religion;
    as religion becomes their way of covering up who
    they really are; which often does not reflect
    the image they are working so hard at being in
    the eyes of their religious community.
    Many cases like this one involving people with
    this same profile are even on this very forum
    as well as the news. The Sandusky case while not
    identical, is very close to this story; including
    religious ties as well as a wife that is very
    much like Mrs. Gaskill. I personally have always
    thought that if you have to wear your "religion
    on your sleeve" and flaunt your faith, you truly
    are not practicing your faith.Faith needs only to
    be a personal relationship with the Lord and living
    your faith each day by quietly practicing His
    teachings and living a life that reflects your
    love of God by your actions and how you treat others.
    There is no need to "wear religion on your sleeve",
    as actions speak louder than words. I was rasied
    with a simple concept that I have raised my own
    children with since they were toddlers.
    It is not a secret, nor is it hard, it is plain
    and simple. Treat others the way you would like
    to be treated,be kind to everyone you meet, and
    most of all trust in God and practice his teachings
    by simply living your faith everday.

  175. Do you think the new church they go to is the one in Brookfield where their son in law is the youth minister? It would make sense that they would go there now. I would think there would have to be some kind of a fund started for them as how else would they come up with the bond money?

  176. April 6, 2012 12:55PM

    The Church is called Cornerstone Community Church-right? in Riverside, Illinois tho initially I was told it was in Western Springs or somewhere out in the Western suburbs. Unbelievable that to learn that yet another community is being duped.

  177. I happen to know the (Edwards family) long
    time Calvery membersas I attend and I am active
    in my church community (Calvery);and after the
    Gaskills left under questionable circumstances,
    it was common knowledge that they became members
    of the church their son-inlaw is a youth pastor.
    The church is in Brookfield IL and is as the blogger
    before me said Cornerstone Community Church is the
    correct name of the church.
    The sad part of them attending church there is this
    family is like poisin ivy; and to become close with
    them in any way is very risky.
    The son in-law is part of a very wonderful and
    and truly worthy of high regard (Edwards Family)
    who live and practice their faith in every aspect
    in their lives and are loved by many people not
    only at Calvery but around the world.
    The son in-law comes from a missionary family who
    like the rest of the family are loving and genuine
    caring people. The son in-law is a wonderful young
    man and the Gaskill daughter he married is as sweet
    as can be.It is too bad that the Gaskill couple are
    involved in their son in-laws church as it no
    doubt will be uncomfortable and awkward for the
    young youth pastor as the Gaskills like everywhere
    else they have ever been, will be a negative
    influence in this church as well. I'm sure they
    have attracted and duped weak-minded people with
    the their spin on the girls that have came forward
    seeking justice that they so clearly deserve.
    I doubt the amount of bond money was raised in
    such a short time by their new church. The Gaskills
    are not above asking for money from family members
    and maybe even took money out on the equity of their
    home. The fund that has been established is no doubt
    being used for all their expenses and paying bills
    as the income from the state has been cut and they
    will have to pay back the sources of the money they
    borrowed. The fund better stay in place a long time
    as they are going to need it.
    Brookfield is an average and middle class comunity,
    and I seriusly doubt they can raise the kind of
    money they need as the economic status is hard working
    people who need money for their own families, and
    pay for their own bills. I hope the Gaskill couple
    do not ruin their son-inlaws churh as they have in
    two other church communities; but their presence
    there is unfortunate for these unsuspecting church
    members as they wii no doubt become tangled in their
    web of lies and it sounds like it has already started.

  178. Thanks for all of the new information. If you have information that would help the new community be aware of red flags and to be cautious of involvement, you could contact the new church with your concerns. If they are in this church, the contact information is at http://www.cornerstone-grow.org/CCC/Welcome.html Usually people respond better to those with first-hand information.

  179. I was under the impression that the gaskill's were not involved with their son in laws church. Last I heard they were pretty involved with willow chicago, a branch of willow creek church that meets downtown.

  180. Apr 10 6;29
    The Gaskills do attend and are members of
    the church in Brookfield, Il. If they had
    any affiliation with Willow Chicago,downtown
    in the past, that is not the case now or has
    it been since they left Calvery abruptly
    due to unethical behavior on Mrs. Gaskill's
    part, in a job position she held for a couple
    of years. Also, her daugther and son in-law,
    now have a beautiful baby boy and attending the
    church has become a family place of worship
    and when they left Calvery, it made sense to
    attend this church especially with their family ties.

  181. Has anyone out there been able to get the attention
    on the two major Chicago newspapers to do a special
    report on this case? I have e-mailed both papers
    twice and have heard nothing back. I am going to try
    reaching tv news reporter Channel nine, Mark Sulpussa
    as he is an investigative reporter and often covers
    stories that should or need to be coverd in the
    media to educate and bring awareness to a story
    where corruption, deceit or in this case, the lack
    of DCFS's protecting children in their care, and
    are trying to sweep this case under the carpet as
    no news outlets have carried the story as the community
    papers in RF and OP where this couple lives and has
    ties in both communities.
    I'm hoping that if they get enough e-mails and or calls,
    they will report on this story before April 26, when
    the case goes to trial. Also, I have pointed out to
    both Chicago newspapers that this story needs public
    awareness as this story is one of many that happen
    and are constantly covered up somehow by DCFS.
    It is time DCFS is out in the public arena to
    educate people on how DCFS needs and has needed
    major reform from top to bottom in protecting
    children and making sure fst. homes are investigated
    intenseley even after during the post-adoption phase
    as these girls did not receive post-adoption visits
    and supervision after their adoption. It would have
    benn easy as DCFS obviously was in this home on
    a continual basis as they loaded up this home with
    a ridicoulos number of SP. needs children which
    in itself needs EXPLAINING.

  182. Since reading all the comments I feel both Robert and Mary should both be investigated.What they both did is disgusting. How sad to be so desperate for money that you would ruin a childs life.

  183. I tried for 3 hours to post this at the Forest Leaves–never was able to as the system was not accepting new posts. I felt that readers there should get a handle on most bloggers' concerns.

    As of 9:00AM, there are 180 posts on the Reform Talk Site:
    http://reformtalk.blogspot.com/2012/02/how-could-you-hall-of-shame-robert.html

    It is interesting to note that the oakparkobserver on 3-26-2012 posted here a verbatim post from the Blog Site (see 3-26-12, 10:32AM) leaving out the first line: "Well, after reading all this, I can thank God that Rob was not black because the rush to judgment would be even worse." I wonder why this was posted on the Reform Talk Site and NOT on this one (Forest Leaves)?

    I would like to point out that the majority of the Blogs are negative to the Gaskills, but very FEW address the allegations against Mr. Gaskill; rather most people are concerned over the failure of DCFS in not identifying this home as an abusive one in which the foster/adopted children were treated much differently than the bio-children. These children were subjected to personal, mental, verbal and isolating abuse by both Mr. and Mrs. Gaskill.

    Furthermore, there are a vast number of bloggers who are having a difficult time coming to terms with knowing some of what was going on in the home and severing connections with the family rather than reporting the events to DCFS or other protective services.

    This is as honest as it gets.

  184. To Apr.2,12:46 PM Your statement, "I have known the Gaskills
    for years". Your statement is just a fact (Unfortunately)
    that you like many on this blog are in the same category.
    Perhaps you are one of the few that has stuck by them for
    years; and are still supporting them despite the allegations
    and their pattern of mental and emotional abuse as well.
    That is your progerative, so good for you.
    I can say with honesty that many many people that knew
    the Gaskill family for years even before fst. parenting;
    and for a good number of years while foster parenting,
    can make the statement you made.We all witnessed the cruel
    parenting on behalf of these two young ladies while they
    were growing up. Some of us cut ties with them permanently,
    and some of us who knew too much of what was going on
    behind closed doors(Gaskills figured out as Mary was very
    perceptive as well as secretive) and she sensed disapproval
    on the treatment of the girls were banished by the Gaskills
    themselves for fear of perhaps reporting to DCFS as many
    have lamented on this blog.
    We all did not care to be around them as we witnessed,
    heard and sometimes disagreed with Mary on the verbal
    abuse and unfair treatment and rules that the girls had
    imposed on them and we wised up and did not want to
    be a part of their lives anyway, but Mary liked to make
    you feel like she dumped you (truth was we were at the
    point anyway as we knew they were phonies) and none of
    us wanted to know anything more about their lives period.
    Sadly, we thought incorrectly, that DCFS would find
    out just by talking to the girls alone but that never
    happened and now in hind sight we all wish we could
    turn back the clock and taken the Gaskills to task
    by reporting the facts we knew to be true to DCFS
    at that time.
    All of us in the above categories do not believe the
    are lying. Sadly, since they suffered the abuses
    mentioned above, we can see and understand that these
    girls MORE THAN LIKELY SUFFERED SEX ABUSE in that home,
    no matter what SPIN the Gaskills are putting out there
    including the latest that SATAN HIMSELF IS ATTACKING
    THEM and the girls no doubt are SATAN in the flesh to
    them and only prayer will save them from this EVIL FORCE.
    Luckily, the justice system will be seeking justice
    for the girls from the true source of EVIL; the ACCUSED
    HIMSELF. It is too bad his wife is not being charged
    with childhood abuse as she dished plent out for years
    and she as well as her husband is and always has been
    EVIL HERSELF>

  185. I too have tried reaching reporters from the
    two major newspapers and have not received
    responses even after e-mailing three times.
    I also have left voice-mail ans still am
    waiting to hear back. I am begining to think
    that because Chicago is very good at hiding things
    as they are so corrupt; as well as our governor
    Pat Quinn, the state may not want this case to
    have anymore exposure than it already has in the
    two community newspapers. I really think on some
    corrupt level they do not want attention drawn to
    DCFS since it is run by the state of IL.
    However, by not exposing cases like this, IL is
    as guilty as DCFS in failure to protect children
    in state care; and if that is the case, it is very
    sad that in the state of IL child welfare is not
    a priority. DCFS looking good seems to be what the
    state is interested in PROTECTING not CHILDREN.

  186. Bloggers on this site that have lamented not getting the attention of DCFS are geniunely sorry for not acting on
    what they knew to be true: the Gaskills were cruel and
    abusive to the girls and treated these girls when they were
    older as servants in the home. Their bio-girls never did
    half the amount of chores that the fst/adp girls had to do.
    These girls from the time they were toddlers were treated
    despically, with mental and verbal abuse even in the presence
    of outsiders. To say many people feel so guilty is an under-
    statement. We have no defense other than we mistakenly thought
    DCFS would surely pick uo on this from visiting and talking
    with the girls privately when they were older. I myself,
    after removing myself as far away from this family as I
    could; often wondered when the girls were older why they did
    not complain about their treatment in this dysfunctional home.
    Another reason also was people, myself included, knew how really
    distutbed Mary Gsskill was and is, and did not want to deal
    with the vicious side of her personality. She was very adept
    at being irrational and intimidated people that she viewed
    as enemies or just did not like.
    The two above examples for people not getting involved were
    ignorence about DCFS; and fear of the wrath of Mary Gaskill.
    Everyone on this blog have been very honest and looking
    back we wish we would have reported to DCFS and not trusting
    them so much with the welfare of these girls. Also, Mary's
    irrational and erratic behavior should not have matterd as
    we could have given information and protected are identities
    at the same time. The cold hard fact is we wanted to get
    away from this couple and were not pro-active as we should
    have been in spite of the likes of a Mary Gaskill.
    DCFS failed these girls for sure; but we as a community that
    knew the Gaskills should not have been fst parents to begin
    with, failed them as well.
    The only thing we can do now is to do what many of us have
    been doing by contacting authorities that are over seeing
    this case and giving them the picture of two people who
    are not only cruel but were and are comfortable exploiting
    children for money from the state(DCFS) and were allowed
    by DCFS to even take in more children for the money as well.
    I honestly hope these girls file a suit against the Gaskills
    as soon as they can; and receive some kind of settlement
    with the state for sime kind of restitution for allowing
    these girls to suffer in that home for nearly their entire
    lives. Also, I hope Mr. Gaskill receives the punishment
    he deserves; and that his wife not be allowed to have any
    fst children in her care. Any child the state allowed to be
    adopted by the two of them should be subject to a review
    in court and have the adoption revoked as these parents
    are nothing but foxes in sheeps clothing.

  187. Gaskills, If you read this blog (I hope you do),
    it is my hope and everyone on this blog;
    and many others in the community that
    are too disgusted with the two of you,
    (as well as upset with themselves) that they
    can't even read or write in this blog;
    as they are so sickened by what they
    have known to have exsisted in your
    home and feel sickened and remorseful
    for thinking DCFS would find out about
    the snakes you two are; gave DCFS too much
    credit) and now realize that not getting
    involved was a huge mistake. Also, Mary, it
    is clear you and your disturbed mind intimidated
    people to the point that they needed to
    seperate themselves and even children that were
    friends with your bio-children as it became
    not only apparent but necessary to protect
    ourselves and our children from your disturbing
    behavior and abnormal home. We are not sad for
    you and your husband as you "reap what you sow",
    and now it all has come home to roost and you
    both are in the position you are in.
    THE TWO OF YOU

    are and were leeches receiving money for
    CHILDREN
    you abused in so many obvious ways that have
    been dicussed on this blog; as well as the
    abuse your husband is standing trial for.

    HORRIBLY SICKENING

    Whatever religion you have practiced or
    practice now, you sadly do not even practice
    the very basic and most important words
    that people of faith live by: "LOVE ONE
    ANOTHER AS I LOVE YOU"-"WHATEVER YOU DO
    FOR THE LEAST OF MY BROTHERS, YOU DO IT
    FOR ME".
    These girls are God's children. They were
    in need of a healthy home with PARENTS
    that would LOVE them and make their
    childhood EVERYTHING a child deserves,
    and in their case even MORE LOVE AND CARE
    as they came into this world needing a
    family other than the one they were born
    into to provide them with a loving, caring
    and stable home to grow up in.
    YOU BOTH FAILED THESE GIRLS IN ALL AREAS
    AND: TOOK AWAY THEIR WHOLE
    CHILDHOOD AND INNOCENCE
    THAT THEY WILL LIVE
    WITH THE REST OF THEIR
    LIVES.
    HOW YOU TWO SLEEP OR EVER SLEPT DURING
    THE NIGHT IS BEYOND
    COMPREHENSION

    MAYBE, NOW THAT THE GIRLS HAVE FINALLY
    BROKEN THEIR SILENCE……
    THE TWO OF YOU ARE HAVING MANY
    SLEEPLESS NIGHTS…
    AS YOU FINALLY ARE EXPOSED FOR
    RUINING TWO INNOCENT
    PRECIOUS LIVES THAT SADLY
    ENDED UP IN YOUR
    HANDS

    TOO BAD YOU TWO REALLY HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT
    HOW PEOPLE WHO LIVE
    THEIR FAITH
    LIVE THEIR LIVES

  188. Apr 11,12:44

    Thank you for summing up what many of us
    have felt about the Gaskills using religion
    to hide behind and shield themselves from the
    people they really are and always have been.
    Personaly, I have always felt that when people
    blatantly want you to know how Christian they
    are and go overboard drawing attention to
    themselves; more often than not, they want
    to be noted and noticed. They love the
    adulation they think will elevate their
    status in their church community as well
    as the community they live in.
    It is obvious the status they worked at achieving
    played a role in how they wanted to be perceived;
    and the perception they wanted others to have of
    them.
    They used this false religious persona to dupe
    many people and no doubt DCFS.
    Faith is something you live in your everday walk
    in life. Living by one's faith is not for show. To love,respect,care and give of yourself unselfishly to others
    is all that is required. Our actions guided by are faith
    is the only thing that matters.Faith is not loud. Faith is
    not for show. Faith need not be flaunted, True faith is
    simply practiced in our lives as we share our lives with
    others. Faith is quiet. Faith is kind. Faith is love.
    Faith is repect for all human life. Faith is caring for the
    most vulnerable among us. Faith is protecting and loving
    the most vulnerable. Faith is not selfish. Faith is everything
    that we can do to make life better for those less fortunate.
    The girls that suffered in the Gaskill home suffered in a
    home where faith did not live and was a false PRETENSE
    in every sense of the word.

  189. I think the Gaskills in every aspect of their
    lives, especially their bible thumping (Mary was
    (known to have bible studies on her front porch)
    and false piety can be summed up without saying
    anything else-HYPOCRITES

  190. False religious persona? If someone believes in God and dedicates their life to their religion, how is that false? Do you personally know the Gaskills so well that you know their beliefs are false? I know many of their children and their beliefs are certainly not FALSE. They didn't try to draw attention to their religion, they were simply noticed BECAUSE of their dedication to it. For people to say that Mary must be held accountable for some of this is absurd. What makes you think that these two girls would turn their father in and just "forget" to mention their mother had anything to do with it or had any idea it was happening? Grouping her into the supposed crimes is wildly unfair to a woman who dedicated her life to taking children in who needed help. I know for a fact she loves her children with every morsel in her body and would not let something like this go on if she knew. Let's not forget that people are INNOCENT until proven GUILTY. I'm doubtful of this "confession" that is being reported. If it happened it wouldn't be a random line in the middle of an article. Let's let the JUDGE decide what's real and what's right, you all should stick to your day jobs. For those of you spouting religious nonsense, you're no better Christians than the people you're pointing fingers at by being judgmental before anything has been proven.

  191. Perhaps Mary loves her children on some very basic primal maternal level, however, EVERYTHING else that I have read, regarding her phony pseudo religious lifestyle, her behavior, her narcissistic obsession with popularity, the police calls, the spreading of lies about people, the threats to others, the absolute phoniness of her life is all very familiar. ANYONE WHO DEFENDS HER IS A FOOL. Her whole life has been a phony one act play. She is a product of totally dysfunctional upbringing that goes way back. She has just brought the dysfunction up a notch, and some very innocent children became the victims. There is no way that her husband is the only one to blame in this scenario. Perhaps the sickness will finally come to an end.

  192. The Gaskills were totally DEVOUT CATHOLICS ( at least
    that is how they were perceived and wanted to perceive);
    yet were forced to leve because Mary falsely accused
    a young immigrant priest that she CHOSE to be CHUMMYY
    with of making inappropriate sexual advances toward her.
    A full investigation was done and the young priest was
    vindicated. Her allegations were a blatant lie. The
    pastor knew the accusations were bogus from the start
    as Mary (unfortunately was known to have issues).
    People in the parish were totally baffled by her
    motives for the allegations. Instead of facing the
    parish congregation and sticking it out, she left
    the church in short order; leaving her devotion to
    (she attended mass daily) of a religion she was
    passionately dedicated too.
    We all know the rest of the story. Calvery was all
    of a sudden embraced full force over night.
    She and her family were there for several years
    until she blew it once again. The elders of Calvery
    confronted Mary with some serious issues regarding
    unethical behavior (having to do with finances)
    in a office job she held at the church. Mary was
    asked to leave. The elders sent a letter out to ALL
    members informing them of her absence and asked that
    the members not gossip about it and they wished Mary
    well. Again, she switched to an unknown chuch that
    was reaveled on this blog as a small church in
    Brookfield.

    If you call everything listed above someone who is dedicated
    to faith in God and lives it that is your choice.
    Her children are innocent as they were and are not the sources of the problem in this family.
    When it comes to practicing faith, actions speak louder
    than words; and running around flaunting religious beliefs
    is not what is needed or required by God.In fact it is the
    opposite. You live your faith in every aspect of your life.
    Wearing it on your sleeve as someone pointed out on this
    blog is a red flag. You are absouletly right about Mary
    loving her children with every morsel in her body.
    Those children are her bio-children. You apparently
    bought into her dedication to fst. parenting needy children
    as a example of "her love of children". Foster care weas
    and has always been a business for her and her husband
    as they became foster parents for the money they received
    per child each month. If she truly loved the girls (who
    were as sweet as can be) there would not be anyone
    on this blog speaking about the abuse (verbal and mental)
    they witnessd on this blog that the two of them participated in and sadly abuses of one kind in fst. care makes it
    more likely for abuse of the nature that her husband has
    been charged with. Read about similiar cases. The Sandusky
    case has many parallels to this one.
    You are naieve to think a predator would not cover their
    tracks. FYI the verdict will be decided by a jury, not
    the judge. Remember? A grand jury indidited him to begin with.

  193. okay, let's say their "beliefs" are not false. Let's also say that their interpretation of "beliefs" took on a whole new meaning when Mary felt it was her obligation to write numerous letters to people she believed were the "devil." Who does that? What type of a person passes judgment on another and decides they should be notified in writing that they are evil and doing the devil's work? And, these letters always followed a disagreement or difference of opinion with Mary. Mary seemed to be aware of every person in River Forest who was kibbitzing with the devil, and low and behold…the devil was right there in her very own house!!! It gives me the chills thinking about it. Really, if Mary had been taking care of business at home and cooking, cleaning and raising children…shouldn't she have been too busy to write these letters? How many out there received one of her letters or was the object of one of her letters going to someone else? I don't know, maybe people should have notified DCFS early on, because I'll tell you one thing…if the tables were turned and Mary thought you were doing something improper, she would have written lettr and made phone calls until some type of action was taken. Anyway, it doesn't matter about their religion…ROB ADMITTED GUILT.

  194. The Gaskill childrens' faith has nothing to do
    with any abuses the two girls suffered in the Gaskill
    home. I know the Gaskill bio-girls and know the
    two girls in this case as I knew them at their
    former church Calvery. The bio-girls were from
    everything I knew of them to all be very fine
    young girls. The two fst/adpt girls were also sweet
    and pleasant. The children should not even be
    talked about at all. Although, it seems to have been
    fair game for dispariging remarks about the two girls
    have been expoused by the parents as a defense that
    they are liars and can not be trusted.
    This is a sad situation for the bio-children as
    they are not responsible for either parents'
    treatment of the fst/adpt girls .
    I think the bio-girls are wonderful young women
    in their own right. The fst/adpt girls I'm sure
    if they were really loved as evident with the
    bio-children, this case would not exsist as they
    would have never suffered abuse of any kind.
    One thing is for sure, the Gaskills love their
    bio-children and would do anything for them.
    That's what loving parents do.
    Sadly, the two girls were not given the same love
    and dedication and there were times at Calvery
    that you could not help but notice that the two
    girls were not treated equally.
    They deserved to be with a family that perhaps
    did not have children of their own; and would
    of had the love and attention they needed,
    without having to compete with bio-children that
    were clearly loved and cherished by their bio-parents.
    DCFS should think out what family children are placed
    in. This family already had the responsibility to
    love and raise their own children and it does seem
    that they could only care for these girls but not
    ever truly loving them enough to make sure the girls
    had the perfect childhood their own children were
    blessed with having. Some people can not love a child
    that is biologically not theirs and I think that
    is evident in all the information that is coming
    out on how the girls were treated in the home.

  195. To Apr 12 10:49 AM
    How many wives know and think it is ok for
    their spouse to do anything like what the accused is alleged to have done to these girls? I would say none.
    I'm sure IF this really happened, his wife was probably
    not around and the girls kept this secret for reasons
    that they only know. This man is innocent until proven
    guility. However, the way these girls were treated bt what
    people on this blog are saying they witnessed, does cast
    dispersions on the home envioriment. That is what the jury
    will have to determine during the prosecution of this case.
    I feel sad for everyone in this case. There are no winners
    here. Just a lot of people who have lost their lives one
    way or another.

  196. I agree that the bio-girls seemed very nice.
    Quite honestly, I think they had to know how the two
    girls were treated unfairly as they lived in the home
    and no doubt witnessed what people on this blog have
    noted about the treatment od the girls.
    Also, growing up they saw the way their mother was
    constantly a busy body worrying about everyones'
    business while guarding her own like a junk yard dog.
    She also was very unkind and vindictive to people that
    crossed her the wrong way or at times did not do
    anything at all. Is it no wonder people in this community
    did not want to be around her and her family whenthey
    saw how the two girls were treated and did not call DCFS?
    Looking back, people that distanced themselves from
    this family, should have reported to DCFS, and no doubt
    reports would not be isolated and maybe the girls would
    have been removed from the home. Although, I think that
    is giving DCFS too much credit as they saw fit to keep
    placing children (with SP needs no less) into this
    highly dysfunctional home with a woman who could not
    even take care of her own mental problems as she was
    the most self-centered person ypu ever could meet.
    It is only logical that her bio-children had to witness
    all of that behavior as well.How this affected their
    own lives growing up, only they can answer. If they rose
    above it and are not impacted negatively in any way as
    adults that seems impossible. I'm sure they are or have
    tried to forget everthing they saw and experienced, but
    I'm sure they had to be troubled by their mother's
    troubled behavior. Since she is their mother they might
    have chosen to ignore the behavior as children
    and never saw their mother in a negative light.
    Nevertheless, the children are in no way responsible
    for their mothers behavior and right now their focus
    is on their father. I just wonder if they look back
    and feel that their mother was a driving negative force
    in that home, that contributed to the trouble their
    father is in today.Their bio-children who are innocent
    and I'm sure very worried children right now, were also
    victims in the sense that they lived and witnessed
    abnormal behavior on their mothers part growing up;
    as well as abusive treatment of the two girls.
    They are suffering something right now that they
    are no doubt sick with worry over, and they so
    do not deserve this trouble in their family as they
    now are victims themselves.How can they not resent
    their parents decision to become foster parents to
    begin with?

  197. I agree with the previous commenter that all the other children in the home would be affected if these allegations are true. Witnessing abuse or neglect is a horrible thing.

    For those that were sent letter(s) by Mary, do any of you still have those? Could those be scanned and sent to the prosecutor?

  198. "ANYONE WHO DEFENDS HER IS A FOOL." Really? You sound so unbelievably judgmental. Anyone who says something like that or groups people together based on their beliefs is the real fool. The problem here is that you believe everything you read. And how can you say the Gaskills became foster parents because of the money they earned every month? Who are you to make the decision that they felt that? It baffles me that people are so judgmental and jump to such conclusions. A few bad choices in life does not make you someone who is capable of harming your children or turning a blind eye when they are being abused. Am I saying that Mary is a saint in every aspect of her life? No. But does she need to be grouped in with her husband (if these allegations are even true) or have her life destroyed even more and her love for her children doubted just because she made some poor choices? If someone examined your every poor choice and deemed you a terrible person or mother for those mistakes, how would you feel? None of us would be considered "good people." Cut the freaking woman a break! She didn't abuse her children. She cared for ALL of her children, biological or not. You read a bad story (which is most likely false) and you choose to run with it. It's sad and Mary's life is already destroyed regardless of what happens from here. Bashing her on this website won't change anything. If she sent mean letters to people, so what? That doesn't make her an abusive mother. It doesn't make her a great person but no one is asking for you all to become best friends with her. It's not illegal to be opinionated or operate in different ways than others. Her life is already drastically changed and the only way she has to go is up from here.

  199. The real question, 10:09, is which social worker approved this home for so many special needs children? Both Gaskills worked for welfare agencies and this whole case is suspect for cronyism. With multiple special needs children, they were making a lot of money from the state.Were waivers given to have that many children? Questions about her character are warranted when this many stories are being told about how she interacted in the community. Asking questions is not the same as convicting. Examining and discussing is not evil or the favorite Gaskill-loving term "judgmental." When you can't engage in a real argument, the only thing you can do is whine about others being "judgmental."

  200. COPS ARE LIARS. THE INTERNET IS FULL OF MORONS. GASKILL WILL BE VINDICATED AND MOST OF YOU WILL NEVER READ THAT FOLLOW UP. I HOPE PEOPLE JUDGE YOU EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR PATHETIC LIVES.

    TO THE PERSON THAT POSTED THESE ARTICLES; YOU ARE PARTICIPATING IN HERESAY, REVEAL YOURSELF SO THAT YOU TOO MAY BE JUDGED.

  201. Anonymous April 13, or should I say Sara Michelle? Reveal YOURSELF so the River Forest cops can sue you for slander.I agree that you are a moron. We are all judged every moment of our lives by God. Remember that.

  202. While the most important issue at hand is the future of these two young women, an issue that also needs to be addressed is the question of how the Gaskills were able to fool DCFS for so long. As most of the above have stated, initially they were duped by the Gaskills so-called phony religious zeal, but ultimately one realizes that it doesn't take very long for the flaws to become glaringly apparent. How they could continually receive children in their home is so wrong. Mary's sickness is so far-reaching and so Machiavellian it should be used as a template by DCFS for future caseworker training. As the mother of this family and primary care-giver someone (case worker) should have seen the red flags at some point. This case has implications that go far beyond it's face value and hopefully this will bring it to light.

  203. To APRIL 12 10:09 PM……the judgement on Mary goes much farther back than you obviously know and is not based on any of the above. However, any judgement is now VALIDATED by these stories. The descriptions of her bizarre behavior, manipulation and life of duplicity and deceit are finally coming to light in print because of this blog. This behavior has been going on for decades. So for you to judge me, only shows that you are among the group who has not yet seen the light. Get off your holier than thou perch. I only hope that someone can organize a group to attend the court hearings to support these girls. Based on this blog I'm sure we could pack the courtroom to rival the defense. Whether or not Rob Gaskill is guilty as charged remains to be seen, but chronicles, over the years, of his wife's sick and twisted behavior could fill a library and why the hell she still has kids in her care is even more criminal!

  204. Rally, I remember when Mary caused trouble with the priest
    in our parish, St. Luke and since many were
    critical of her, she sent quite a few unkind
    letters to whoever she beilived to now be her
    enemies. Some of us once were friends with her and
    until then tried to not let her stong personality
    bother us. We knew Mary could be hard to deal with
    but we tried to stay on good terms with her; really
    many times letting things she said or did that were
    unexpected or strange behavior go; as we learned
    how to deal witrh her in spite of her bossy nature.
    I received an "unkind" letter, but I was not
    surprised as Mary was more than capable letting
    you know she was " angry' and I did not let the
    letter get to me. I wish I kept it, but since it
    was a bunch of garbage, that is where it ended up.
    Later, I found out I was not the only receipient
    of a letter that was "unkind". I don't know if anyone showed the police (as that we be on record), as some of the lucky letter holders were very angry and felt she had
    issues and needed help. There may be someone out there
    with one of her letters as she sent people letters even later than that time-line. I would think many ended up in the garbage where they belonged. Who knew the letters could be used later to show her volatile nature in a serious matter like this? I think her neighbor received a lot of letters over the years and maybe has them or at least one they could share. I will call her and find out as I do not know if she is aware of this blog as she leads a very busy life.
    I do believe the police know we are not lying as she called
    them constantly complaining about one thing or another. Everything she reported was ridicoulos and the police
    know that about her.
    If she could she would probably be sending the same kinds of letters to people who believe the girls are not lying right now.

  205. What in the world does the 4-7-12 comment posted at 12:48 mean? "I have known the Gaskills for years."
    Were you close friends? Were you in their home? Did you socialize? Were you harassed by her until you gave in and accompanied MG on one of her evening jaunts? Where you there during one of her on store destruction raves? Were you privy to the buying trips to GAP, having a family photo taken, and then the clothes returned to GAP? Did you witness the betrayal of the fostered, then adopted children's medical and bio-home histories told to total strangers. Were you in the home when Missy was in charge of bathing and putting to bed Amber and another child? Were you there when they were locked up in the 3rd floor bedroom? Were you there when they were not allowed at Christmas dinners or at parties when the bio-child the same age as Missy was allowed to be there? Were you there when Amber was called a moron and an idiot? Were you there for the St. Luke's nightmare? Were you around when she would leave all of the foster children under the supervision of a 17YO unrelated girl while she worked at Calvary? Did you hear her absolutely terrible stories about her husband? (true/untrue? given her history as a liar, who knows?)- Were you privy to the salacious stories she told about 'no longer' friends? Were you privy to her absolute terror about being audited by the Federal Government? and these recollections are but a few. We were verbally
    labeled 'evil' by M.G. and her children told us they could not speak to us ever again. I'm only sorry I don't have something written, something concrete. However, I do have a firmly embedded personal knowledge of the nightmare on Ashland.

    For the life of me I am totally mystified by the props given to them by their new Church's community. Haven't they seen this Blog or the articles and comments at other sites? Wake up like we all eventually did. I truly feel great sorrow for you because she/they do not deserve your support. (as a post note-this has NO connection to R.G.'s current court case; he will be viewed as innocent until proven guilty.)

  206. I think all this information on this blog, even if
    given anonoymously will help the girls as I am
    sure it can only validate what the girls no doubt
    already explained to authorities before this blog
    existed. Too many identical examples and experiences
    revealed in many of the blogs are similiar and add
    up to people telling the truth of what they witnessed
    as far as the girls treatment by the Fst parents
    in public and in their home. This blog is a way for
    a community of people who want to express what they
    witnessed and their disgust with DCFS as well.
    Yes, people have been brutally honest about their
    individual opinions on the fact that these parents
    did not parent these girls with a loving relationship
    and home; but it can only help the girls because
    the abuse that alledgedly took place that the accused
    is standing trial for is very likely considering the
    way these girls were unfairly treated and abused.
    The fact that many have referenced Mrs. Gaskills
    irratic an irrational behavior many times also
    shows how these girls were totally intimidated
    and frightened by both parents. Adults on this
    blog admitted their intimidation and trepidation
    dealing with Mrs. Gaskills volatile nature and
    anger they themselves experienced with her that
    led to severing ties with her and her family.
    Is it any wonder that the girls suffered in
    silence until now since they are no longer children
    but young women who finally can speak for themselves
    without the fear of Mrs. Gaskill and whatever the
    accused said or did to frighten them as well.
    So, for all those that think this blog has no meaning,
    you are so wrong as too many people on here have
    expressed what they know to be true and it very
    likely will end up supporting the girls life experiences
    in a home they unfortunately had to spend most of
    their life unhappy and suffering so horribly and
    even worse if these allegations are proved in the
    prosecution of this case.
    Also, reports to authorities can be given with identity
    and not anonymously; and can and will be protected as
    investigators and the state attorney office use the
    information to prove that the girls are not lying
    about other abuses they faced in the home growing up.

  207. To the question of people still having letters from
    Mrs. Gaskill that can be quite possible, However, in
    most cases the individuals that received her hate mail
    tore it up and discarded it as it was trash and the
    fact that it came from her proved that it was a good thing
    to have severed ties with her even after long standin relationships. I think the RF police dept has been able
    to experience first hand her irrational behavior when
    reporting the most ridicoulous "offenses" by neighbors,
    village employees and even people that thought they were
    at least on pleasant terms. I'm sure they are not surprised
    to have heard now or in the past this letter writing blitz
    she did on and off depending on who she thought was in
    some way insulting her by no longer associating with her;
    or God forbid it was something that involved one of her
    perfect children.It really is too bad that her husband did
    not see his wife had a problem and seek help for her; but
    then again, it appears that he was frightened of her as well.

  208. I believe the prosecutors can try this case on it's
    own merits with the information they already have
    as this man would not be facing a serious trial,
    and even though he has posted bond, he still is
    under the scrutiny of the court and one mistep
    he goes back to jail. I don't see his house arrest
    as a signal that the court is not taking this case seriously.
    I believe like many others he was cut slack for the
    people from his church writing letters to the court,
    and packing the courtroom. The judge was swayed, but
    when it comes to trial she along with the jury will be hearing
    the case that prosecution has and I for one believe that
    the prosecution has substantial evidence as bail was set
    hight to begin with to essentially say this case was so
    serious with not one but two class X felonies of two
    minors that bail should not be an option. The prosecution
    still believed that but was over-ruled due to the judge
    falling for the false persona the Gaskills are so good
    at selling to people that are their latest buddies
    believing the spin the Gaskills have given them about
    the girls at the heart of this case.The evidence will come
    out soon enough and I think more than likely it does not
    bode well for the defendant. Until then he is innocent
    until proven guilty.

  209. I wonder if Father Paul and Father Rich and the Chancery are aware of this Blog Site? I believe that hard evidence was saved from M.G.'s amoral 'episode' against St. Luke's Church.

  210. I believe that 3 of the Gaskill bio-children remain duped about their parent's behaviour. After all, when you grow up and live in a household where mentally challenged and/or fostered and/or adopted children are treated differently, you accept it as the 'norm'.

    Howver, I do believe that one of their bio-children was NOT duped. It remains to be seen if this person steps forward.

  211. I would personally like to thank this Site for providing so many of us an opportunity to speak the truth; i.e. against DCFS and for Missy and Amber, two very courageous young ladies.

  212. Their foster service should of been named Travesty not tapestry

  213. Does anyone know the agency responsible for monitoring the placement of all these children?

    I know when the family started with foster care they were with Hephzibah; but I believe they switched agencies.

  214. Rally and Crabbina~ I have checked this blog
    in recent days and there have been no blogs posted
    since your own;Apr 12 9:50 PM.
    I and some other community members are wondering
    if the blog is not going to print anymore blogs
    until after court date Apr 26 or when the trial is over.
    We are hoping that the honest posts (even though anonymously) have been helpful to investigators; and
    that the posts are written by real people who
    still can not have their identity revealed as
    there are (even now)many of us who do not want
    to deal with Mrs. Gaskill as many of us have
    experienced her wrath over the years (over minor things)
    and still believe she has not and will not changed
    as she is in need of professional help as many of
    us felt years ago, and untill this day. My personal
    opinion is that she has a serious personality disorder
    as she can become angry and volatile at the most
    trival things and then view people as enemies and
    resorts to behavior that has been described by
    many on this blog. I think some people have heard
    responses from print media and supposedly the news
    source is gathering information to see if enough
    information that has been revealed to take a deeper
    look into the actions or none actions of DCFS in this
    case.

  215. As I'm reading through some of these comments, I feel obligated to set a few facts straight.

    1. Calvary's former pastor did NOT leave the church because of the Gaskills at all. This was written by someone that obviously didn't know why Ray P. left, and had to come up with that theory. He left because of COMPLETELY different circumstances.
    2. The Gaskills did leave Calvary and attend Willow Chicago. They may have started to go to the church in Brookefield after, but it was not right away.
    3. The Gaskill children have flaws like everyone does. Even the biological children that were supposedly(I don't know if they were) treated better are good girls, but their flaws have been hung out for the world to see.
    4. The youth pastor at the Brookefield church who is married to their daughter is one of the most amazing guys. His family is amazing, and he is a great person to be there for her through this time. Please don't judge him, his wife, or that church.
    5. The trial hasn't even started yet. Wait to see evidence before we are so incredibly harsh. I have witnessed some of Mary's wrath, but that doesn't make me condemn them right away.

  216. Is it possible to post instructions on how to view the later posts to this blog? It seems as though there are no more posts when in fact there are several more.

    The court date of April 26th is approaching. Hopefully, information regarding attendance by those wishing to support the girls will be forthcoming.

  217. April 17, 2012 – you have to click on NEWEST to view the newest posts. Maybe Rally or Crabbina can add that at the bottom of the article.

    I think many can agree that Mary Gaskill has issues; but lets also remember Rob is the one charged with the crime. The trial will only present evidence related to sex abuse allegation.

    I agree that is important that others now realize that they were not alone when Mary mistreated them. I hope if there are children still in her care (as news articles reported); and people note inappropriate behavior they report it immediately.
    It no longer acceptable to think Mary is just having a bad day.

    I do believe that Rob Gaskill was soft spoken. His wife's personality was so large that he was almost invisible. Can anyone add more?

  218. We have added a comment to the post on how to find the comments over the 200 mark. Also, we have added a link to DCFS being on probation since January 11, 2012 from the accrediting body COA, Mary Gaskill's job at Lydia Home AND information from the defunct Tapestry Chicago website including an active link to a support group. Check out Update #7

  219. I attended church with the Gaskills and have many close family and friends still involved in their lives. My experience with the Gaskill family was very similar to many described here. They came into our church, seemed very dynamic, involved, capable and impressive. They are quite charming and magnetic in many ways. Then as time goes on, strange allegations arise, odd behavior is noticed. You just think they must be misunderstood or quirky. When Mary was fired from our church, I struggled to make sense of the situation, and talked with many people closer to it than I was. And in time, I found more people in the same boat as me, trying to make sense of it all, and finally admitting that some things with the family seemed "off." Nothing definitively criminal. Subtle. But for sure not as pure and solid as they like to think of and show themselves. Mary is aggressive, strong, gossipy and pushy (near bullish at times), and yet also emotionally needy, insecure and week/wounded at times. Many people see signs of some kind of personality disorder, like narcissistic, borderline, or something. And Rob also has a very good surface impression, but when you dig a little deeper, there are signs of an irreverent, woe is me, immature and rude attitude.

    My first reaction to hearing the news was, this can't be true! But then as I started to piece together what I know as fact: Both Mary and Rob have been caught—by people I deeply trust—in blatant lies. And according to Mary and Rob (known to lie), the girls, the police, the press, their former friends and neighbors are all lying. So if I have to believe one side, I'd tend to believe the victims. And the fact that the girls reported the alleged crimes years after they happened seems to make their story MORE credible to me, not less. They were children when the alleged abuse happened. I myself was abused as a child, and have a deep interest in studying the dynamics of what abuse does to children. The fact that they only reported it when they were older, living out of the house, removed from the dynamic of the family and therefore more in touch with an outside perspective on their situation makes it seem more true to the dynamic of other abuse victims.

    Anyway, finding this site has been very enlightening. I can't believe the volume of comments from people with similar ominous feelings about the family. I really thought I was one of the few. One thing has really irked me when reading about this case… The favor the judge seems to extend toward Rob because of the supporters in the courtroom and seeming "upstanding citizen" vibe. You can bet his lawyer will be working hard to pump that perspective up. The idea that a large amount of people would show up and sit on the state side to combat that perspective is great! I really hope to read in the next story that the court was filled with people supporting the girls.

    Also, to truly build a LEGAL case against the character of Rob Gaskill, people need to step out of the shadows with cold, hard facts and things that can be considered evidence of his character. Not just vague feelings that something was off. But if you are willing be named, listed as a witness, willing to testify… then stories like Rob calling Amber stupid while sitting on his lap, or Mary telling you vivid details of how damaged the girls are while they are standing there would be really persuasive in a courtroom case. But the judge or lawyers can't do anything with anonymous comments on an internet blog. I encourage people who have actually witnessed shady behavior to step out of the shadows and speak to the authorities. I wish I had more than just vague feelings and second-hand observations to share myself.

  220. RE: April 18, 2012 8:30 AM questions about Rob's personality:
    The ONLY time Rob ever talked was when Mary wasn't around. In the presence of Mary, he was silent. He said he never knew what he or they were doing until Mary told him. One time he did say that one of the bio-children had talked to him and Mary jumped all over him saying that they never talk with you-they only talk to her-no way would any of them have any discussion with you (Rob). He never really made a move without her knowing it. She got a job which involved staffing medical facilities with nurses when regular ones called off-the job began at 3 or 4am in the morning until (can't remember). She never did the job-Rob had to and then go to his regular job afterwards. He did call a non-Catholic (before Rob became a Baptist), a heathen, for example, which demonstrated his capacity for being both highly critical and self-righteous.

  221. please explain how to see continued comments

  222. For those still not understanding how to access comments above #200, you need to scroll to just the end of the post and see where it says XXX comments 1-200 of XXX Newer Newest. Click on Newest. You also can scroll to the bottom of the 200 comments and it says 1-200 of xxx Newer Newest and click on Newest. This is also decsribed at the top of the post.

  223. I think during the police investigation of the girls
    reporting the alleged sexual abuse, the investigators no doubt probed, and asked the girls to describe their home environment, treatment on a daily basis and what each of
    these so called parents were like individualy. I also
    believe the girls were questioned if they thought people in the community witnessed the many abuses and unfair practices in the home growing up. These girls knew their parents
    social groups (that changed often). The girls could no doubt name these people as well as their children.
    If anything, the questions that were no doubt asked about their childhood and the way they were so sadly treated
    were likely written in reports. The examples on this blog even though anonymous, have to prove that when the girls were questioned about their life in that horrible house their answers were the exact examples that have been given on this blog which did not even exsist while the investigation was taking place before the so called fathers' arrest. So for those that have said this blog is meaning less, think about what type of questions were asked of these girls in addition to the deviant alleged sexual abuse by an adult who not only diminished them in public ( GOD knows what went on behind closed doors) and the answers and information that had to pour out of them as a giant waterfall.
    Also, many people who have supported these girls in various ways have given their names (as I have done). So, for all the most high and pious people of God out there chew on that for awhile. Mary Gaskill is NOT ON TRIAL but she is a major player in this dysfunctional home. People that negate her treatment of these girls as well as her many mental issues need to connect the dots as this cruel and irrational woman created a home environment that influenced the alleged predetor, her own husband, the alleged sex abuser who IS ON TRIAL and whether
    she recognizes it or not; if indeed happened she set up
    the girls to be easy prey and she will have to live with
    that if there is or is not a guilty verdict in this case.

  224. I have a question that many others had at CALVERY
    regarding the very emotional sobbing (not tears of joy)
    that Misty did almost for the entire wedding ceremony
    as a bridesmaid of the eldest daughter of the Gaskills.
    Many of us at Calvery thought it was over the top,
    and did not know what to make of it.
    Some of us speculated that perhaps she could not
    deal with the fact that the bride would no longer
    be in the home and it just became reality to her
    during the ceremony. Still, her sobbing could not
    be ignored and her eyes were all red from her sobs.
    She did not sob out loud, but nevertheless did
    sob very emotionally on and off through out the ceremony.
    The bio sisters shed a few joyous tears, but they
    clearly were not sobbing. Many of us were and are
    still baffled as we felt very bad for Misty having
    such a hard time on a happy day for the oldest bio-young
    woman getting married.
    Looking back, one could only think that the bride
    was someone that Misty loved dearly and was very close to.
    It does make you wonder if the bride had consoled Misty
    on many occasions when Misty was treated badly or unfairly
    and maybe even stick up for her. ( hard to imagine her
    standing up to her mother as she feared her mother like
    everyone else).
    Whatever the reason, Misty was clearly distraught and
    could not hide it or even try to hide her feelings.
    It also was interesting that Amber was not a bridesmaid
    yet old enough, and was not included in the bridal
    party. Only Misty can say why she sobbed so hard.
    However, it did seem that the bride leaving and getting
    married clearly saddened Misty and perhaps the bride
    (who is a lovely sweet young woman) took Misty under
    her wing so to speak and Misty was grieving for her
    loss of someone she obviously loved dearly.

  225. FYI: DCFS EXPOSED ON FRONT PAGE OF THE SUNDAY
    EDITION OF THE CHICAGO TRIBUNE!
    THE ARTICLE TITLED "STATE FAILS TO INSPECT
    DAY CARES" IS EXTREMELY INFORMATIVE BY
    TWO INVESTIGATIVE REPORTERS WHO GIVE
    MANY OF THE SECRET DETAILS THAT HAVE
    NOT BEEN REVEALED AND COVERED UP BY
    THE STATE OF IL. THE ARTICLE TOTALLY
    PROVES HOW BROKEN DCFS IS AND DOES NOT
    SOUND ENCOURAGING FOR IMPROVING ANYTIME
    SOON AS THE STATE GOV PAT QUINN HAS CUT
    FUNDING BY 5% AND THE STATE OF IL IS
    FAILING OVER 300,000 CHILDREN IN DAY CARE
    ALONE THROUGHOUT THE STATE.
    THE ARTICLE FOCUSES ON THE DAY CARE FAILURES
    OF SUPERVISION AND INVESTIGATIONS.
    THIS IS A SIGN THAT THE MEDIA IS NOW LOOKING
    OVER DCF'S SHOULDER AND WILL NO DOUBT EXPOSE
    FAILURES TO PROTECT AND SUPERVISE CHILDREN
    IN FOSTER CARE AS WELL. PERHAPS ALL THE LETTERS
    RECEIVED BY THE STATE ATTORNEY OFFICE AS WELL
    STATE LEGISLATORS AND REPRESENTATIVES BY PEOPLE
    ON THIS BLOG HAVE HELPED EXPOSE DCFS FOR
    FAILING CHILDREN MISERABLY IN THE STATE OF IL.

    NOTE TO DCFS: YOU CAN RUN BUT YOU CAN'T HIDE
    THE MEDIA IS FINNALY EXPOSING
    THE MANY DEFICIENCIES AND
    NEGLECT OF CHILDREN IN THE STATE
    OF ILLINOIS. MAYBE YOU (DCFS)
    WILL FINALLY LEARN THE MEANING
    OF ACCOUNTABILITY AND TAKE
    FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR FAILING
    CHILDREN AND IN TOO MANY CASES
    IN FST. CARE RUINING CHILDREN'S
    LIVES AND ALSO FAILING SO MANY
    CHILDREN ACROSS THE STATE IN DAY
    CARE.

    GOVENOR PAT QUINN ARE YOU LISTENING
    OR REMAINING STONE DEAF IN SPRINGFIELD
    FAILING TO PROTECT INNOCENT VULNERABLE
    CHILDREN IN THE STATE OF IL?

  226. I read APR.22 7:55P~ and the sobbing that Misty
    could not seem to hold back during the Wedding
    Ceremony was very much apparent and concerning.
    She was clearly overly emotional, and really
    distraught. I thought at the time that her sobs
    were not appropriate as you could not help notice
    and feel helpless sitting there as obviously
    her sobs were not tears of joy that are normal
    and understandable as weddings in the family
    are emotionally charged, but in a sentimental
    way. Since these recent events have emerged,
    I believe the sobs were sobs of someone who
    was having a hard time dealing with the bride
    leaving home and not being there for Misty.
    I do believe there must have been a close
    relationship between the two young women and
    Misty no doubt had many reasons that brought
    her emotions to the surface. The person in
    the blog that said maybe in Misty's life
    the bride took her under her wing and Misty
    realized she would no longer have someone
    that was there for and maybe at times a
    source of comfort. Whatever the reason,
    it was clear that Misty was overcome with
    her emotions and was probably happy for the
    bride but very unhappy for herself.
    If anything it was clear that Misty was having
    a difficult time; and in retrospect her sobs
    can be interperted as Misty sobbing for the
    loss of having someone she clearly loved,
    no longer being there for her in the same way.
    This is conjecture of course, but the sobbing
    on and off throughout the ceremony that Misty
    could not keep in check was odd as she clearly
    was distraught.

  227. The explosive article on how DCFS fails children
    big time in day care centers across the state
    has been long over due. It is great it was on the
    front page of Sunday's Chicago Tribune and went
    on for two more pages with mind boggling details
    of how day cares throughout the state are not
    supervised, investigated, and even visited on regular
    unannounced visits. Many people that worked for someof
    these day care
    centers stated that when visits occured they were
    scheduled by DCFS therfore giving the day care center time
    to make sure everything looked perfect on the visitation
    day, which was totally different from went on in the
    center in its' daily operation.
    The article did not mention that the COA has put DCFS
    on probation since January of this year.
    Hopefully, with all the letters written to the news
    media sources in the Chicago area, the probation of
    DCFS will be revealed to the public and let the dirty
    laundry be hung out to dry.
    Neddless to say, the Sunday article reflects what
    many people have communicated on this Reform Blog.
    The gross negligence and total lack of accountability
    by this agency that should protect children, is
    sadly allowed to happen all over the state of IL,
    proving that many people employed in child care in
    day care centers are not even checked out thouroghly
    including criminal backround checks!
    It stands to reason that the Fst. Care system run
    by our state is no doubt been grossly negligent
    for years with the same problems and probably
    worse and EXPLAINS why people on this blog are
    so critical of DCFS failing to protect the girls
    that DCFS even allowed to be adopted, as well as
    supervising this home no doubt without unannounced
    visits, the Gaskills were probably prepared for
    visits and made sure everthing looked "perfect"
    and probably let the children know that they were
    to be on their best behavior and to answer questions
    in a positive way as if they did not they probably
    would have been relegated to being locked on the third
    floor and lose the few privildges they had in that
    so called home. hopefully, the next article will reveal DCFS's probation and how children are not protected in
    homes as they are no doubt hardly investigated; and that
    visits are planned ahead of time and not unannounced on
    an ongoing basis. If this happened correctly in the Gasklil
    home, we would not even be having this discussion today.
    DCFS SHOULD BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE AND I HOPE RECORDS REFLECT
    HOW LITTLE THIS FAMILY WAS SUPERVISED AS DCFS THOUGHT
    THIS FAMILY WALKED ON WATER.This case should be used
    as someone else stated as a template for trainind case-
    workers to learn that no FST.family is ABOVE diligent
    INVESTIGATION AND SUPERVISION.

  228. no "newer newest" to click

  229. RALLY In your experience with cases like this when the
    case goes to trial starting this Friday, April,26th
    how long does a trial of this nature take to conclude
    from start to finish. Doesn't an accused person
    under the law, have the right to an expediant
    trial and not have a trial be purposely delayed
    by either the prosecution or the defendants' side?

  230. How fast the trial may go will depend on how crowded the judge's calendar is, the priority that the prosecutor puts on the case and whether or not that Gaskill defense is asking for things that may delay the case. My guess is that this may drag on for awhile, could be 1 year or more. Some statistics on rape and sex abuse cases can be found at http://www.mincava.umn.edu/documents/sexoff/sexoff.html#id574073

    A few interesting ones: "For nearly 90% of the youngest victims of rape, those younger than 12, the offender was someone known to them. Law enforcement agencies reported that family members victimized 43% of these young victims–about 4 times the proportion found among victims age 30 or older (11%). "

    "About 5 out of 10 rape defendants are released prior to trial, and 8 out of 10 convicted rape defendants had entered a guilty plea to the offense"

    "Data drawn from police-recorded incidents of rape in three States revealed that 44% of rape victims were under the age of 18. The self-reports of convicted rape and sexual assault offenders serving time in State prisons indicate that two-thirds of such offenders had victims under the age of 18, and 58% of those–or nearly 4 in 10 imprisoned violent sex offenders–said their victims were age 12 or younger."

  231. I don't think the trial will start on the 26th. This article says the judge set the date for a "status hearing":
    http://www.oakpark.com/News/Articles/03-16-2012/Gaskill_pleads_not_guilty_in_River_Forest_child_abuse_case

  232. I have read numerous bloggers commenting on Mrs. Gaskill
    being employed in several jobs while having the enormous
    responsibility of having so many children placed in
    her care.( all with SP Needs with serious health problems)
    Her husband was reported to be also employed at Lydia,
    where she was employed as well until the recent arrest
    of Mr. Gaskill. One blogger pointed out, (the person
    was obviously good friends with Mrs. Gaskill), that
    Mrs. Gaskill totally feared the IRS taking a close look
    at their IRS tax information.
    Also, the same blogger pointed out that while Mrs.
    Gaskill worked at Calvery, she had a 17 year old girl
    (non-relative) watching these children in her home.

    Two questions. #1- Why would DCFS allow a 17 yr old
    take care of children that the state placed in MRS.
    GASKILL's CARE especially as the girl was under 18
    and clearly was not the person RESPONSIBLE for the
    WELFARE of these NEEDY CHILDREN?
    It stands to reason , if something serious would
    have happened under the juvenile's care, Mrs. Gaskill
    would have a lot of EXPLAINING to DCFS on how it was
    that she who was LICENSED and DESIGNATED as the
    children's primary CARE-GIVER as a FOSTER MOM who
    was even being paid by the state; that she would
    take a huge risk by NOT BEING PRESENT IN THE HOME,
    and placing children with SERIOUS needs in the hands of
    a 17yr, old child? ( I'm sure DCFS did not know)
    #2- Why was the income (which was sizeable and tax-free) not enough for this greedy couple to live on? Mr. Gaskill
    was no doubt collecting social security and working
    besides Mrs. Gaskill, and the two of them ran a fs/adpt
    business called TAPESTRY out of the home that apparently
    charged a fee to acess, and who knows what other revenue
    they gained from this UNLICENSED SITE as they were working other jobs as well as receiving a larger income
    from the state of IL.The couple garnerd a large income from
    DCFS as they were deemed tragically and MISTAKENLY QUALIFIED FOR
    to live on by being highly paid to be
    RESPONSIBLE and CONSCIENTIOUS FST. PARENTS of NEEDY and
    VULNERABLE CHIDREN.

    The people that have in her defense said she was such
    a great mother, and took care and LOVED ALL CHILDREN in
    her care need a big time REALITY CHECK.
    This couple operated fst. care as a BUSINESS, and the money
    garnered by them was STILL NOT ENOUGH as MRS GASKILL
    worked various jobs when her PRIMARY JOB was to CARE FOR
    THE SPECIAL NEEDS CHILDREN IN HER HOME.( THAT SHE AND HER
    HUSBAND SOUGHT OUT TO CARE FOR BY TAKING THESE CHILDREN
    IN THEIR HOME AS RESPONSIBLE FOSTER PARENTS)
    The LOVE of MONEY has and always has been the DRIVING FORCE
    in becoming FOSTER PARENTS and for those people that go
    on and on and on how MRS GASKILL SIMPLY LOVES CHILDREN;
    wake up and look at her track record. MRS. GASKILL had
    jobs outside the home and put children at risk in the
    hands of a 17yr. old girl. I hope the 17yr. old girl
    gives information on what the life of this family was
    like. However, I have a strong feeling(not saying I'm right)
    but that 17 yr old girl could be SARAH MICHELLE who leaves
    posts on this blog accusing everyone as being JUDGEMENTAL
    and her blogs sound like they could be written by a very
    NAIEVE 17 year old. In any case, I think investigators should
    get the 17yr old girls name and question her. Also,DCFS
    should go on RECORD in COURT that they would not have
    ALLOWED Mrs. GASKILL to place the children in a juveniles'
    care unless of course the Gaskills were privildged FST. PRTS.
    and THE STATE CHOSE TO LOOK THE OTHER WAY which would
    be another CORRUPT practice of children in FST.CARE.

  233. APRIL 24,11:28 AM

    I have thought the same thing about all the time Mrs. Gaskill worked
    outside the home with so many fst. children in her care.
    I do not understand how she pulled that off with DCFS as several
    of these children were not even school age and had significant
    health problems (she let us all know) , and there was a baby they
    with a terminal disease (she lived to be three) on top of it.
    When she worked at Calvery she acted like she did not have a
    care in the world. Also, she seemed happy as hell not to be home with
    the children who she should have been home with.
    Many church members thought how she was able to get the permission
    to work outside the home as the children in her care placed by the state
    in her home were her first priority and that is why she was paid well
    with IL tax dollars every month. The child that was terminal and died
    at three, she led many to believe the child was adopted by her and her
    husband. When the little girl passed away it became apparent that
    she was lying as the obit gave her birth name and bio-parents and
    the Gaskills as FST. PARENTS. While she had that little toddler in her
    care and was out and about she always let you or anyone else around
    know the girl was terminal without any show of emotion on her part.
    When the child needed extra room in her downstairs area, she complained
    about it as if this poor little girl was totally disrupting her "private life"
    with her own bio-family. How cold and heartless she was, yet when the girl
    passed she put on quite an emotional act even expecting people that
    never knew the girl attend the wake. After the girl passed, she was soon
    seen at her favorite dive yucking it up and drinking alot.
    Mr. Gaskill also drank at the same place with her and buddies and
    put away quite a few himself. The investigators probably heard all of this
    already, and all they have to do is talk to the owners and people that
    worked there at night. So much for the "SAINTLY LOVING PROTECTIVE
    FOSTER PARENTS"

  234. The girl is no longer 17, she is in her mid twenties and when she began working for the gaskill's I believe she had to go through some training. Also she was, not sure if she still is, the girlfriend of rob and Mary's oldest son.

  235. APRIL 24 12:50PM
    Even if this girl was in her mid twenties
    the question still remains: Why would DCFS
    even bother to train (how did DCFS find the time)
    her as Mrs. Gaskill was the primary care giver
    of not one (which could be feasible for DCFS
    to allow) but SEVERAL NEEDY CHILDREN that
    she was RESPONSIBLE for and was paid by the
    state as the PRIMARY CARE GIVER: A FOSTER MOM!
    The fact that she may or may not have been the
    son of Mrs. Gaskill's still does not make it
    right as the RESPONSIBILITY of Mrs.Gaskill
    when she signed on to be such a loving , wonderful
    FSt. MOM it is and WAS her RESPONSIBILITY to
    mother these children and care for them as her own.
    If the girl was the girlfriend (probably was)
    Mrs. Gaskill no doubt chose her instead of
    a total outsider as she guarded her private life as a
    FSt.mom as well as the children in her care as a mother bear and her baby cubs. It will be unlikely to get the girlfriend to speak about the questionable and irresponsible behavior of the family dynamics in a court of law.

  236. I believe foster parents that are parenting
    children that are not SP. needs and in school
    all day, a Fst Parent could and many do just
    like in bio-families be able to work outside
    the home as long as the parent either came home
    by the time the child or children did, or made
    sure the child or children were in a SUPERVISED
    after school program until the parent could pick them
    up. However, with NEEDY children and one even
    so ill that she was terminal, why would DCFS
    in their right mind let anyone other than the
    licensed Fst Parent take care and be in charge in any
    way shape or form? This sounds illogical to me.
    If DCFS signed off on it (another example of failing
    children in foster care), it is further PROOF that
    like the Sun. Trib article on how thousands of
    children are FAILED by DCFS in DAY-CARE in the
    state of IL, that DCFS no doubt does a worst job
    in keeping track of what the — is going on in
    fst. homes like this one.
    Oh yes, why did MG have to work outside the home
    anyway? DCFS paid this family very well.
    My guess is she just wanted to get out of facing
    the responsibilities of caring for these NEEDY
    children; and the extra money was a bonus as she
    was known to spend money like water on her many
    shopping splurges.
    MS is NOT ON TRIAL like her husband. How ever she
    no doubt pulled the wool over DCFS on many things
    including when she did come home from work these
    NEEDY children were either in bed or would go to
    bed as early as possible as that is exactly like
    she did to the two young women that have pressed
    charges(when they were younger).MS. is everything
    that is wrong in the FST care system as for her
    husband he is INNOCENT until proven in a court of
    law GUILTY.

  237. APRIL,24 11:28
    You are so right about how cavlier
    both MRS. G and MR. G were when
    they told people ( with the child
    in their arms or a stroller) that
    the poor little girl had a terminal
    disease. I still get choked up talking
    about my mom passing two years ago.
    Most if not everyone would gasp when
    hearing that inf and could not understand
    that with all the other children in the home this couple would even want to have to take on a very serious illness with a child that was terminal that would require exhausting hours ofv quality care.
    Of course the couples' buddies out there are going to say MRS. G. just had such a big heart and so much love to share that she just could not say "no".
    The couple even went totally public and had their picture in a community paper when at some point while the child was alive they sponsered "Laps For Lucy" a run to raise money for the terrible disease that this little girl was suffering from. The turn out was basically their own family and some of their loyal admirers and church people. Again, another example how thisin couple relished being in the spotlight and adored by unsuspecting people in the community. One of their fst or adpt children had written an essay in school and that is how and why they did the event (besides being high profile). The childs' idea was I'm sure sincere as I cant't imagine a child having to see another child so terribly ill and not be affected and that child was sensitive enough to come up with an idea that would help him cope with her illness and loss. However, MRS. G. loved the attention as she always enjoyed being noticed in the community.
    The name of the reataurant that the two of them frequented and drank margueritas was a local place called LOLOS. Many of their friends hung out there with them. I and many people wondered how they found the energy and time as many of us are parents of young children (without sp needs) and are exhausted keeping up with them and their activities that going out without them hardly ever hsappens accept on special occasions. I really thought that they had a lot of care-givers employed around the clock and I found out reading this blog that they did not. I'm totally shocked that they did not have hired help as how else could they be out and about at night?

  238. I never inquired either parent (felt it was not
    my businees) if they had a lot of hired help
    like at lest three shifts as this couple for
    all the responspilities they had, seemed to
    manage having a busy social life ( night life
    in their fav rest) frequently and managed to
    frequent often. It was not until reading this blog
    that I found out that was not the case.
    I still do not know how they did it; and where
    they got the energy with so many children to take care
    of.

  239. I have read this blog on and off for the last two months.
    I just updated myself and I really believe that people
    (I do not know who they are), as I do not even know this
    family. I must admit it has been intersting reading the
    background and history of this couple; people seem to
    be brutally honest and probably could combined together write
    a book on the couple; especially the wife.
    I really think people should start focusing on DCFS and
    the failures that no doubt occured by an agency that can
    not even protect children in day-care ( which in my opinion
    should be easier) and focus on how DCFS also fails the
    many thousands of innocent children that they place in
    the foster care system. This blog and the directors are
    commited to exposing and revealing how children become
    victims because of actions as well as non-actions in
    the protection of children. It is my hope and it should
    be everyones' hope That DCFS in the state of IL be exposed
    and held accountable (no matter what their lame excuses are)
    for their lack of competence in overseeing and supervising
    the children they place and entrust to(fst/adpt parents)
    as these children have NO ONE ELSE LOOKING OUT FOR THEIR
    WELLBEING EXCEPT DCFS. Too many children fall through the
    many holes in this system; and their lives are ruined.
    Many children in fst care suffer abuses of all kinds
    including sexual abuse and because of an entire system that
    is broken and corrupt no doubt,are abandoned to suffer
    most times silently and are not able to help themselves.
    To say DCFS needs to do better is an understatement.
    This case is a criminal case that will be prosecuted in
    court. The father is the alledged criminal here; not the wife,
    even though many have pointed out behavior not in order
    for a foster mom by any stretch of the imagination.
    The biological children are not responsible and should
    be left out of this altogether.(they are no doubt suffering
    their own private hell as this is their father on trial).
    This case will be judged by whatever evidence the state
    has on the defendant AND NOTHING MORE. I am sure that
    there has to be more to this case than one can imagine
    as the accused would not be facing a criminal trial.
    People need to let the court system present evidence
    to the jury and the fate of the accused will be UP TO
    THEM. Mr. Gaskill's GUILT OR INNOCENCE IS NOT GOING TO
    BE DECIDED by what his WIFE DID OR DID NOT DO.
    Mr. Gaskill is the DEFENDANT not his wife, so enough
    already of hanging her out to dry, and let the legal
    system do its' job. Also, DCFS I'm sure will have a lot
    to explain in this case, maybe even in court.
    The focus on this blog needs to shift to a intelligent
    discussion about child welfare and all the pitfalls
    and failures of how thosands of children in every
    state do not always wind up in a home that they truly
    deserve and for ALL THE RIGHT REASONS.

  240. The girl watching the children in the Gaskill household was 17YO at the time she was in charge of the adopted and foster children. She was John's GF. The Restaurant is Lalo's on Oak Park Avenue. I cannot believe that the Gaskills continue to be able to garner support for any of their 'issues'. Unlike many of the 'supporters', I will not name call but am in awe of the ease with which you continue to be duped and manipulated by M.G.

  241. I agree with everything about IL DCFS continually failing children
    in are state. The many children that have suffered in abuses of
    every nature including death in some cases is disgusting and
    deplorable and can no longer continually be swept under the rug
    in IL. DCFS and IL state government on every level needs to start
    putting in to place new laws, guidelines and strict criteria that
    DCFS workers must follow and FOSTER PARENTS need EVALUATIONS
    that DETERMINE: 1. Are they qualified to even be considered and licensed
    ( this should be determined after a stricter standard
    of investigation and case worker study is completed
    that also studies the motivation of a couple desire
    to become FOSTER PARENTS to begin with.)
    2. Once they are approved as Foster PARENTS there
    should be a required group meeting or seminar
    of newly licensed FOSTER PARENTS to attend
    with professionals such as Psychologists, Directors
    that have proven to be experts in the field of the
    many issues that a foster family may encounter
    with integrating a new family member or members
    into their home and with their extended families
    and friends. If the FOSTER PARENTS have bio-children
    in the home, the professionals need to address
    the issues that may surface initially and issues
    that may arise at different times and give examples
    of the best way to handle them.
    It should also be stressed THAT THERE WILL BE UNANNOUNCED
    VISITS as well as talking in private with a foster child that
    is old enough , and even bio-children in the home, especially
    if they are the same age or close in age to a fst.child.
    The FOSTER PARENTS also need to know THAT the PRIVACY
    of a foster child's life SHOULD NEVER BE SHARED OR SPOKEN
    ABOUT INCLUDING BIO-CHILDREN THAT ARE IN THE HOME.
    BREECH OF A CHILD"S PRIVACY SHOWS LACK OF RESPECT
    FOR THE CHILD AND CAN DESTROY A CHILD'S SELF-ESTEEM
    ( I f ever brought up to them by other children in school
    situations as other children may hear adults (parents)
    that were told and have information learned from
    the foster parent themselves)
    Perhaps if the Gaskill family were held to higher standards
    (no matter the snow job they are capable of doing so well)
    THE children could have (should have) been removed from
    the home and their FST, Care LICENSE REVOKED.

  242. Yes we must remember to stick to the facts. 1.) Robert Gaskill is being charged with a crime not Mary. Any information regarding Robert I'm sure will be greatly appreciated. 2.) Robert has admitted guilt. It does not matter how he did it. He did it. He was not beaten or denied basic human needs as he was not at the police dept. long enough for that too happen. 3.)DCFS should not be allowed to place any children in the care of any Gaskill family member. 4.)We all need to remember the judges name at election time. She has showed favoritism in this case before knowing the facts. 5.)We do not have to fear Mary's wrath right now. She has been told by her lawyer to be on her best behavior. She cannot afford to use her old tricks against people. Now is the time to let your name be known. This is important for the sake of the girls. 6.) Let us not judge the real family as we don't know anything about them except for what Mary has said and we now know that it may not be the truth. 7.) Actions speak louder then words. Do what you say you are going to do. I for one will be there on Thursday to support the girls and they will know who I am.
    Mrs. F. N.

  243. I also am going to be there tomorrow in support of the girls. I believe he admitted guilt and I believe this whole case is so very terrible for everyone…but now it needs to be about the girls, they need support.

  244. May God Bless F.N. and anyone else that attends the hearing to support Amber and Missy.

  245. I agree with everyrhing the above blogger Mrs. F.N., Mr. Gaskill (presumed innocent), however, everything including a confession which now is being denied; and blamed on a
    corrupt police department in RF that according to
    the Gaskill family and supporters lied to the state
    attorney office to set him up to be charged with two
    serious class x felonies against two minors because they
    also made up all the evidence they also gathered in the
    month prior to his arrest. RF police can stand proudly on
    their own merits. Rf police dept. and investigators are
    professional and have never had any criminal through
    corrupt practices make a false confession; as well as
    making up facts revealed through a investigation to
    falsely arrest someone because we are a small town and
    we need a little excitement as we do not have any other
    crimes (serious in nature) ever happen in our small town.

    I am glad some or alot of people who she will recognize
    attend court on behalf of the girls and show the judge
    that people in the community know and believe the girls
    are not lying and stand behind them as many know the
    entire sad life these girls led in a home that they
    should have been taken out of a long, long, time ago.
    I have chosen to be pro-active by giving info with my
    identity revealed to the state attorney office, the judge,
    and the current director of DCFS. I am a nurse and work
    the night shift, so my contribution will be continually
    helping the girls in other ways as I have already have.
    There are alot of people who are supporting the girls
    that the family will not recognize and have said they
    are going to court to support the girls. If you are one
    of those people reading the blog and can attend court
    please do, as alot of us hope the girls are represented
    and supported as they really are on their own as they have
    been their whole life and deserve to know that people
    do care and value their life and want justice served on their
    behalf. The statement about not judging the real family
    is true but please for people who do not view "ADOPTIVE
    FAMILIES AS REAL FAMILIES" try to undrestand that the
    Gaskills legally adopted these girls (NOT FOR LOVE BUT
    FOR CONTINUED CHECKS IN THE MAIL FROM THE STATE EVEN
    AFTER ADOPTION) really were their real family only
    they are not what "REAL ADOPTIVE FAMILIES ARE TRULY LIKE"
    My family is an adoptive family(and we went through a
    long but necessary process) and brought our dear children
    home as infants; and I can tell you we are a REAL FAMILY.
    My children are the sun the moon and the stars to us
    as well as every member of both sides of our extended
    families. DCFS should have made sure these girls from
    the start be placed into one of the thousands of childless
    couples who even apply to be fst. parents in the hopes
    that perhaps a placement will eventually lead to an
    adoption and give them the "FOREVER FAMILY" they have
    dreamed about. ADOPTIVE FAMILIES ARE REAL AND NO
    DIFFERENT THAN A BIOLOGICAL FAMILY. ONE IS NOT BETTER
    THAN THE OTHER-JUST TWO DIFFERENT PROCESSES.
    THE TWO GIRLS SHOULD OF HAD THE RIGHT TO BE IN A LOVING
    REAL FAMILY THROUGH ADOPTION AND BE THE SUN, MOON,
    AND STARS, GROWING UP HAPPY AND ENJOYING LIFE WITH
    THEIR REAL FOREVER FAMILY. EVERTHING THEY HAVE ENDURED
    WAS A TOTAL NIGHTMARE PERPETUATED BY DCFS. THE GASKILLS
    HAVE NO CAPACITY TO LOVE ANY CHILD BUT THEIR OWN BIO-
    CHILDREN. HOWEVER, SINCE MONEY (THE TRUE OBJECT OF THEIR
    AFFECTION), WAS THEIR TRUE AND OBVIOUS MOTIVATION;
    THEY MERELY BORDERED THESE GIRLS. IT WAS APPARENT TO
    THE GIRLS AND EVERYONE ELSE ACCEPT DCFS. THE GIRLS
    DESERVE TO HAVE JUSTICE PREVAIL AS JUSTICE WAS NEVER
    A PART OF THEIR YOUNG LIVES THE MOMENT THEY WERE PLACED
    INTO THAT GREEDY MONEY DRIVEN HOME.

  246. Todday's status hearing on Robert Gaskill
    events: Prosecution laid out charges of alledged
    abuse of two minors after drinking episodes
    ( specific abuses of the girl,s were given)

    Defense attorney asked and was suceesful
    on JUDGE LOVE granting two requests.
    1. Gaskill will have a longer electonic leash
    as it can go off when he greets visitors or
    does laundry in the laundry area.

    2. Gaskill will be allowed to attend his
    youngest bio-daughter's upcoming graduation
    from college. (side note: This is the bio-
    daughter the same age as Missy, who the
    though adopted was not afforded the priviledge of attending a college and even live on a college campus )
    3. Gaskills had their usual supporters but THIS TIME COURTROOM HAD A LARGE NUMBER OF SUPPORTERS THERE ON BEHALF OF SUPPORTING THE GIRLS.

    4. Next court date will be in June.

    Once again Judge Love gives Gaskill a break to attend
    the upcoming Graduation of the youngest bio-daughter
    (same age as MISSY). Also, this daughter was the daughter
    that always was able to participate in many activties,
    parties, social family outings while Missy was relegated
    to stay home with her sister even when older.

    I think because Missy was denied so many of the things
    listed above, Gaskill should have had the tables'
    turned and see what it is like to miss a event you
    want to be a part of. I for one will be writing and
    pointing out all the times Missy and Amber were not
    allowed to be at many activities before and AFTER THEIR
    SO CALLED BOGUS ADOPTION. Who signed an order for them
    in those instances? Who signed the PERMISSION slip for
    Missy to be able to be on a TRAVELING SPORTS TEAM that
    she was NOT ALLOWED because the bio-girl the same age
    did not MAKE THE TEAM. Mary would NEVER LET MISSY EVER
    DO OR BE INVOLVED IN ANYTHING THAT HER PRECIOUS BIO-
    DAUGHTER could not be in or GOD FORBID MISSY OUTSHINED
    THIS BIO-DAUGHTER. ALSO, MISSY WAS EVEN BRIGHTER THAN THE BIO-
    DAUGHTER IN SCHOOL (MARY HELD MISSY BACK A YEAR-NICE TRY).
    THESE GIRLS MAY HAVE BEEN ADOPTED BUT THE GASKILLS NEVER
    IN A MILLION YEARS WOULD PAY FOR HIGHER EDUCATION.
    THE GIRLS PAID WITH THEIR LIVES (money received from
    the state before and AFTER ADOPTION to these so called
    loving parents) FOR EVERTHING THE BIO-CHILDREN RECEIVED
    INCLUDING HIGHER EDUCATION. SADLY, THEY LITERALLY PAID
    WITH THEIR LIVES BY BEING EXPLOITED, MISTREATED, ABUSED
    ( as well as a sexual abuse (ALLEDGELY TO SATISFY THE
    GOD SQUAD) their ENTIRE LIFE and WERE DENIED A NORMAL
    HAPPY CHILDHOOD IN THE PHONY LOVING HOUSE OF HORRORS..
    THE GASKILLS.

  247. Just Curious… If all you bloggers seem to have been witness to these actions and seem to have inside knowledge… Doesnt that make you acomplices? Why did you hide the facts and evidence you seem to have? The girls both have serious mental defects from their birth family who abused and abandoned them. The Gaskill family put them on a great path and gave them a great life they never would have had from their birth family… Both girls were tossed out of college for inapropriate behavior and then they decided to go back to their bad blood family and suddenly these allegations came out! Hmmmmmmm… I heard the DCFS as well as many counselors and tudors were at the house at least 5 times a month every year… yet upon interviews and counseling the dcfs and childrens group counselors said the girls were in excellent physical condition… and their severe mental problems from birth were under control. It makes you wonder, but like all these other posts…ANONYMOUS, Lol… It really doesnt matter what any of us say does it… AS Far as wondering why reporters may not call you back…LOL… I couldn't find A. Noymous listed in the phone book!

  248. Judge in Gaskill case needs letters explaining
    how the two girls were denied their whole
    life many activities that the so called
    Adoptive Family EXCLUDED and DENIED the
    two girls to attend from the time they were
    little (did not know any better) to teen
    years and up in MISSY'S CASE.
    Apparently, this judge did not see that by
    allowing someone with 2 counts of a class x
    felony comitted on two minors for HALF their
    life ( INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY),
    and that the state has strong EVIDENCE as he
    still is in custody (prosecution wanted him to
    stay in jail)that the priviledge of going to
    church and the doctor is about as much leway
    he should get. REASONS BEING: 1. the charges he
    has been arrested and indited by a grand jury.
    2. He should get
    a taste of his own medicine, as not only is
    he an alledged sexual predator of two minors; who he
    and his wife CHOSE TO ADOPT ONLY when there was a threat of the
    the girls be taken back by the first agency to seek
    adoption placement of the girls.(ages 6 or 7 for MIssy,
    4 or 5 for Amber).Somehow they were able to switch agencies
    to a catholic agency in Niles and eventually adopted the
    two girls ( so money would continue to flow). So, really
    at some point in both the girls lives he was alledgely
    abusing two legally adopted daughters (he could care less for).
    The medicine that this judge (if she knew the life these girls
    were forced tom live) should have served up to show Mr.
    Gaskill what it is like when you are DENIED TO ATTEND
    something you would ver much like to PARTICIPATE IN.
    This judge needs letters signed by people just like the
    previous letters describing what many know and witnessed
    the girls being denied being a real part of the family
    even though this greedy couple adopted them. Adoptive
    families everywhere are so digusted and sickened that
    adoption was even allowed to a couple that should never
    had the priviledge of doing as these children NEVER
    would be LOVED and GIVEN THEIR HEART AND SOUL as
    adoptive parents like any other parent (THERE IS NO
    DISTINCTION FOR THOSE THAT THINK ADOPTIVE FAMILIES
    ARE NOT REAL DUE TO THE PROCESS FAMILIES GO THROUGH
    TO BECOME PARENTS (AND THE CHILDREN ARE NOT A RESULT
    OF THE BIRTH PROCESS).
    THIS CASE IS EVERTHING THAT
    IS WRONG WITH DCFS and a
    EXAMPLE OF A COUPLE THAT
    WERE REALLY CONTENT WITH
    BEING BIOLOGICAL PARENTS
    UNTIL THEIR THRIST FOR
    MONEY WAS QUENCHED BY
    MAKING FST/ADP CARE AN
    INCOME THEY COULD NOT
    LIVE WITHOUT!

  249. RE: APRIL 26, 2012 3:21PM

    You are SO wrong in what you have written. Your statements are FALSE. You have been spoon-fed your comments likely by MG
    (or one of her minions) who, I thought, was told by her lawyer to be on HER BEST BEHAVIOR.

    I CHALLENGE YOU-STAND UP AND GIVE OUT YOUR NAME AND I WILL GIVE MINE——–

  250. April26 3:21PM
    FYI bloggers who witnessed and heard the many examples of unfair and unjust treatment of the girls, have all admitted
    ( thinking of it again after these serious allegations)
    That they should have reported what bothered them; but
    many gave DCFS too much credit at that time, aand thought
    they surely would pick up the quirks and odd behavior
    just dealing with the couple; and that the girls would
    give information themselves. (I do not believe they were
    ever spoken to without Mary there) and if Mary was there
    they could not speak as hell knows no fury like when
    Mary Gaskill is exposed for the witch that she is and
    always will be.The girls were not physically abused
    as babies. Unfortunately, the abuse happened in the womb
    as the mother was an alcholic. The father was a drug abuser
    who Mary let everone know including Missy that he died
    of a drug overdose. The mother sought temporary help
    with the agency in Oak Park, Hebzabeh SP?.
    Mary was supposed to have them short term, but the mother
    continued having difficulties and allowed the girls to
    be in a foster home with the hope of reuniting with them
    when she was able. Unfortunately, that did not happen and
    the girls were allowed by their mother to be adopted
    as her life obviously continued on a downward spiral.
    Too bad they were not adopted into a truly loving home.
    If you call beinrg verbally, mentally, emotionally abused
    and sexually ( he did confess); being given a great life
    and a great path, I would hate to see what a BAD PATH
    would be under their care. If the girls went to a college
    it could not have been a college with substantial tuition
    as the girl that is graduating from college went on face-book
    her first or second year begging for donations toward her
    tuition as she said her parents were in financial difficulty.
    I personally do not go on face-book, but my daughter an
    ex-friend does, hence the information. It is likely
    they went to a local junior college and perhaps their
    inappropriate behavior was their way of acting out from
    the horrible childhood they endured and being older
    finally realized they needed to confront their abuser
    as their abuse was the source of their real problems
    they could no longer deal with and act like nothing
    of that nature happened to them.
    If DCFS went to the home 5 times a month in recent years and
    rendered them physically and mentally stable (as you say
    they were not), then DCFS continued the mistakes and failure
    that DCFS made their whole life. You just provedthat DCFS
    according to you is a joke by finding what the Gaskills
    spin on the girls (MENTALLY DARANGED) not to be true and
    did nothing to help them. MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM…perhaps
    that explains how and why DCFS never saw the phonies
    the Gaskills were and allowed them to be licensed
    and how they thought the girls were fine growing up.
    Only back then the Gaskills did not find fault with them
    as DCFS fell hook line and sinker for the ruse they were
    so good at that clearly benefited them and not the girls.
    GEE funny how now they can't understand how DCFS said the
    girls were ok and offered no help with their problems.
    As for running away, that is the BEST THING THEY EVER DID
    FOR THEMSELVES. The allegations came out because FINALLY
    THE GIRLS WERE FREE OF THE GASKILLS AND NO LONGER FRIGHTENED
    BY THEM. IT ONLY PROVES THESE GIRLS ARE BRIGHT AND BRAVE
    AND NOT MENTALLY INCOMPETENT AS THE EVIDENCE THEY PROVIDED
    RESULTED IN THEIR ABUSER TO BE ARRESTED AND INDITED ON
    SERIOUS CHARGES. JUST BECAUSE HE IS OUT ON HOUSE ARREST
    DOES NOT LESSON HIS CHARGES. HE WOULD NOT BE ELECTRONICALLY
    IMPRISONED IF HIS CHARGES WERE NOT VIEWED SERIOUS ENOUGH
    THAT HE NEEDS TO STAND TRIAL FOR.

    (

  251. Apr 26 3:21 PM

    News reporters have responded………LOL
    Tribune last Sunday exposed DCFS failing children in
    Day-Care throughout the state of IL and how
    little and in many cases do not monitor
    and investigate gave numerous reasons
    why DCFS needs MAJOR REFORM BECAUSE IT TOTALLY
    IS AND HAS BEEN BROKEN FOR YEARS.

    I sincerely doubt if DCFS is not going to be EXPOSED
    FOR THE ABSOLUTELY DEPLORABLE care of
    children that DCFS places in homes and FAILS
    THESE CHILDREN MISERABLY.

    People on this blog have and do reveal their identity to
    sources they contact and will continue to do so.
    DCFS is the one that does not return calls……what a surprise!

    LOL other media sources have and do respond…….
    It is just a matter of time for DCFS FOSTER CARE PROBLEMS
    ARE EXPOSED and this case has alot of EXAMPLES HOW
    CHILDREN SUFFER AND THAT DCFS IS CLUELESS AND
    BECAUSE OF THERE MANY FAILURES CASES LIKE THIS
    HAPPEN TOO OFTEN AND TOO MANY HOMES.

    BE patient…….and stay tuned.

  252. April 26 3:41 PM
    YOU REFERRED TO THE GIRLS AS GOING BACK
    TO THEIR BAD BLOOD FAMILY. WHAT A HYPOCRITE.
    YOU AND YOUR BUDDIES ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO SAY
    THAT PEOPLE WHO ARE POSTING EXPERIENCES
    WITH THIS GOOD BLOOD FAMILY ARE SO "JUDGEMENTAL"
    AND SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES.
    YOU JUST PROVED HOW JUDGEMENTAL YOU ARE
    AND YOU NO DOUBT HAD THAT STORY SPUN TO YOU
    BY THE SPIN WEAVERS THEMSELVES.
    THE GIRLS ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS WORLD OR EVEN
    THIS NORMAN ROCKWELL TOWN OF RIVER FOREST
    FOR THROUGH NO FAULT OF THEIR OWN WERE BORN
    TO A MOM THAT UNFORTUNATELY DRANK DURING
    HER PREGNANCIES.
    THERE ARE CHILDREN IN ARE OWN COMMUNITY THAT
    HAVE SUFFERED THE SAME FATE BEFORE THEY WERE
    BORN (NOT THEIR FAULT EITHER).
    I SUPPOSE THEY COME FROM BAD BLOOD FAMILIES
    TOO…OH WAIT A MINUTE THEY LIVE IN SUCH
    A IDYLIC NEIGHBORHOOD THEY DO NOT COME FROM
    BAD BLOOD FAMILIES.
    TALK ABOUT BAD BLOOD FAMILIES, MARY GASKILL
    HAS A FAMILY SHE CAME FROM. SHE HAS ON MANY
    MANY OCCASIONS AND CIRCUMSTANCES BY HER
    WORDS (HATE MAIL ONE OF HER FAVORITES)
    AND ACTIONS (SPREADING FALSE LIES AROUND FOR
    PEOPLE THAT CROSSED HER THE WRONG WAY, OR PLAIN
    DIDN'T LIKE) MADE LIFE MISERABLE FOR NEIGHBORS
    ON HER BLOCK, CALLS THE POLICE FOR THE MOST
    TRIVIAL MATTERS WASTING THEIR TIME TO EVEN TAKE A REPORT OR LISTEN, RUIN AN INNOCENT PRIESTS' LIFE BY
    FALSE ACCUSATIONS OF A SEXUAL NATURE, LOST A JOB AT HER FORMER CHURCH FOR QUESTIONABLE AND DUBIOUS BEHAVIOR, DRINKS LIKE A FISH AT HER FAVORITE WATERING HOLE, AND
    THE LIST CAN GO ON AND ON WHEN YOU THROW IN EVERYTHING
    SHE DID OR DID NOT DO RIGHT BY THE GIRLS,AS WELL AS
    HER LEWD BEHAVIOR WHEN SHE IS SMASHED AT HER AND HER
    HUSBANDS FAVORITE MARGARITAVILLE….ON AND ON.
    SHOULD WE ALL GO AROUND AND SAY SHE CAME FROM A BAD BLOOD FAMILY TOO? I WIIL LET YOU DECIDE.
    IF YOU REALLY WANT TO MAKE IT A CONTEST OF WHICH
    FAMILY OF THE GIRLS HAVE BAD BLOOD, I VOTE FOR THE
    GASKILLS. THEY ARE NOTHING THAT THEY HAVE WANTED
    EVERYONE TO BELIEVE ABOUT THEM. IN SHORT, THEY ARE
    NO WHERE NEAR BEING THE ALL AMERICAN FAMILY THAT
    NORMAN ROCKWELL PORTRAYED OF AMERICANS ON THE FAMOUS
    COVERS OF THE SATURDAY EVENING POST. SORRY THEY ARE
    NOT OZZIE AND HARRIOT..

  253. I was in court today and so were misty and amber. i commend them on their strength to show up and stand up for themselves.

  254. Whew…and it all happened right in the 'hood. It does take a village and we all need to be aware and speak up to one another if we witness inappropriate behavior toward our children. We just do.

  255. Thank you all who support Amber and Misty.

  256. I know for a fact neither girls were thrown out of school. Missy was, as far as I understood, doing great in a community college until she disappeared. I never knew why she so abruptly left. I also understand that Amber left school and was not allowed to return to the Gaskill's home. All these allegation of the girls having severe mental defects surprised me for I knew both these girls growing up and neither seemed to be struggling in school. In fact Missy was in a few honors classes with some of my children in high school. Hearing that they were both in court yesterday makes me feel great, they are showing the aren't afraid of their so called family anymore.

  257. To April 26 3:26 Your statements are EXACTLY was what MG has
    told everyone for years. I really tend
    to BELIEVE IT IS YOU MG that posted the blog.
    I and many others have heard YOUR BAD BLOOD
    THEORY for YEARS.
    NO one in there right mind is buying your BAD BLOOD
    THEORY EITHER; (many wonderful people in my
    life
    were born to ALCHOLIC parents) and some of them even have struggled with alchol addiction themselves. I guess they have BAD BLOOD and should be shunned and revieled by others as those of us that did not have that life experience are sooooo much SUPERIOR because we have "GOOD BLOOD" running through are veins. If we want to EQUATE ALCHOL ABUSE WITH BAD BLOOD than count YOU and YOUR HUSBAND IN THE SAME CATEGORY. It is common knowledge that you and your husband have been seen many times consuming and putting away alholic drinks in a restaurant the two of you have frequented for years and even were seen SMASHED many times, as well as very unlady like behavior on your part, once even coming out of the lady's room with ballons filled with water and putting on a little show that insinuated the ballons were a male body part (if you get my drift). You thought it weas hysterical; others thought you in your inebriated state, were perveted and SICK and DEFINETILY NOT FUNNY. Want to still talk about BAD BLOOD? The TRUTH is MG is that as soon as the girls were finally young adults they were FREE from YOU (and your BAD BLOOD) to get out of DODGE and THINK FOR THEMSELVES! WOW for two UNSTABLE GIRLS they were ABLE and SUCCESSFUL IN SEEKING PUNISHMENT (with more than enough EVIDENCE) to have the man that abused them; YOUR HUSBAND (you know..THE ONE WITH THE GOOD BLOOD JUST LIKE YOU) to have a warrant signed by the state attorney for arrest and now stand trial for (I'm sorry) for two class X felonies of two minors for more than half of their your young lives. The girls'
    choice to leave your EVIL home was the BEST THING THAT
    EVER HAPPENED and THANK GOd they are OFF OF THE GREAT
    PATH you and your sick husband created for them as it
    was a path paved with pavers that each represented,
    and can be counted, as the many times these girls were
    treated unfairly, disrespected, not valued, not loved,
    abused verbaly, mentally, emotionally, and while
    suffering all of it, they were suffering silently a pain
    that they could not reveal until coming of age…
    you know the reason your husband was in jail and is
    still imprisoned no matter how you cut it as the court
    only electonically monitors criminals standing trial
    for very serious offenses; and that is not FREEDOM
    no matter how you cut it. One more thing; if I needed
    a blood transfusion and your family and the girls family
    were a match..I DEFINITELY would want the girls family
    blood as having alcholism and even drug abuse from
    bad choices and becoming addicted as many families
    unfortunately go through sometimes at one point in their
    lives; does not hold a candle to the bad BLOOD LINE
    in YOUR FAMILY. One more thing, if the girls came from
    such a bad bloodline, why were you so bent on adopting
    their little sister (who you told everyone that she did not have FAS at birth as the mom learned from her mistake
    with the other two girls)? AFTER ALL, SHE HAS THE SAME
    BLOOD RUNNING THROUGH HER VEINS. THANK GOD SHE IS OUT
    OF YOUR GOLDEN PAVED PATH YOU PROVIDED HER SISTERS WITH.

  258. I attended court and the girls were so STRONG and I
    think the supporters that showed up fir them BOLSTERD
    THEIR SELF-CONFIDENCE and I think went a long way
    to show them that people are there for them and will
    CONTINUE to be therefor them for the DURATION of
    the trial and even after. THe girls glanced and saw
    me and though they and I locked eyes for a moment;
    I was so glad I attended court as I could tell the
    support they were able to have (FOR THE FIRST TIME IN
    THEIR ENTIRE LIFE), really meant the world to them
    and in the long run will only continue to give them
    more courage as they pursue the JUSTICE for themselves;
    and now realize they are not ALL ALONE and PEOPLE
    BELIEVE THEM and WANT JUSTICE SERVED ON THEIR BEHALF
    as they are and have told the TRUTH no matter what the GASKILlS GO AROUND SAYING AND LYING ABOUT THEM.
    THE TRUTH of the girls will drown out all the LIES as it stands to reason that law enforcement did their job with an investigation that revealed evidence and TRUTH in the case that their ABUSER is standing trial for.
    The biting fetish story was admitted to the police by the offender, even though he and his wife and new attorney are denying it and making it sound like the police twisted his words around to solicitate such a sick statement.Also, the Gaskills can say all day long they fired their first attorney; but her asking to be recused of representing him points to her knowing (he professed guilt) that she could not represent him any longer with the knowledge that there was a confession and no doubt asked him point blank when she took on the case and at some point in the very begining she heard it from the accused herself. This attorney, no doubt has heard this from the horses mouth because if she would no longer be able to defend him as well. Kelly Sago is a good criminal attorney with a good reputation and she did what she had to do as she was after all on the scene to begin with and was able to get facts from the police and the defendent himself.

  259. DEAR TRUE BLOOD,
    I tend to believe and FEEL IN MY HEART
    that you are either the girls or
    the whole family together thanking
    all your SUPPORTERS that ARE IN
    your CORNER AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE.
    THOSE of us that KNOW you two girls
    (some from the time you were little),
    others in your teen years in high-school
    and after graduation know you two have
    been so continually thrown under the
    bus by these deplorable people; yet
    they have not SUCCEEDED IN BREAKING
    EITHER ONE OF YOU.
    REMEMBER YOU ARE THE STRONG ONES,

    THEY ARE WEAK AND BOTH COWARDS
    as when confronted with their total
    DISREGARD, RESPECT, and their many
    UNFORGIVEABLE ways that they treated
    and ABUSED THE TWO OF YOU YOUR WHOLE
    LIVES; AS YOU KNOW BETTER THAN ANY
    OF US, there ONLY DEFENSE IS TO MAKE
    UP THE MOST VICIOUS LIES AND make
    sure they round up PEOPLE that (MANY
    NEVER KNEW YOU GROWING UP) that are
    so sure everything the Gaskills say
    about the two of you MUST BE TRUE
    because as you already know (WE WIIL
    NEVER REFER TO THEM AS PARENTS TO YOU
    AS WE KNOW THEY NEVER WERE) they are
    VERY CAPABLE OF FINDING WEAK MINDED
    ADULTS THAT FALL FOR THEIR LIES
    INITIALLY and BELIEVE every word and
    lie that their DELUSIONAL MINDS
    make up to DEFEND themselves when
    ever real facts come out that cast
    dispertions on their real character.
    Most of these people believe as you
    know that this family walks on water
    as they have always used religion
    as a shield to hide behind, rather
    than actually live in reality as
    people that are religious quietly do,
    drawing no attention to themselves
    as a true relationship with the Lord
    is personal and only requires keeping
    your faith in GOD sacred in your life.

    Keep your faith sacred and know that
    GOD MADE YOU AND LOVES YOU AND WILL
    BE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ALWAYS.
    GOD IS ALREADY SHOWING YOU HE KNOWS
    YOUR SUFFERING AND IS WORKING AS HE
    OFTEN DOES USING OTHER PEOPLE AS
    GUARDIAN ANGELS TO WALK BESIDE AND
    SUPPORT AND PROTECT YOU FROM EVIL.
    YOU GIRLS ARE MORE THAN WELCOME
    (I am taking the liberty of speaking
    for all of us who support you)
    AND WE ALL APPLAUD YOUR DETERMINATION
    AND EXTREME COURAGE TO MAKE SURE
    THAT JUSTICE IS SERVED. WE WILL
    CONTINUE TO SUPPORT YOU IN EVERY
    WAY WE CAN BESIDES GOING TO COURT
    AND STAND WITH YOU.
    GOD BLESS YOU BOTH
    AS WELL AS YOUR
    WHOLE FAMILY…

  260. THE GIRLS WERE SO SMART TO GET OUT OF THAT HOUSE.
    IT WAS THE ONLY WAY THEY COULD MUSTER UP THE
    TREMENDOUS COURAGE IT TOOK TO CONFRONT AND
    EXPOSE THE ABUSE THEY HAD TO SUFFER FOR MORE THAN
    HALF THEIR LIVES. IT IS VERY COMMON THAT ONCE
    AWAY AND NO LONGER AFRAID AND MANIPULATED BY
    THEIR ABUSER CHILDREN THAT FINALLY COME OF AGE
    AND REALIZE THEY ARE FINALLY FREE THEY ARE ABLE
    TO REVEAL THE HORRIBLE SECRET THAT THEY WERE
    FORCED TO CARRY AROUND BECAUSE OF FEAR OF CONSEQUENCES,
    MANIPULATION AND MIND GAMES BY THE ABUSER THAT
    IN THEIR CLUTCHES RENDERS THEM PARAYLIZED WITH FEAR
    ALONG WITH THE SERIOUS BURDEN OF MENTALLY AND
    EMOTIONALLY BURDENS THAT ARE LIKE CARRYING AN
    ELEHPHANT ON THEIR BACK WITH NO END IN SIGHT.
    THANKFULLY, DESPITE THE SPIN THE GIRLS ARE STUPID AND
    TOTALLY OUT OF THEIR MINDS, AND VICIOUS LIARES SPREAD
    AROUND TO EVERYONE MG COMES IN CONTACT WITH, THE
    GIRLS ARE BRIGHT, STRONG AND DETERMINED TO RECLAIM
    THE LIVES AND CHILDHOOD THAT WERE TRAGICALLY STOLEN
    BY A MERE COWARD WHO NEEDED TO HAVE CONTROL SOMEWHERE
    IN HIS PATHETIC LIFE AS WELL AS SICK FANTACIES FULLFILLED.
    MG CAN SPIN AND THROW OUT THESE STORIES AS MUCH AS
    SHE WANTS. NOBODY IN THEIR RIGHT MIND IS BUYING IT
    EXCEPT FOR ALL THE OTHER RELIGIOUS FANATICS THEY
    NOW HAVE WORSHIPPING THEM AND HOLD ON TO EVERY
    LIE THAT COMES OUT OF MG'S MOUTH AND DELUSIONAL
    THINKING. SOONER OR LATER OR MAYBE NOT (DEPENDS
    HOW GULLIBLE THEY ARE) THEY TOO WILL SEE MG FOR
    THE CONTROL FREAK AND PHONY SHE IS; AND HER HUSBAND
    FOR THE COWARD HE IS AND IS ON TRIAL FOR.
    HOW LONG DID MR. AND MRS. G REALLY THINK IT WOULD
    TAKE FOR THESE BRIGHT GIRLS TO FINALLY SETTLE THE
    SCORE?

    THE LIVES THAT WERE STOLEN FROM THEM RENDERING THEM

  261. MG IS TOTALLY INCAPABLE OF GOOD BEHAVIOR.
    THE FACT THAT LYING SO PROFUSELY ABOUT
    THE GIRLS CHARACTER, MENTAL STATE, INTELLIGENCE
    AND EVEN LYING THAT THEY WERE KICKED OUT OF
    THE JR. COLLEGE(sidenote: NOT SURPRISED MISSY
    AND AMBER BOTH WENT TO A JR. COLLEGE, BUT
    BIO KIDS DID NOT AND EVEN LIVED ON CAMPUSES),
    FOR INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR (which the girls never
    engaged in any way shape or form in grade and high
    school). How guillable besides your BFF religious
    nut jobs, do you REALLY THINK PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITY
    THAT HAVE KNOWN YOU FOR YEARS ARE?
    People that know you, know that you are so good at
    lies that you actually really believe them. Maybe that
    accounts for people initially believing your lies,
    YOU ARE SO GOOD AT IT! Also, for those that did not have a
    child in Missy's grade and high school years, MISSY
    was VERY BRIGHT. My own child had two honor classes
    with her but MG would NEVER willing volunteer how well
    MISSY was doing as her bio kid (same age, but MG held
    MISSY BACK A YEAR BECAUSE SHE WAS SPECIAL NEEDS DUE
    TO FAS WHICH MG USED AS AN EXCUSE TO KEEP THE GIRLS
    FROM BEING IN THE SAME GRADE IN SCHOOL), was not
    in any honor classes and that is fine; but MG could
    not give MISSY the credit she DESERVED as that would
    make the bio kid feel bad that she was not in honor
    classes. (Personally, I do not think it would bother
    the bio kid as she seemed very content and self confident)
    So clearly this was just a problem for MG as her need
    to hold the bio kids accomplishments far and away
    came first and whatever MISSY and AMBER accomplished
    was not recognized or applauded.
    Despite MG not recognizing MISSY's INTELLIGENCE
    many of us parents were aware of it; and it is
    NOW CLEARLY VISIBLE AND CAN NOT BE DENIED ANY
    LONGER BY MG AS MISSY AND AMBER TOO, ARE SHOWING
    JUST HOW INTELLIGENT THEY ARE AS WELL AS DESPITE
    MG's EFFORTS ARE SELF ASSURED AND CONFIDENT
    ENOUGH TO BRAVELY COME FORWORD AND WERE VERY
    POISED YOUNG LADIES IN COURT YESTERDAY.
    GIRLS IF YOU ARE READING THE BLOG, WE WHO
    SUPPORT YOU AND BELIEVE IN THE TWO OF YOU,
    YOU BOTH CAN DO ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND
    ON AND YOU HAVE ALREADY PROVED THAT TO MANY
    OF THE ADULTS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT ARE PROUD
    OF BOTH OF YOU COMING FORWORD WHILE KNOWING
    MG WOULD PUT YOU BOTH IN THE GUTTER.
    GUESS WHAT GIRLS? MG'S REPUTATION PRESEEDS HER
    AND NO ONE BUT THEIR GROUPIES ARE BUYING IT.
    SO, THAT THREAT IS OFF YOUR SHOULDERS AS TOO
    MANY OF US IN THE COMMUNITY KNOW HOW SHE WORKS
    THE CROWD ON HER BEHALF WHEN SHE NEEDS OR WANTS TO
    SO THE TWO OF YOU ARE NOT ANYWHERE CLOSE TO A GUTTER
    SHE AND HER HUSBAND AND GROPIES ARE.

    GIRLS IF YOU ARE READING THIS.. YOU BOTH

  262. Dear Rally and Crabbina,
    I personaly would like to thank the two of you
    for your advocay for children in state care
    fst. parenting and adoption atrocities, and
    reporting and educating many people like myself
    that knew DCFS was not so great, but had no real idea
    how DCFS in the state of IL is so broken and corrupt.
    I have had my eyes totally opened wide as the Gaskill
    case is in my community and I like many others have
    become involved in supporting the two girls at the
    heart of this case. Many of our hearts are broken as
    a lot of us knew the girls at some point in their
    lives and some for there entire life. It pains us
    to think about what burden these girls have been carrying
    around all by themselves for years. We are grateful
    they have put their burden down into the hands of
    the court where it should have ended up a long time ago.
    However, I have read this forum and not just the blog;
    and I now have knoweledge that I did not have before.
    Many sexually abused children have and do come forword
    as young adults or even older. It makes sense as when
    they are living in a home with the abuser, they have
    so many fears instilled in them including Why would
    anyone believe them over an adult they believe is
    superior not only to themselves but others.
    Also, like these girls, in many of these type of
    cases fear and manipulation are major in a young
    child's life as well as all the way to young adulthood
    especially if they are living with their abuser.
    I intend to become active in our state in any way
    I can to expose DCFS and their failure to protect
    innocent children that never have a say, or are
    responsible for the circumstances in their life
    that from the very start are totally at risk
    as it is like a crap shoot at who ends up carrying
    for them. Some children are lucky if they get a
    great home but the number of abuse cases in IL
    is staggering and proves most children are set
    up for a horrible childhood with abuse of all kinds
    even when the people like the Gaskills SEEM like
    the children would be safe there. IN the Gaskill
    case many knew this family was not quite right,
    some witnessed unfair treatment, others verbal
    and mental abuse but none of us seperately or
    collectively took it upon ourselves to become
    busy bodies like MG and did not report our
    concerns as we truly put to much trust into DCFS
    finding out how odd the family dynamics were
    and did not know that children remain silent
    for many obvious reasons about their treatment
    in daily life and if they are victimized sexually
    they suffer silently and alone, Most victims
    finally get the courage to come forward once they are no longer in the environment, while many children never
    get the courage and live all their lives with a
    wound that really never has a chance to heal
    because it still is inside of them and not out
    in the open. I believe the reason MISSY disappeared
    and Amber got herself kicked ou of the home was
    the reason they could be finally brave enough to
    come forward. Those of us that knew yhe girls
    at various times in their life are so proud of
    them and we proudly support and will continue to
    support them. If it was not for this REFORM blog,
    the girls and the community could not have
    been joined together to seek justice for these
    two girls that suffered way too long.
    THanks for all you do on
    behalf of children everywhere

  263. TRUE BLOOD: I send my love and support
    to the two of you,
    I am so very proud of you,
    you two have grown into
    courageous and very smart
    young ladies.
    I am sending you two a big
    hug. You two are in my prayers,
    and I have every confidence that
    you two will only get stronger
    and just like you were yesterday,
    remember you are and always will
    be stonger than the coward facing trial.
    He and MG can not hurt you any longer.
    Let them keep throwing everything
    but the kitchen sink at you; and
    look them both in the eye with the
    real truth: You girls know the truth
    and I and others totally believe the
    allegations you had to make to set yourself free and make this be a huge turning point in
    your lives. You both can be and do anything you want to do;
    I for one always knew the two of you to be bright,sweet
    and very kind. I hope at the end of this ordeal you both
    will be able to receive restitution from the state if
    possible and file a law suit against Mr and MRS G,
    no amount of money can undo the pain you suffered and
    your lost childhood and innocence; but it can help you
    start over and pursue educational goals or whatever it
    is that will make you happy..

    Keep the faith of GOD in your
    heart and soul. Like the footprint
    prayer he has carried you both
    all of your life and is still
    carrying you through this time
    in your life. Remember also,
    many people are supporting you
    and will be there for you each step of the
    way.
    Love to you and your family.
    I'm sure they are very proud of
    you and please know that I
    and many others know your
    family may have had some
    problems, many families do.
    The important thing is that
    they are there for you, and
    together with God's help
    you will make up for the
    years you were apart; and
    working together you can
    and will find happiness
    and if any problems exsist
    or arise; the two of you
    will know not only know how
    to handle it, but are strong
    enough to deal with anything
    and be a real strength to
    whoever needs your help.
    Just so you know,there is no
    such thing as bad blood..
    just bad people.
    P.S. IF YOU ARE NOT FAMILIAR WITH THE RADIO STATION
    K-LOVE ON FM RADIO (A WONDERFUL CONTEMPORARY CHRISTIAN
    STATION) There are many songs
    that have lyrics that you can
    totally identify with.
    I thought of the two of you the other day,
    there is a song called STRONG ENOUGH.(forgot
    the artists name),please look it up on the computer
    and read and listen to the lyrics. Listen to
    k-love whenever you can as the station has
    helped many people including myself in hard
    times and reminds you to celebrate the good times as
    well.

  264. Reading this blog and information that has been forthcoming from
    the blog since people started giving their brutally honest about
    Mr. Mrs. G, it has been become thankfully, and very apparent
    that the two of them put together equal adults that were very
    comfortable exploiting children placed in their home sadly by
    DCFS. THe information particularly that MG and people just like
    her, is and has been is nothing more than a complete slander case
    of the two girls that the couple had the nerve and were allowed to be adopted.
    MG has been continually lying about these girls their whole life.
    Even now, she and her "CHURCH LADY GROUP" are lying through
    their teeth about these two girls. If one was sucker enough to believe
    her vicious lies one would think and be led to believe that these two
    girls were severely impaired in not only their mental status but their
    intelligence as well, all the while telling people the girls were so
    horrible in college and were thrown out for INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR
    and were two girls with such serious problems due to their "BAD BLOOD"
    line as supposedly were so impaired from the affects of their mom
    drinking while she was pregnant, and these girls are and always will
    be damaged by FAS. THe truth is the girls are NOT mentally impaired
    or lack good character and INTELLIGENCE as she would like everyone
    to believe. If the girls had any mental and emotional problems ever;
    it was because MG and her hen-pecked sick husband caused these
    girls so much harm that it would be impossible not to become
    distressed, depressed and experience emotional problems somewhere
    along the way. THe girls carried so much heartache and no doubt
    extreme stress and internal suffering; it is amazing how they were
    able to come through it and now as young women be not only extremely
    able, but very strong and intelligent to expose the horrible abuse
    (that the abuser inflicted on them for more than half their life) on
    top of the other many abuses and unfair and mistreatment they
    had to deal with that MG was more than capable of, adding more
    misery and suffering in their lives.
    The fact that MG has lied and does lie ( she truly believes her own lies)
    now about how horrible and severely disturbed the young girls are
    is a desperate woman's attempt to take the focus off her despicable
    husband and the very strong possibility that the crimes he is accused
    of and has had his freedom taken away from him as he faces serious charges
    that very well (if and when convicted) will be going to jail for a very long time).
    MG has become even more of serial liar and really expects everyone to buy
    all the trash she (including the bad-blood) according to her, explains how
    her husband is in the trouble he is in today.
    Missy was in honor classes in high school, very congenial and kind (my son
    knew her well) and to think her so called mother has never given her
    any credit and actually wants everyone to believe she was kicked out
    of the Jr. college (also doing well there due to her extreme mental problems
    and deficiencies. Amber quit school right after MIssy did the right thing
    and left that crazy house as the only way she could finally expose the
    accused she could not live there any longer. Amber, was no doubt aware
    of her sisters' reasons and plan and knew her sister loved her and their
    little sister, and left school and her loving wardens kicked her out of the
    house. Thankfully, Amber knew what to do and where to go and also
    finally was free from these two sick people.
    If this does not prove THE INTELLIGENT, RESOURCEFUL,COURAGEOUS
    AND HEALTHY STATE OF MIND THESE TWO GIRLS HAVE
    DEMONSTRATED ; I DON'T KNOW WHAT DOES!

  265. HEY APR.26 3:21 PM
    SHOCKING! DCFS after COUNSELING and TUDORING
    the girls 5 times a month-every year found the girls doing fine , and YIKES! Their SEVERE MENTAL PROBLEMS from BIRTH were DEEMED UNDER CONTROL? Of course it makes you wonder aboutDCF'S COMPETENCY Hmmmmmmmm, Lets get this straight, these girls (though totally mentally unstable with serious PROBLEMS) of COURSE SINCE BIRTH, DCFS did nothing to help the girls; because they just could not see their serious disturbances and rendered the girls fine physically and mentally? HOW DARE THEM NOT SEE WHAT YOU HAVE SEEN AND WITNESSED BEFORE THEY LEFT HOME.THE GIRLS WERE JUST SO RIDDLED
    WITH SO MANY PROBLEMS.The truth is and must kill you that despite every way you disparaged and degreated these girls,(telling everyone in the community, even in front of them) with your constant
    continual criticism of the two girls; they both progressed well
    in grade school and high school doing quite well, and in MISTYS'
    case proved to be quite bright; even being placed in honorS
    classes. The girls also were not trouble makers in grade
    or high school, or acting out with INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR.
    Nor, did the grade or high school detect SEVERE MENTAL PROBLEMS that would have precluded them from staying in school
    UNTIL DEEMED MENTALLY WELL. ALSO, in both school districts
    the district would have paid and provided for their
    education to continue in a day program downtown for
    children struggling with various mental conditions
    and receive treatment so they could resume their education
    back in their regular school. THIS DID NOT HAPPEN BECAUSE
    THE GIRLS EACH WERE PROGRESSING WELL WITH THEIR INDIVIDUAL
    EDUCATIONAL NEEDS AND NOT MENTALLY UNSTABLE. It seems now that your husband is in trouble, you are so UPSET and DISTRAUGHT that DCFS based
    on what you have stated, after numerous and intense tudoring
    and counseling, DID NOT SEE WHAT DISTURBED GIRLS THEY
    WERE; LIKE YOU WANT EVERYONE AND THEIR BROTHER TO BELIEVE
    BECAUSE AFTER ALL, THESE GIRLS ARE SO DISTURBED AND
    ALWAYS WILL BE, BECAUSE OF THEIR BAD BLOODLINE THAT
    THEY ACTUALLY LEFT A VERY HAPPY LOVING HOME (WITH I'M
    SURE A ROYAL BLOOD LINE)AND THE PATHETIC PATH YOU WORKED
    SO TIRELESLY TO ACHIEVE FOR THEM BECAUSE YOU WERE SO
    DEDICATED AND A TRULY AMAZING LOVING MOTHER TO THE GIRLS.
    HOW COULD THEY POSSIBLY WANT OUT OF SUCH A LOVING
    ENVIRONMENT AND LEAVE AFTER ALL YOU DID SACRIFICING
    EVEN YOUR OWN LIFE AND YOUR CHILDRENS' FOR THEM? ALSO, EVERYTHING YOU DID TO MAKE SURE THEY COULD OVERCOME THEIR MANY DEFICIENCIES AND MENTAL INSTABILITY AND HAVE A REAL SHOT AT WORKING AT MCDONALDS THE REST OF THEIR LIVES.
    ON TOP OF EVERTHING "YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND DID FOR
    THE TWO OF THEM", they still are so mentally incompetent
    as well as delusional coming forward to fabricate the
    accusation of being sexually abused and even producing
    credible EVIDENCE out of a magical "rabbits" hat they
    they found on that wonderful PATH you toiled and sweated
    on paving for them their entire lives.
    Where is everyone that knew it was the girls'
    that were so disturbed and pathelogical liars as well?
    GEE, it seems all people can remember is a home where
    two girls suffered and never had a normal childhood,
    and were abused in ways that have been referenced on
    this blog, and all the while behind closed doors
    suffered abuse that the girls have finally been able to
    seek justice for by providing the state with enough
    evidence that the accused is standing trial for.
    Why don't people realize how many very serious problems
    these girls have; besides being so unintelligent that
    even an honor student required tudoring five times
    a week for years? Why aren't people coming forward
    surely with one or two experience of mental instability
    for one or both the girls? The SILENCE IS DEAFINING.

  266. To april 26th. 12:08p.m. and others, the girls were never adopted by the Gaskill family. That is what Mr. and Mrs. want you to think or have told you. Do the research on that if you need proof. Unfortunately it was not even close to being a real family for them. It was just a way station untill they could be united with their real loved ones.

    Mrs. F.N.

  267. someone asked if the Catholic priests heard about this blog–by all means, tell them and let them in on the fun. They would be so proud of their parishioners!?

  268. I sent a letter and the BLOG URL to the Archdiocese of Chicago more than two weeks ago.

    As a correction to: April 30, 2012 12:14 PM

    The Gaskills (Mr and Mrs) are ex-parishoners of St. Luke and ex-Catholics for at least a decade and a half. The same may be said for at least 3 of the 4 bio-children.

  269. DEAR Mrs. F.N., I am Apr 26th 12:08 PM,
    I am totally blown away. I just read your message that the girls were NEVER ADOPTED BY THE GASKILLS.
    Mary and her husband (the other liar),told everyone a long, long, time ago the girls were adopted and the girls even used the GASKIL NAME IN SCHOOL. They have a high-shool age boy that has been with them since a baby and say they adopted him. The boy has been returned to the home with two other chidren they claim to be have adopted as well. This was shocking for me to read about the girls not being adopted but I am NOT SURPRISED as the two of them are very comfortable lying and I really think after awhile they are both so deliusional that they BELIEVE their own lies. The two of them both said they adopted the terminaaly ill girl that passed away. The obit proved
    other wise and listed her legal last name, her biological parents name and listed Mary and Rob as the FOSTER PARENTS.
    You have just confirmed what I and many people have always believed. Many of us myself included, always thought the Gaskill was just a boarding house, or way station as you put it and NOTHING MORE. The Gaskills WANTED people to BELIEVE their ADOPTION SPIN to elevate themselves even more. After all, people would admire them more as they adopted the children (because they LOVED THEM AS MUCH AS THEIR BIO CHILDREN; as THAT IS WHAT THE HEART OF ADOPTION IS ALL ABOUT. LOVE IS THE REASON TO ADOPT A BABY OR CHILD PERIOD. THIS is so TYPICAL of what a SERIAL LIAR MARY IS (AND ROB AS WELL). THE ADOPTION STORY now than I think about also served as a cover-up of sorts. People that think the state STOPS SENDING MONEY EVERY MONTH to FST PARENTS IF A CHILD IS ADOPTED are out there as they do not know how DCFS works in cases of children that are considered special needs when adopted by FST. PARENTS. THE FACT IS THE GASKILLS KNEW PEOPLE WOULD THINK THEY WERE
    NOT IN FOR THE MONEY IF THEY CLAIMED TO BE ADOPTED PARENTS OF A CHILD OR CHILDREN. People do not know that even though a child is adopted in fst care the parents STILL GET PAID. The Gaskills knew people knew that when children are in FOSTER CARE with SPECIAL NEEDS THAT THEY WERE PAID A TIDY SUM OF MONEY PER CHILD TAX FREE. The GASKILLS OBVIOUSLY WERE PULLING ANOTHER OF THEIR MANY SELF-SERVING LIES AND BASKED IN THE ADULATION THAT BESIDES HAVING FOUR BIO CHILDREN THEY JUST HAVE SO MUCH LOVE FOR CHILDREN AND THERE LIFE WOULD JUST NOT BE COMPLETE IF THEY DID NOT EXPAND THEIR FAMILY BY ADOPTING
    THE FOSTER CHILDEREN THAT WERE IN THEIR CARE, AS THERE COULD NOT BEAR TO BE WITHOUT THESE CHILDREN IN THEIR LIVES EVEN HAVING FOUR BIO CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN.
    THE TWO OF THEM MAKE ME SICK. MARY IS OUT THERE LYING THROUGH HER TEETH THAT THE GIRLS ARE LYING AND HAVE SO MANY PROBLEMS THAT THEY WERE BORN WITH FROM THEIR BAD BLOOD FAMILY. WHAT A CROCK MARY. ALL THE LYING YOU HAVE DONE AS WELL AS YOUR HUSBAND PROVES WHO THE REAL LIARS ARE AND MENTALLY UNSTABLE. YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND ARE MASTERS AT PUTTING ON THE DOG WHENEVER YOU WANT OR HAVE TO.YOU BOTH DUPED MANY PEOPLE WHO FINALLY REALIZED THE LOW LIVES THE TWO OF YOU ARE LONG AGO. WHY WOULD YOU EXPECT ANYONE KNOWING WHAT YOU TWO ARE REALLY ABOUT AND WHO YOU REALLY ARE BELIEVE THAT ROB'S INNOCENT PLEA IN COURT IS NOT A LIE. ROB LEARNED FROM THE QUENN OF LYING HERSELF AND IS MORE THAN ABLE TO LIE WITH A STAIGHT LOOK ON HIS FACE. PROBLEM IS, BEFORE HIS ATTORNEY ARRIVED WHEN ARRESTED HE VOLUNTEERED INCRIMINATING STATEMENTS INCLUDING THE "BITING FETISH" STORY. WHY ELSE DID HE GO TO JAIL AND IS FACING CHARGES FOR THE COWARDLY SEX ABUSER HE IS?
    THE FACT THAT YOU TWO WANTED EVERONE TO BELIEVE YOU WERE ADOPTED PARENTS IS A SLAP TO EVERY WONDERFUL LOVING PARENTS AND CHILDREN THAT ARE ADOPTED FAMILIES EVERY WHERE. THIS LATEST EXPOSED LIE IS NOT GOING TO HELP ROB TO HOLD ON TO HIS CHURCH CHIOR ROBE AND YOUR FAKE SET OF WINGS.

  270. APRil 30 12:41
    St. Luke priests know the outrage parishioners
    EXPERIENCED because of you MARY with your
    SICK AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS, AS THEY WERE
    APPAULED AND SICKENED BY YOU. YOUR SICK MIND
    WAS WORKING OVERTIME DREAMING UP A WAY TO TRY
    TO DESTROY A WONDREFUL YOUNG IMMIGRANT PRIESTS
    LIFE. I'm SURE the PRIESTS know about the blog
    and no doubt read about how many people know
    how very sick you are and how by giving examples
    how you and your sex abuser husband could not
    AND DID NOT RESPECT THE YOUNG LIVES THAT HAD
    EVERY RIGHT TO BE TREATED WITH LOVE RESPECT
    AND HUMAN DIGNITY. CHILDREN ARE INNOCENT AND
    THE MOST VULNERABLE OF THE VULNERABLE; and
    this blog is really about PEOPLE WHO KNOW
    BY YOUR LYING AND ABUSIVE HOME THAT CHILDREN
    WERE NOT RESPECTED; AND EVERY INSTANCE YOU
    MISTREATED, ABUSED VERBALLY AND MENTALLY
    AS WELL AS SEXUALLY TWO INNOCENT GIRLS
    GROWING UP THEIR ENTIRE CHILDHOOD AND DENYING
    THEM DIGNITY AND RESPECT NNO DOUBT ARE GLAD
    PEOPLE ARE COMING TO THE GIRl's AIDE BY
    SUPPORTING THEM EVERY WAY THEY CAN AS THAT
    IS WHAT WE AS ADULTS NEED TO DO FOR CHILDREN
    THAT HAVE OR ARE VICTIMS OF ABUSE AND IN THIS
    CASE NEED SUPPORT AND LOVE ,RESPECT and DIGNITY
    THEY NEVER RECEIVED THEIR ENTIRE LIFE THRU NO
    FAULT OF THEIR OWN; JUST THE WORST POSSIBLE
    DECISION OF PLACING THEM IN A HOME THAT
    ONLY RESPECTED THE PAYCHECK RECEIVED BY
    A STATE AGENCY, DCFS, THAT TOO MANY TIMES
    FAIL CHILDREN LIKE THEY DID IN THIS CASE.
    FYI: INVESTIGATORS NEED TO CHECK OUT INFORMATION
    GIVEN TO THEM BY PEOPLE ON THIS BLOG THAT HAVE
    AND DO REVEAL THEIR IDENTITY TO THEM PERSONALLY,
    THEY HAVE HEARD THE St. LUKE DEBACLE AND ALREADY
    HAVE CHECKED OUT THAT INFO AWHILE AGO, so don't
    WORRY ST, LUKE AND THE CHICAGO ARCHDIOCESE
    VALIDATED ALREADY THE TROUBLE YOU CAUSED AND
    YOUR HUSBAND LOSING HIS JOB AS PUBLISHER OF
    THE CATHOLIC NEWSPAPER THE NEW WORLD THAT
    WAS A DIRECT RESULT OF YOUR VICIOUS LIE AGAINST
    A PRIEST THAT THE ARCHDIOCESE INVESTIGATED
    AND QUESTIONED ALL PARTIES INVOLVED AND CONCLUDED
    THE ALLEGATIONS WERE FABRICATED BY A VERY DISTURBED
    WOMAN.THIS BLOG IS NOT ABOUT FUN FOR ANYONE TO
    READ AS THE READING MATERIAL WEAVES WHY AND
    HOW TWO GIRLS WERE FORCED TO SUFFER IN A BOARDING
    HOUSE RUN BY TWO GREEDY PEOPLE THAT ONLY SAW
    DOLLAR SIGNS INSTEAD OF TWO GIRLS WHO NEEDED
    AND DESERVED A LOVING HOME WITH LOVING PARENTS.

  271. TRUE BLOOD
    Just found out reading this blog,
    that the two of you never were
    really adopted by the GAskills.
    That is great news for you as
    you will not legally have to
    have your last name changed
    to your biological family.
    Great news. You are now finally
    free of them in every way, including
    freedom of a name that is and will
    never be a name that can be worthy
    of respect because of the horrible
    way the two of you were treated and
    never repected you whole lives.

    Stay strong and know many people in
    the community are and will be there for
    you and by getting DCFS to explain
    how they let the two of you suffer
    in a home that never really was a home
    that you both deserved to grow up
    in and have a HAPPY NORMAL CHILDHOOD.

  272. MG, I think you better make good on being
    on your best behavior as your husbands
    attorney advised you (reported on this blog)
    We all know how hard it is for you to
    behave… so try staying off this blog
    and chiming in (so apparent).
    THe blog really is now a community blog
    that has joined many people together
    to be there and SUPPORT the girls as
    they never received SUPPORT from you
    and your family in the sense of being
    loved and a real part of a loving home
    like you tried so hard for many to believe
    including ADOPTING THE TWO GIRLS and it
    is now in the open that that was another
    one of your many LIES that you told very
    matter of factly, I might add, to everyone
    you knew and knew the girls.
    It takes a village to support children that
    have been so horribly treated and abused
    plus criminal abuse as well, to help
    those children when they were forced to suffer their whole life in a home where none of us would want
    a pet flea to live in.The blog does reference you and your husband because after all you were the adults
    that are totally responsible for along with DCFS your
    partners in crime.

  273. I am so happy the girls are finally reunited
    with their biological family and I wish them
    well reclaiming their life and rebuilding
    a family relationship with family and have
    a true new beginning with their whole biological
    family who no doubt suffered as well for the
    girls having to be in foster care.
    The girls are smart and resourceful (look at what
    and how they have sought justice for themselves)
    and I'm sure will be a real help and inspiration
    showing their family that it IS POSSIBLE TO
    CONFRONT ADVERSITIES and RECLAIM LIFE with
    COURAGE AND DETERMINATION.

  274. I do commend all parents who adopt for the right reasons. To love and care for a child and provide them with a family that they may otherwise not have. They truly deserve the right to be called parents. May God bless those people and keep them in his care so they may continue to care for the children that need them. Its just too bad DCFS doesn't do its homework as it should to find them.
    Mrs. F.N.

  275. catholic priests, child abuse/ molestation, fun????? Really April 3oth

  276. Hey Apr 30th 12:14 PM
    Guess what? Everyone that has written about their
    unfortunate experiences witnessing abusive verbal
    language to the girls, mistreatment, unfair rules
    that only applied to them, talking about the girls
    private information that you had no right to share
    as well as very odd family dynamics that were
    baffling and left many people ill at ease with
    being around witnessing some or all of the unsettling
    behaviors listed above are not all St. Luke parishiners.
    Many many people that had the priviledge of knowing
    everthing listed above and probably more than St. Lukers,
    have chosen to share their discomfort at some point
    in a friendship with this family that as it evolved
    over a period of time, they too realized that this
    couple was not who they thought they were; and in fact
    were very uncomfortable witnessing the many ways
    the girls were treated overtly as well as in sutle
    ways that were obviously not in line in how any
    child or children be treated by their parents or
    parent.There is a large faction from Calvery that
    also have felt a need to voice the many reasons
    they grew disturbed with this couple and the parenting
    of what they professed "their adopted daughters".
    If it was not for this blog many people from both
    church communities would still be falsely believing
    the girls were adopted daughters into this family.
    This revelation is just the icing on the cake.
    Although nothing tops the abuse that the accused is
    now standing trial for and has lost his freedom for
    by being on house arrest and electronically
    monitered to makr sure his freedom in society
    is no longer a priveldge for him due to the very
    serious nature of the crimes a grand jury indited
    him for.I'm sure the elders at here at Calvery
    church if reading this blog are not having "FUN"
    with the examples given about how many in the
    Calvery community have shared to give further
    information on their experiences and some just
    feeling something was not quite right or off
    with this couple and now know exactly what it
    was and that their intuition was correct.
    The two church communities different in religious
    doctrine and practices both share and are
    sadly connected as both communities suffered
    damage from the Gaskill couple. Mary left St.
    Luke as she had no choice; and the same thing happened
    at Calvery when she was suddenly asked to leave
    by the church eldrers who ALL SIGNED OFF ON.
    The two communities both were baffled with the
    unfortunate behavior of MG and both have many
    people they left behind with less than respectful
    feelings for the way they parented their UNADOPTED
    DAUGHTERS THAT ALONG WITH ALL THEIR OTHER LIES
    AND BEHAVIOR NOW ADD UP TO A HOME THAT WAS FOR
    THE FOSTER CHILDREN NOTHING MORE THAN A BOARDING
    HOUSE THAT THE CHILDREN PAID WITH THEIR LIVES
    AND WELL THE GASKILLS….SIMPLY CASHED IN
    ON THE STATES' CHECKS EVERY MONTH AND ACTUALLY
    REAPED THE BENEFITS OF THE CHILDRENS' MISERY.
    THIS BLOG IS NOT IN ANY WAY A "FUN" BLOG or
    "FUN" READING FOR ANYONE UNLESS YOU ARE SOMEONE
    THAT DELIGHTS IN READING ABOUT THE GROSS
    AND DESPICABLE BEHAVIOR THAT HAPPENS TO TOO
    MANY CHILDREN THAT DCFS FAILS AND DOES NOT PROTECT.

  277. Are people going to bring in the Archdiosese to evaluate issues regarding morality and child abuse?

  278. Rally or Crabbina–
    Is there somewhere we can confirm if the girls were actually adopted? Is there a public registry or any place that you are aware of?

    I do think the adoptions were finalized.

  279. The only reason the Archdiosese is and has been discussed on this blog; is DUH…..MG totally showed how really
    sick her mind was and is when she made false allegations
    against a priest at St. Luke that was a blatant lie
    and even slander that caused the church and the Archdiosese
    to have an investigation that questioned all parties
    involved including FATHER PAUL RYCHER(who is nobodys' fool)
    and of course MG herself and concluded no merit in her
    false accusations and I'm sure between themselves rendered
    her a sick woman with serious issues and no doubt prayed
    for her and her family that were from the time this all became common knowledge people were distressed and totally mystified how low MG went down with her vicious lying; and MG knew
    she would never be able to live what she did down(she took
    off ASAP and landed at Calvery where she caused a lot of internal trouble and was such a nosy body and irritated
    many people that were not part of her unknowing fan club.
    Again, she got herself in serious trouble having to do
    with financial matters and was released from her position
    and she never went back to Calverly either as once again
    their was the same element of problematic and serious
    character and mental issues that presented themselves
    once again that people were astonished and baffled
    of the behavior in each instance that did not put MG
    in good stead with many in the church community.
    the Catholic church as well as Calverly can only
    evaluate the character or lack of character that
    caused troubling circumstances in their church community,
    and can only verify that her departure was due to
    troubling and disturbing circumstances that MG and MG
    alone caused and brought trouble to both churches with
    St.Luke being the worse.These two examples are examples
    of MG and her lying problems and even in Calverys case
    someone who could no longer be trusted in the position
    she held as again her character or lack of character
    became a problem of trust and credibility.
    The court system is now the judge of what kind of home
    parents, and treatment of the two girls as facts that
    will show how indeed this was a home that has all the
    ear marks of a home where the dynamics were such that
    sexual abuse can and does happen, The state already has
    made a strong case of the abuse that the girls have
    exposed; otherwise the accused would not be facing a
    trial of not one but two class X felonies against his
    unadopted daughters and standing trial for.
    It goes without saying that the two churches that MG
    caused trouble enough to have to leave, as well as
    everyone on the planet can make their own jugement
    about morality annd child abuse.Anyone that can mistreat,
    abuse a child or children has no values and absolutely
    no morals and lie and pass themselves as people that
    live their life according to their professed faith in
    God our NOT ONLY LACKING MORALITY BUT ALSO LACK HUMANITY
    to abuse children and in this case no scruples whatsoever.
    Thank God for these girls breaking their silence as….
    yes every church, priest, pastor, and members of the
    community at large (even the people on the jury) can
    conclude that people that can and do abuse children
    lack morality and even a sense of conscience…
    how can people like this live with themselves,look
    in the mirror and sleep at night while abusing a
    child or children that are totally helpless yet
    totally dependent on them???

  280. Anonymous April 30 with regard to adoption records: They would be sealed to the public so we can't verify that. Only the Gaskills and hopefully the girls would know for sure. Even after adoption, the adoptive parents still get money from the state.

  281. Rally
    At some point the prosecution during
    their investigation, the state attorney
    office will no doubt be checking with DCFS
    on their involvement with the supervision
    and responsibility of the welfare of the girls
    so won't they be able to know if the
    girls were adopted by the Gaskills
    or not according to records and of course
    the girls themselves?
    You did state that the in this case (can not
    use the words adpt/pareents) the imposters
    of parents of the girls (either way), if
    they indeed adopted the girls at some point,
    it was because at one time when they were
    a little older the original agency in
    Oak Park and DCFS were considering placing
    the girls that could very well give them
    the opportunity to be adopted, and the
    imposters immediately somehow switched
    to a catholic agency and were able to
    remove themselves from the Oak Park
    agency, and in time supposedly adopted
    the girls. The only reason if they did
    adopt the girls or any other children was
    to INSURE THEY COULD NOT BE ADOPTED OR
    placed in another foster home were there
    would be likely parents that would have
    wanted to adopt the girls.
    The imposters are not stupid, if they did
    not make a move to adopt, the threat of
    the girls being adopted by parents that were
    qualified and waiting to become parents
    could or would have happened leaving them
    without the paycheck every month so if
    indeed they really did adopt the girls or
    ANY other children the motive was not because
    they loved the girls or children so much,
    that they could not bare life without them.
    The motive is crystal clear, they knew if they
    adopted the money they so greedily collected
    each month would still be coming in from
    the state and that IS WHAT THEY COULD NOT PART
    WITH AND BARE.
    Mrs. F. N, if you can shed more ligh on this adoption question it would be appreciated.

  282. Anonymous 9:38 AM May 1: Yes the prosecution would know this already. Whether or not that comes out in court or in the media, I can't say.There is no way for us to independently verify.

  283. The Gaskills are and have been SCAMMERS
    their whole life. If there was a threat
    or they felt one of these children or
    in the girls case could be placed in a
    different home and their money would
    dry up, they would run so fast to find
    a attorney to make sure their money
    source (the children) could not be removed
    to KEEP THEIR BIG BUCKS COMING IN.
    To even be referred to to as adoptive parents
    is sickening. Adoptive parents go through
    so many channels to fulfill their dream of
    becoming parents and together with their
    children are examples of the true meaning
    of what LOVE IS AND LOOKS LIKE.
    I for one will be referring to these selfish
    money grubbers, child abusers, and the accused
    pervert as what they really are and have always been "FOXES" IN SHEEPS CLOTHING that in their DISGUISE
    PREY ON INNOCENT CHILDREN AND GO UNDETECTED
    UNTIL THEY ARE CAUGHT WHEN THEY ARE FINALLY
    HUNTED DOWN AND EXPOSED FOR JUST HOW DANGEROUS
    THEY ARE. MR AND MRS FOX ARE YOU LISTENING?

  284. Dear TRUE BLOOD,
    IF the two of you were legally adopted by the Gaskills;
    begin now, if you already have not, legal proceedings
    to get rid of that last name as soon as possible.
    However, perhaps if you really were adopted (which means
    the Gaskills accepted and vowed to be parents to the two of you
    in every sense of the word parent); attorneys may advise you
    to wait until the trial is over as I imagine the fact that they would
    abuse and mistreat you girls on so many levels, while legally being
    your parents, (although just as reprehensible as fst. parents),
    it could help you be even more sucessful to receiving money
    from a civil law suit against them as it makes them even more
    despicable to have adopted you girls so the money from the
    state would not stop coming in every month while you girls
    received nothing but suffering from many abuses, of course
    the worse (although the abuses are all horrible) the sexual
    which you suffered even before you were adopted as well as after.
    DCFS is responsible as well, I would think the state owes you
    both restitution for failing you miserably as well. Perhaps, the
    state can also seek to retrieve money that this couple clearly
    should have never received and sue them as well to gain money
    back and make sure the money is given to the two of you for
    the suffering and abuse you had inflicted on you, and were forced
    to carry around silently as these people were an are very able to
    frighten and manipulate children as they did to many adults that
    experienced the viciousness and sick behavior were intimidated enough
    to get away from MG as she clearly has a serious mental disorder
    that she even had before the two of you were even born.
    The Gaskills are afraid of the IRS for a reason. Your attorney she probe
    why that is and find out exactly their net worth if they are hiding money
    and claim they have no savings in accounts or investments.
    They also own a home that if needed they will be forced to sell if
    they need to satisfy a settlement that is reached on your behalf
    as compensation ( no dollar amount could make up for all you suffered),
    for the mistreatment and abuse they inflicted on the two of you
    and even were paid for their despicable false parenting as well.
    Hopefully, the prospect of restitution and or a settlement from
    a law suit has been discussed with you, and you ultimately receive
    money that you deserve and can use pursuing higher education,
    as well as a savings account to start your new life as young adults
    to be there for you to use as you need to to.
    I truly believe and hope you can sue and receive money as you
    clearly deserve it and you have paid with your lives being
    ruined while the Gaskills were paid each month for simply
    boarding the two of you in their house and taking away your
    entire childhood. Become pro-active on the issue of law suits
    as I do believe you will be able to to receive a settlement
    that you both deserve and can use as you move forward in
    reclaiming your lives and rebuilding a future that you
    not only deserve as you have paid a huge price with
    living through a nightmare of a childhood.
    Much LOVE and PRAYERS

  285. I was told by both Mary and Rob Gaskill that they were going to adopt Missy, but never Amber–"because who would want to be in charge of something like that?"

    Is there anything more that EVER has to be said about the Gaskills'? I think not.

  286. I did not know that if you adopted a child that was
    a foster child, you would receive money still from the state. I really thought that when the Gaskills adopted
    or said they adopted they were truly supporting
    the children on their own and I believed that
    their heart was in the right place, as couples
    that adopt in my experience adopt because of their
    true love that a child could benefit from as well
    as living in a loving home with parents that love
    them as their own. I now know that was not the
    case here, and it is sad that these children
    were really a business in a sense that paid them
    generously for caring for the children.
    It really is sad, and does not speak well
    of this family as they obviously were and are
    something they are not. PARENTS.

  287. Yes, it's probably better to keep church or any religious evaluation of morality out of this, as history has reflected the inconsistancy and hypocrisy of these institutions.

  288. TRUE BLOOD,
    There seems to de a debate on this blog
    regarding if an adoption ever really
    did take place withthe two of you
    girls.As far as you changing your
    last name as you as you can if it was
    legaly changed to Gskill; you could
    get advice on perhaps the timing of
    you doing so. In the meantime, nothing
    can stop you from simply not using the
    name or writing it. I would think now
    that you are finally free of them
    even having to carry their last name
    is burdensome, so if it is legal you
    don't have to give it any part of
    your life and use if you are not already,
    your own family name which will be
    another step away from removing these
    people of "ROYALTY" from your lives.

  289. May1 4:47PM THE GASKILLS ARE THE ONES WHO BROUGHT
    RELIGION INTO THIS FROM THE START.
    THEY USED THEIR CURRENT CHURCH
    BUDDIES TO CRAM THE COURTROOM
    AND WRITE LETTERS ABOUT HOW THIS
    RELIGIOUS MAN IS BEYOND REPROACH
    AS HE IS THE PERFECT FATHER,FAMILY
    MAN AND HIS MORAL CHARACTER EXEMPLIFIED
    BY HIS STRONG FAITH COULD NOT POSSIBLY
    BE IN QUESTION,AND THAT THERE IS NO
    WAY HE COULD HAVE ABUSED THE GIRLS.
    THESE SAME PEOPLE ALONG WITH MG HAVE
    ACCUSED THE GIRLS OF BEING LIARS,
    MENTALLY INCOMPETENT, AND COME FROM
    A BAD BLOOD LINE, AND THE ALLEGATIONS
    AGAINST THE ACCUSER ARE THE WORK OF
    SATAN DOING HIS BEST TO ATTACK THIS
    MAN WITH ALLEGATIONS FROM TWO VERY
    UNSTABLE GIRLS.
    NO ONE ON THIS BLOG INCLUDING A CHURCH
    OR CHURCHES HAS EVALUATED ACCORDING
    TO ANY CHURCH BELIEFS OR DOCTRINE
    ANYTHING ABOUT THE QUESTION OF MORALITY
    OR LACK OF MORALITY.
    INSINUATING THAT HISTORY HAS REFLECTED
    HYPOCRISY BY ANY PARTICULAR RELIGIOUS
    INSTITUTION IN EVALUATING MORALITY
    AND IT IS BEST TO KEEP RELIGIOUS
    EVALUATION OUT OF THIS DISCUSSION
    AND CASE IS ABSURD AS NO CHURCH
    HAS OR WILL MAKE A STATEMENT
    AND IF THEY DID, THEY WOULD LIKELY
    RESPOND THAT THEY ARE PRAYING FOR
    EVERYONE IN THIS CASE,AS THIS CASE
    HAS IMPACTED AND IS CAUSING SUFFERING
    FOR A ENTIRE FAMILY (IMMEDIATE AS WELL
    AS EXTENDED).I HARDLY WOULD FIND
    THAT HYPOCRITICAL AS CHURCHES AND
    PASTORS AND PRIESTS IN ANY DENOMINATION
    BECAUSE OF THEIR FAITH, PRAY FOR ALL
    THAT ARE INVOLVED AND REALIZE THAT
    THERE IS EITHER GUILT OR INNONENCE,
    AND EITHER WAY THERE ARE AND WILL BE NO
    WINNERS, JUST MANY PEOPLE THAT WILL
    NEED SUPPORT AND PRAYERS TO GET
    THROUGH WHATEVER THE OUTCOME AS
    A CASE LIKE THIS WILL IMPACT AND
    HAVE LASTING AFFECTS FOR A LIFETIME.
    THE JURY WILL HAVE TO CONSIDER NOT
    ONLY EVIDENCE BUT BECAUSE OF THE
    NATURE OF THIS CASE CHARACTER, VALUES
    AND MORALITY WILL HAVE TO BE DETRMINED
    AND NO DOUBT WILL ENTER INTO THEIR DECISION AND AFTER THE DECISION IF THEY HAVE AND PRACTICE A FAITH THEY TOO WILL PRAY FOR ALL INVOLVED, AS THIS CASE IS TRAGIC AND AS STATED EARLIER, HAS ALREADY AND WILL HAVE LASTING AFFECTS ON EVERYONE INVOLVED.

  290. May1 4:47 PM
    After reading your comment about leaving
    the church out of any discussion as well as religious evaluations of
    morality because history has reflected
    the inconsistencies and hypocrisy of these
    institutions?
    Your remark uses the singular word church and
    not churches. The implication your statement
    makes is nothing but a snyde remark directed
    at the Catholic church.(and no doubt Catholics)
    Reading between the lines you are really
    singuling out the Catholic church and have
    tried to INMPLIY that the Catholic Church
    doctrine and faith has had a HISTORY of being
    INCONSISTENT as well and is a INSTITUTION
    of HYPOCRISY.
    Really? Then everyone that is CATHOLIC and
    practices their faith is therfore a HYPOCRITE
    along with their FAITH and CHURCH?
    The implication is that other "CHURCH DENOMINATIONS"
    do not have any history of HYPOCRISY in their
    particular domination and religious beliefs.
    This snyde comment, is like the pot calling
    the kettle black.

    The pastor of ST. Luke church despite
    the problem and uproar NEVER ASKED MARY
    AND HER FAMILY TO LEAVE.

    Mary chose to leave
    in quick order and was amazingly able to
    embrace a different church faith group.
    Mary and her husband are now very comfortable bashing
    Catholics and thinks (disturbling) that all
    Catholics are hypocrites and evil.
    Ironically, her husband when he was Catholic
    would bash the very people that are an have
    been in their new faith groups as nothing but
    "HEATHONS" and wanted nothing to do with them
    and as he put it "THEIR BIBLE THUMPING" mentally
    and Christian faith that was phoney and sickening.
    Also, whoever wrote the remark that prompted
    this blog, you can DENY ALL DAY LONG YOU WERE
    NOT REFERRING AND SINGULING OUT THE CATHOLIC
    CHURCH, if you truly were a person of faith
    and truly believe in GOD you would realize
    that people of most other denominations all
    have in common is obvious A TRUE BELIEF AND
    THE FAITH IN GOD.

  291. Sorry for any misunderstanding, just responding to April 30th 12:14 post… telling the priests and letting them in on the fun

  292. Wow…so much hate in these posts. Rally can obviously see the IP addresses of all who comment. I would bet that the same 3 or 4 people are constantly commenting. Does anyone doubt they have an agenda? What if Rob is innocent? Is it possible? Yes. If he is guilty, then I hope he is punished, because what is alleged is terrible. Is Mary G. perfect? No, she is a sinner saved by Grace. There is such hatred in the posts. When the time comes, do you, the posters want to be judged as harshly as you condemn Mary? I don't know if the things said are true or not, but I can identify evil. Many of the comments seem to be evil. I could be wrong, but I would bet that there is an agenda for all who post here. My agenda is…what if someone who is innocent, gets judged by people who really don't know the facts and is assumed guilty? Does that seem fair? I think not.

  293. You do receive money from the state. Upon finalizing an adoption — there is something called an adoption subsidy which legal agreement that sets up monthly payments.

    http://www.state.il.us/dcfs/adoption/index.shtml

    DCFS provides and funds a variety of financial and non-financial benefits after adoption or guardianship, including subsidies for families who adopt waiting children or become guardians of children in DCFS care. Subsidy agreements are entered into prior to court finalization of adoptions or approval of guardianships and begin after the adoptions (adoption assistance agreements) or guardianships (subsidized guardianship agreements) are finalized.
    Subsidies may include any or all of the following:

    *Ongoing monthly payments equal to what the child's foster care payment was, or would have been.

    *Medicaid card to cover medical expenses not covered by family insurance or other public resources.

    *Counseling services for the family and child, if needed.

    *Therapeutic day care.

    *Reimbursement for costs associated with the adoption or guardianship, such as attorney fees and court costs, with a maximum reimbursement for non-recurring expenses of $1,500 for adoption and $500 for guardianship.

    http://www.state.il.us/dcfs/adoption/index.shtml

  294. One of the biggest issues that needs reform in the foster care system is postplacement monitoring after adopting from foster care. There is NO monitoring whatsoever yet all foster-to-adopt parents receive $ from the state they adopted from EVEN IF they MOVE to another state. Obviously there are no human resources to track these kids.

    We have 2 horrible cases in our archives from foster-to-adopt parents that moved and were under the radar. One is the Austin and Edward Bryant case http://reformtalk.blogspot.com/2011/03/how-could-you-hall-of-shame_4626.html These children have been MISSING and presumed dead for years. Their foster parents finally were convicted of defrauding the government recently.

    The other case involves abuse and the is the Kluth case-jury trial next week http://reformtalk.blogspot.com/2011/02/how-could-you-hall-of-shame_24.html

  295. The person that thinks that people who have been reporting on this blog are evil regarding the Gaskill
    case is equating outrage with evil as people have felt compelled posting their own individual experiences with this family because after the arrest happened recalled
    their interaction with this family over periods of time, led them to be so
    unsettled in the way the girls were treated ,and so much so that many had to
    severe ties with the family.

    People are not evil for revealing their relationships and experiences that
    they have shared, as adding it all together it does not take a genius to realize
    that there was something off and not right with the parenting of these girls.
    Many people have become active in their support of the girls in many ways,
    including showing up in court on their behalf, and sharing how this family
    were not the people they wanted everyone to believe, and of course the
    treatment of the girls that troubled them as well as their disgust with
    DCFS for failing to pick up on the unhappiness of the girls, and not following
    up and supervising;including unannounced visits that might have been
    a game changer for these two girls being placed in a different home.
    If evil is what people perceive that have supported the girls based
    on what they witnessed and know to be true, as well as the baffling
    behavior that Mary acted out over the years as well as her husband
    on many occasions belittling Amber and rendering her an "idiot"
    and other disrespectful comments, makes everyone evil that have

    felt they needed to express real facts that make this a home that
    many believe could have really been a home dysfunctional enough
    for what the girls have charged the defendant with, and the girls
    gave enough supporting evidence that caused his arrest and
    is on trial for. Yes, he is INNOCENT until proven GUILTY, but the
    fact that people have come forward with supporting the girls
    does not as already stated make them
    evil, it makes them concerned citizens
    that feel compelled to express their experiences; that put together
    can shed light on the way the girls were treated and the home
    not being what many people believed it to be.
    There are times in life you need to help and share what you know
    as in this case as the girls really are on their own and need
    people to come forward to help back up what they no doubt
    have had to share about their childhood.
    If the people that think this blog is truly evil for supporting the girls,
    and not the Gaskills, by sharing what they believed the girls sufferd,
    sheds light on how the girls were treated unfairly and verbally abusive
    then DO NOT READ THE ENTRIES AND THEN WHINE ABOUT HOW
    PEOPLE COULD POSSIBLY SHARE THEIR UNFORTUNATE EXPERIENCES WITH THE
    GAKILLS ARE EVIL, BY ALL MEANS, THEN SHARE ALL THE TIMES THE GIRLS BEHAVED
    INAPPROPRIATELY, LIED THROUGH THEIR TEETH AND WERE SO MENTALLY
    UNSTABLE THAT THEY SHOULD NOT EVEN BE WALKING AROUND ON THE STREETS
    AND ATTENDING COLLEGE AS WELL.
    WE WILL BE WAITING.

  296. If Mr. Gaskill is proved to be innocent,
    people and the adminstrator of this forum
    will be happy that justice is served,
    just as if he was found guilty.
    The forum is and has been about experiences
    that people have had, witnessed,heard,
    seen first hand for themselves what they
    know as true facts that are not consistent
    with any one that is a parent. In this case,
    reports are about both of these parents as wll as individually.The reports are negative as negative
    behavior was unfortunately imposed unfairly on
    the two girls. Disparaging words about the girls
    heard often at different times by different people
    has not helped people believe this was a happy
    home for the girls either, and put together does
    lead to the question of could all this add up and
    possibly lead to the abuse that the girls charged
    the accused with? Everyone knows that it will take
    the legal system to work at answering to Innocence
    or Guilt. People do want justice to be served;and
    the facts that people reported about how the girls
    were treated in the home as well as in public,
    are not made up or fabricated. People no doubt
    have felt a need to come forward as perhaps this
    information is valuable in making sure that facts
    the girls have had to share about their childhood
    can be backed up by other people to prove they
    are not lying if they told authorities the same
    exact things. The girls have been portrayed by
    their former family as liars so people just want
    the record straight that if they had to discuss
    their childhood there are plenty of people that
    can back that up. As for the charges, only the
    girls and the accused know the truth and the untruth.
    Many have stated they believe the girls are not lying
    because to make all of this public the girls knew
    their former family would trash them anyway they
    could, and unfortunately many in the community
    were and have been treated unkind by MG; and that
    is why their unforunate experiences with MG have
    come out. Is this fair or unfair to MG?
    The only answer is that because this case has
    elements that are not flattering to her or her
    husband in regard to what people experienced
    with them as fst parents and the experiences
    of interactions with MG in the community;
    people have given examples as stated above,
    and because this case has become high profile
    in and outside of the River Forest community,
    it was bound to come out as the case set
    off feelings that people have had and felt
    a need to share if it helps give a more
    detailed picture of what the girls went
    through and what they are up against.
    Perhaps, if the former family did not go around after
    the allegations became public bashing and trashing
    the two girls so viciously, people would not
    have become so determined to defend the girls that many have known either when they were younger or in their older
    teen years in high school.
    Everyone wants a fair trial,This is a hardship for
    everyone involved. No matter what happens no one
    is a winner and no one is a loser. All involved have and
    are paying a high cost for a case that everyone wishes was not
    happening; but unfortunately it is. It really is
    sad on every level and DCFS needs to take responsibility
    for their part in all of this no matter the outcome.
    I hope DCFS is taken to task as they were in charge
    of the girls and this families interaction to begin
    with.

  297. To WOW there is so much hate on these posts; and people
    have an genda of some kind…the only agenda is that
    two girls have suffered in their former home,
    examples given throughout the forum. People just
    want to support the girls experiences growing up
    that people witnessed and feel they need to come forward
    as the girls need people that witnessed their not
    ao happy childhood in their former home.
    The hate that you think is on this forum you have
    mistaken for disgust and even outrage on the parenting
    of the girls as well as DCFS and their total lack
    of supervision on an on going basis, as well as not
    seeing what people saw as a dysfunctional home
    with complex due to the personalities of the
    parents in the home. As far as the things Mary did
    that caused problems for some in the community has
    come out as explaining that her behavior was puzzling
    to adults many times so therfore it stands to reason
    that her behavior parenting the girls was puzzling
    and disturbing that had experiences with MG socially
    and some publicly. Some examples are harsh, but harsh
    unfortunately was the way MG dealt with many people
    so the examples are not sugar coated, they are
    recollections of someone that was difficult and
    hard to deal with with even the most trivial matters.
    Mary is not being judged. Her behavior is just being
    linked to her also puzzling and harsh treatment of the
    two girls in comparison to how she parented her bio
    children. Mary is not the one on trial. Her behavior
    could have contributed to a home where perhaps the
    abuse alleged could or might have taken place,
    The legal system will have to look at the family
    life as a whole, but what will find guilt or innocence
    is the credibility of the evidence or non credibility
    of the evidence. No one can really predict what
    the outcome of this case will be. The only thing
    that people can speculate on is their experiences
    with this family, and some of the unkind behavior
    Mary exhibited dealing with people on a personal
    level often not making sense and sometimes just
    puzzling and disturbing at the same time.
    The word hate is being mixed up with the word:
    Concern. The reasons can be read from the examples,
    as the heart of this case is really CONCERN for
    the girls being treated fairly and not trashed
    by their former family and their friends.
    People just want the girls to be on even footing
    with the accused, which means not labeling them
    mentally disturbed, liars, and worse.
    This is a heart wrenching case as many people knew
    these girls one way or another and feel they need to
    stand up for negative things they witnessed; and the
    horrible things the family as said about them since
    the allegations became public.
    Hope this clears up your perception of hate as apposed
    to the very strong CONCERN thay people feel they
    need to express.

  298. The girls would know if they were adopted or not as they would have been in on the process if they were old enough. Does someone feel comforable enough to just ask them. These girls are not vicious in any way and I'm sure wouldn't mind answering that question.

  299. The alleged abuse that the accused is standing trial
    for took place for almost half their lives; or maybe
    longer. It stands to reason that the girls were
    abused while being fst.children; and if they were
    indeed adopted it is more than likely they were
    abused as adopted children as well.
    Someone wrote on this blog that they believed
    only Misty was adopted and was told that they
    would never adopt Amber ( go back and read the entry
    to view what he said) I can't even repeat the
    horribly mean thing he said about not adopting Amber.
    If the court along with DCFS allowed only one sister
    to be adopted and not the other, I find that questionable
    and despicable as well as these two girls are sisters,
    and I would think the adoption of one and not the
    other would not be allowed. If it was allowed, it
    was terribly insulting to Amber and if true Amber
    than further suffered more indignity that they
    heaped on her her entire life. (she was not even
    a bridesmaid as Misty was when the older bio girl
    was married) Both girls were treated unfairly growing
    up, but Amber was treated without question even
    worse, suffering horrible things said about her
    in her presence that was cruel and horrible
    many times. (It makes you wonder what she had
    to endure in the privacy of the home)
    Amber's abuse verbally and mentally really stands
    on its' own as WHY the Gaskills have been vilified
    by many on this blog that witnessed the abuse
    and were sickened by it. Amber is a sweet kind girl
    but as sufferd so emotionally that she developed
    a speech impediment that the Gsaskills did not
    insist or go out of their way to make sure she
    was given the help that she needed other than what the
    school district provided. If Misty was adoplted and
    not Amber, I can not imagine how worthless Amber
    was made to feel and suffer. I really hope that is
    not what happened, but left to their own devices
    I totally see how cruel the Gaskills could be if
    they were allowed to adopt Misty and not Amber.

    Note to TRUE BLOOD: If you were both adopted I'm sure
    you will take legal action to take back your family
    name when you are able (not sure if you have been advised
    to wait until the trial is over. Only you two girls
    and the Gaskills know the truth.In any other NORMAL
    loving home the TWO of you (YOU ARE SISTERS NO LESS!)
    would have been adopted together, I really hope the
    Gaskills have been lying(who knows the truth of anything they say) as then at least you will be saved the trouble
    of legally freeing yourself from a name that is totally
    meaningless as we all know they never made the two
    of you a real part of the family which is shameful
    whether you were adopted or not.
    You girls are so strong and AMAZING for after everything
    you endured most of your lives you both do not have
    one UNKIND bone in your body. Stay strong and remember
    many of us who have known the two of you at some or
    all of your lives support and want you both to have
    a happy life filled with love that you both deserve
    being reunited with your family and relatives.
    One of your MANY SUPPORTERS

  300. Dear Rally:

    I am writing this email on behalf of the victims' and their family. In fact, I am family to the younger sister of these beautiful young, courageous women, Mistee and Amber. I am the Aunt of the younger sister who has been removed from the Gaskills home and Thank God is still not returned to this home as other children have. These girls were placed in this home after a terrible tragedy in their life – the loss of their father and a break down of their mother. There was no abuse going on in that family prior to the removal of the five (5) children of these parents. The mother, after the death of her spouse and the taking of her five children went into a depression and then went to treatment, got a job and a townhouse and began to attempt to rebuild her and her children's lives. Her three boys were sent to a different home and the girls were placed with the Gaskills. Mary Gaskill befriended the mother as a "Christian" woman who only wanted the best for the girls. When the mother worked hard to get her boys back as they were placed in visibly neglectful and abusive homes, Mary stood by telling the mother don't worry the girls are fine her they can stay with us as long as they need to. All the while attempting to convince the mother that she could not possibly take care of five children on her own and planning to have the mother agree to allow adopted of Mistee and Amber. When the mother got visitation with her boys, they were supervised at first through DCFS and she saw the boys were always in old tattered clothes, hair not washed or combed, dirty fingernails, etc. She mentioned this to the DCFS worker on several occasions to no avail, until one day at 2 a.m. she received a phone call from DCFS that the boys were being removed from that home. This type of situation happened on at least two occasions for the boys and ultimately they were going to split the boys up. That is when the mother began a strenuous campaign to get the boys returned ASAP. Conversely, when the mother had visitation with her girls, they were always dressed in beautiful clothes (passed from Mary's biological children) neat, clean and always attending church or church functions. From the outside appearances all seemed to be good for the girls and bad for the boys, two of whom are older than the girls and one who is in between in age. The girls were not allowed to spend time alone with the mother and therefore could not verbalize to her that Mary Gaskill was derogatory about their family, emotionally attacking their lineage and their self-esteem. All the while Mary would be encouraging the mother, I'm so proud of you, your doing so good. But how can you afford to take care of five (5) children and work? In fact, the mother worked hard to continue with therapy and raise her boys, while working nights as a forklift operator and/or dock supervisor. It was not easy, and she was being "dupped" by Mary Gaskill. My niece, the girls sister has suffered the same kind of emotional abuse and family bashing from Mary Gaskill. There is no way that any child should be returned to Mary Gaskill's care. She does not treat the children who she adopts or fosters with the same care that she treats her biological children and further, the biological children also follow "mom's example" and emotionally abuse the other children as well. When clothes are past down, statements like "those were my clothes first, if it weren't for me and my family you would have nothing." It hurts me to hear that these girls suffered this abuse on a daily basis as well as the abuse from Rob Gaskill.

  301. I want to thank all of the ANONYMOUS bloggers who are in support of my step-nieces. I only recently found out about this, how sad the biological family is the last to know. The mother was aware of this for sometime, but again is very depressed that the system has failed her and her family once again. She has had a long time battle with the system and often has felt victimized by the DCFS system. She feels that everyone of her kids has been victimized by the DCFS system and has suffered irreparable harm that they did not and would have suffered had DCFS not removed them from her care, but provided her with assistance such as they provide to these foster families to help her rebuild her life after the loss of her husband. It was not these children's faults that they suffered a tragedy liking losing their father and then having to be removed from their mother. They were young innocent children who loved their parents deeply and whose parents loved and adored them.

    I worked in the juvenile justice system in 1993 in the Public Defenders office, the attorneys who are appointed to help the parents. I thought this was an area of law that I might like to work in – what better way to be of service in the world than to be a part of helping restore struggling families be reunited and strengthened? Unfortunately, during my tenure there, I discovered that even though that is what the system was supposed to be doing, in practice they are all working independently focusing on the micro (their job) rather than the macro (their mission) to restore the family. DCFS workers make judgments of the biological parents as "being bad parents" before even hearing their stories. The minute they remove the child is not when the investigation is done, they investigate after removing the child. By that time, they have evaluated the living arrangements of a parents home, evaluated and questioned kids, sometimes neighbors or the report caller. DCFS has already written a report on these things prior to talking with the parents – and made their judgments. At that point, when the parent comes in, the caseworker is already biased against the parent and does give that parents stories much credibility. This is the situation that these young girls mother found herself in.

  302. Dear TJNEWS, I am so glad you were able to find this forum
    and read for yourself ( although painful
    I'm sure) all the sincere and insightful entries written in
    unwavering support of Mistee and Amber. People that have
    shared their individual negative and uncomfortable experiences
    that many personally and collectivly witnessed unfair
    and unwarranted abusive mistreatment of the girls over the
    years by the Gaskill family. The many examples given are no
    doubt heartbreaking for the girls mom and relatives like
    yourselves; as you have stated the BIOLOGICAL FAMILY tragically all to often due to the complete FAILURE and
    INCOMPETENCY of DCFS, as in this case with the girls, are
    the LAST TO KNOW. DCFS'S failed the girls on every level;
    from the time of placement and throughout their lives.
    If DCFS was truly competent and supervising the Gaskill
    home with unannounced visits; as well as giving the girls
    opportunities to speak privately with caseworkers as well
    as their own mom, the girls would have been spared the
    senseless suffering they were made to endure living with
    a so called "family" that MG reasured the girls mother
    that the girls were "FINE" and not to worry about them.
    .What would MG and her precious family do
    without the INCOME from the state each month do without
    that money coming in each month? MG and her selfish
    self and mind-set went to work on trying to convince the girls mom to allow the girls to be legally adopted.MG like the
    cunning and convincinig liar that she is, more than likely
    listed convincing reasons why the adoption would be a good idea
    as she could give the girls so much more and no doubt
    referenced the "PERFECT" meetings with the girls and their
    mom with the "PERFECT" outfits and that the girls were
    thriving and so "LUCKY" to be growing up in such a "PERFECT"
    Christian "Loving" home; always attending church and church
    activities. ) and every lie Mary deviously made up
    to plead her case as to why it would be so much "BETTER"
    for the girls and not DISRUPT their "PERFECT " lives. Sadly, everything MG told
    the girls mom was a total lie as well as the "Perfect"
    outwardly appearances of the girls on their visits with
    their mom. It really is sickening; but sadly the
    Gaskill family is not nor have ever been the people they wanted
    their community and especially their church community to
    believe who they really are.DCFS needs to take responsibility
    for their lack of stringent supervision and lack of protection
    of the girls having to live in the "PERFECT" home with the
    "PERFECT" family in a "PERFECT" house on a "PERFECT" block
    with a "PERFECT WHITE PICKET FENCE" with a path paved in
    gold that really does not EXSIST except in the "PERFECT"
    mind of MG and entire family; and so called Christian
    friends that have not yet faced reality and woken up from
    their sleep from what has been nothing but a "PERFECT"
    NIGHTMARE.
    Thank God you are all
    reunited and…..
    Happy Mother's Day MOM!

  303. Is there any concern out there that the two girls came together to report this so many years later? How is that kept a secret? I assume that no friends, teachers, doctors, case workers or other children in the house were never told. Was there any acting out sexually with the two girls after the alleged abuse. It's obvious that 99% of all who post here support the claims made by the two girls. Does any of the above make you wonder?

  304. Anonymous May 10: First, it is a free country and people can choose to support anyone they wish or stay out of it. People also have the right to disagree.

    Second, you are trying to convey a lot of false premises by saying that they reported this information late and together. Perhaps you just are not aware of the studies and statistics on child sex abuse. The best fact sheet is a 19 page pdf http://www.childabusesolutions.com/child_sexual_abuse_fact_sheet.pdf

    So let me address each of your questions since many will not want to read 19 pages.Your first question is about reporting this information years later and together. The fact sheet that is sourced with real studies says that delaying the reporting is common and that the AVERAGE time between cessation of child abuse and reporting is 12 YEARS. So, as for delay in reporting, this case could be classified as a quick report.It also states that 42% of women did not disclose their abuse until the survey which indicates that this is not a topic that people like discussing. It also states that 85.3% to 97% of perpetrators are by an adult that the child knows. So, that is another reason why support is high for the alleged victims in this case. This case is getting its day in court and everyone here will abide by whatever ruling that comes down.

    Next you assume that others did not know. I don't know where you are getting that from. Many commenters here who know them felt something was not right. Again I point back to the statistic that 42% of women don't disclose the abuse unless asked.

    You last question was about sexually acting out.There are short and long term psychological, behavioral and physical problems that CAN occur but not everyone who was sexually abused sexually acts out.

    Page 6 of the pdf, question 16 asks if children maliciously fabricate sex abuse allegations. Studies show that 0-2% of the time this happens.Anything is possible anytime and this case may fall into that category. That is why we have a court system in this country. He will get his day in court.

    Signs of child sex abuse trauma can be found at http://www.secasa.com.au/index.php/workers/17/44

    It most often involves self esteem, which is another reason why those that know them want to be in court to support.

  305. Hello~ Does anyone know how manipulated, frightened and literaly
    paraylized from the sheer terror of what these girls
    had to live with in a household that family dynamics
    were very dysfunctional and complicated; as the enviornment was abusive and the chief in charge no doubt terrifyied these girls their entire life while living in that house. These girls came forward because they were FINALLY FREE
    of this prison, and reclaimed their life; exposing the horrible
    abuse they suffered and no doubt articulated what their horrible
    childhood was like (which people can attest to and have and will continue to write to the state attorney office)that support
    what no doubt they described BEFORE this forum even exsisted.
    Why don't you unintelligent people read about what RALLY
    has posted that can not be disputed and is well researched
    and documented which I'm sure the prosecution attorneys know all too well as tragically they have had other RGS to prosecute
    when abused youg adults or older adults finally come forward
    to reclaim their life, face the accused, seek justice and
    finally take back the self esteem that was taken away from them;
    as it is very healing realizing it was never about you being
    a worthless human being, and not your fault in any way.
    Then and only then can you see clearly who is the worthless
    human being is and reclaim your life and self esteem and
    begin liking and even loving yourself
    and you will be able to live a healthy life trusting
    and being able to give love to others and have healthy
    relatioships that become possible because you valued
    yourself and bravely came forward facing the person that
    once had power over you and turning the tables and realize
    finally you are the one that has the power that you never
    had and you no longer a victim and you are finally FREE.

  306. Dear, TRUE BLOOD and FAMILY,
    I would like to take this time to wish
    your mom (who is nothing like the Gaskills said
    her) a VERY HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY. Mom of the girls,
    I read the two entries so well articulated by your
    sister-inlaw (I am assuming as she is the aunt of
    your other beautiful daughter) and I was so moved
    as you had the unfortunate experiences of actually
    speaking with Mary when you were seriously wanting
    to be reunited with your beautiful daughters;
    as you were able to do after what obviously
    was another living nightmare for you thanks to
    DCFS and their total broken system that would rather
    pay negligent and abusive parents (until something
    really horrible happens, like when DCFS called you
    at 2am in the morning and telling you they were
    removing your boys from the abusive and negligent
    home and seperating them as well. Thank God you
    were the MOMMA GRIZZLY BEAR and fought I'm sure
    a hard fought campaign and your dear boys are
    where they belong, with a mother without any
    help, made a life overcoming so many severe losses
    in your life; as circumstances of losing your
    huband with little children that you were so
    distraught and depressed that you needed time
    to heal fully so you could support them and be
    reunited with all of them and be the loving family
    that you so desperately wanted and God bless you
    worked very hard to achieve.
    There are no words to describe how being reunited
    with your precious children must feel;
    I am so emotional thinking about all of you as
    every mother knows ( even though we were not in your
    shoes) just how much you love your children,
    and I'm sure you will have the most joyous MOTHERS
    DAY EVER. GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU IN HIS CARE

  307. To the person that asked if the girls acted out sexually?
    Are you kidding?
    Are you totally in the dark about the strict rules the
    girls had to abide just to stay in good graces from MGS
    verbal as well as punative punishment ( such as the girls
    had to clean bathrooms scrub toilets, help with the other
    fst children an on and on and on?
    These girls could not snezze without MG knowing about it;
    and the question really is quite insulting and ignorant
    of facts that children that have been abuse are so fragile
    as they are carrying around a burden that if anything
    they will have to overcome with professional help to
    (when they meet Mr. Right) trust, and feel really loved
    and realize finally that they need to close that book
    in their life and put it so high out of reach.
    Like any emotional trauma (even reciving professional help)
    like any other tramatic experience in one's life it will
    open up the wound a bit; but they will know how to get it out
    of their mind and not let the trauma victimize them once again.
    None of this is going to happen overnight; and DCFS better
    provide professional psychological services by well qualified
    psycholgists that have treated these traumas that victims
    fom abuse or rape have to learn how to let go and develop'
    coping skills to help themselves if and when that wound
    opens especially in the first few years.
    Do you still want the question answered about these emotionally
    and psychological wounded girls "ACTING OUT" sexually in
    any way shape or form? Also,it is clear that you do not
    know these girls at all, because if you did you would not
    have shown how uneducated you are in tha area of child
    psychology and the very fragile nature of children that
    are sexually abused. Here is a tip for you, go to the
    library and do some reading in child psych as ell as
    sexual abuse of children as in this case suffered that
    and more in a house that they should have been removed
    and returned to their birth mother a lon g time ago.
    When you do some extensive reading then see if you need
    to ask such a ridicoulos and derogatory question about
    two girls that suffered something that you can not
    comprehend and that if it happened in your family you
    would be outraged at someone that is as ignorant as you.

  308. Hello -
    Thanks for the moderation and education on this thread. I found the information you provided about sex abuse very interesting especially “the fact sheet that is sourced with real studies says that delaying the reporting is common and that the AVERAGE time between cessation of child abuse and reporting is 12 YEARS.”

    Just wanted to thank you for this site and your efforts to bring attention to problems in the Child Welfare World.

    • Is there a reason there is no activity here or am I not accessing the website correctly.

      • You are accessing it correctly. Perhaps that there is no new information to share. Names and emails do not need to be shared to post

  309. TJNEWS, I don’t think it’s right to publicly bash the biological children. I don’t agree that it’s okay for comments like “if it weren’t for me, you wouldn’t have anything” to be made, but in the end siblings say things that are terrible at times and I’m sure those comments have been wildly exaggerated into something more than normal sibling fights. Cut the kids a break. You complain about your step-nieces being in a bad situation, so don’t put the other children in a bad situation by putting them down either. It’s not their fault that they were given things in their life that their siblings may or may not have been given (if that is the case). It certainly isn’t right, but it’s not their fault either. They most likely didn’t know any better. They are good people from the bottom of their hearts. I don’t know about Mary, but I know that’s true for her children. And we all have our flaws and moments of acting out of line and saying things that we shouldn’t. I’m sure everyone is guilty of that, including the victims. But this whole case is not about the relationship of the siblings, it’s about the parents (or parent, Rob, in particular).

    • Dear NAME and other bloggers
      I dont exactly know how my message was perceived as bashing the biological children. Children follow what their parents do a majority, of of the time. For example “swearing”, if parents use foul language at home on a regular basis, chances are the children will also swear habitually. So I was mentioned things that were said by the biological kids as an extension of MGS emotional abuse towards the girls.
      By the way, does anyone know that MGS has had 4 new children placed in her care? Also the girls were NEVER adopted but forced to use the Gaskill name in school, etc. Seems there is something illegal about that! MGS was also admonished in court by DCFS for her statements about the biological family to my neice in 2010. Its a matter of record that she bashed the girls family and tried to destroy the girls relationship with their biological family also. I have not heard personally on my email from any annonymous’ who can expound upon MGS treatment of the girls. Please contact me directly so that there can be no reprecussion toward you by MGS. As I state d earlier, I would like to get the girls proper representation. My e-mail is dreamingwolf711@juno.com. Thanks for supporting MISTEE and AMBER!

      By the way RALLY when is the June courtdate for RGS? All supporters of the girls would like to know.

      • The next court date that was published is a status hearing on June 19 at 930AM. I do not have access to the actual records to confirm that the date is still intact, unfortunately.

  310. Is there a way – we can confirm if the agency is still placing children in the Gaskill home.

    I know the 3 adopted were returned; but would it be possbile that 4 more children were place as stated by TjNew?

    Why would an agency ever place 7 unrelated siblings in one home? And with a single parent on top of that!

  311. How do we find out what happened in court today or when the trial begins?

    • Reporter, Casey Cora advises that the June 19 hearing was continued until July 2, and that he will be there. You can keep up with Casey at oakpark.patch.com.

  312. Is anyone able to comment on what occurred at the status hearing 19Jun?

    • We also would love to know as records are not searchable for this county in Illinois. It would not surprise me if there were many delays in this case.

  313. http://oakpark.patch.com/articles/another-status-hearing-set-for-robert-gaskill

    I think the defense will drag this out as long as possible, in hopes that the angry public will cool off and forget about it.

    • Thanks for keeping vigilant! I was posting our update 9 with this information as you were posting the comment. I am glad that they are publishing the next hearing date as I am sure most people who support the girls were unaware of the July 2 status hearing and that is why there was the support of Robert.

    • The girls will never forget what happened to them. Their families will not forget what they went through with the Gaskill family. The public may cool off or lose interest as this may end up taking a long time to see justice served, but I personally vowed to see this through all the way to the end and that is what I am going to do. The girls need continued support they have a long road ahead of them and hopefully their will be support for their families also. The next court date is set for Aug. 29th. Please be there for them I know it meant alot to them as I was able to talk breifly with them after the last time they were in court.
      Mrs. F. N.

  314. Growing up in Arizona our next door neighbor must have fostered 18 to 20 foster children over the years. All of them teenage boys. Once I asked the old man why he only fostered boys.

    He told me that it wasn’t worth the trouble to foster teenage girls. “One accusation of inappropriate behavior, no matter how ridiculous, and I will lose everything.”

    I used to think he was just kind of paranoid. Now I see he is wiser than I ever imagined.

    I’m a healthcare provider and my worst nightmare would be having to face down a false accusation.

    • Joe, I do not know what your neighbor’s story has to do with anything in this case. These 2 girls have alleged 13 YEARS of abuse (that would mean it started when they were ages 3 and 5)That is not “one accusation.” He didn’t start fostering them when they were teens. He HAS been indicted by a grand jury who heard evidence that must have met a threshold. Please read all of the comments and the backstory on this man. Community members are saying that they still had a sibling in the home that they were worried about, supposedly one of the two foster children removed from the home after the arrest.

    • so false accusations could only come from “female” foster children?
      It would be terrible, terrible if these were false accusations against Gaskill, but it appears there was enough evidence for the grand jury to indict and also let’s not forget that he admitted to guilt when initially charged.

  315. Dear Joe:
    I know that false accusations could be devestating, however, it would be a terrible tragedy to not believe a child over a grown human being who should know better. Children do not have the capacity to be that vicious without cause. Just look at the accusations and then guilty verdict of Mr. Sandusky, who claimed his innocence until the end. Look at his victims, grown men who were unable to cope with or maybe even internalize what happened to them under the care of a program designed to assist them have “fuller richer lives” than their parents could. When these things happen to children, they may be so young that they do not “know the wrongful actions of adults taking care of them”. These girls were so young when they were placed in the care of the Gaskills, I don’t believe they knew it was something terrible being thrust upon them. Psychologically, it takes years for the realization and then the trauma begins to overwhelm them after they realized this was so wrong. This is true of all children, boys and girls who are sexually molested at a young age not just Mistee and Amber. As a health care provider, you must have been counseled to have a nurse or assistant in the room when examining teenage girls for their protection and yours. Its seems now we should have the same protections for teenage boys!

  316. when is next court date?

  317. I don’t see where in any of the articles it says he confessed. It says the cop “says” he confessed but it DOES NOT say they have any written or audio proof. Now I’m no lawyer but I am a smart person who knows cops can and will lie to get you to say things. Where is the proof he confessed? You cannot just assume someone is guilty before being proven guilty! If anything I’ve seen how corrupt the justice system is and most times I’ve witnessed people who w